A little background into my situation. I?ve been a member for a while and have posted and commented from time to time. Like a majority of you I didn?t understood this CD thing and thought I could hide/control it. I met my wife in college and thought the CD life was over. I started to dress about 8 yrs into our marriage and told her. She tried to accept and I went to counseling and ultimately she could not accept it so I said what we all say ?I?ll stop? and I purged all the things. I did stop and was honestly trying to not dress and I did for about 5-6 yrs. One day I asked about buying boy shorts because they dry quicker than boxers or so I told myself and then I purchased the Hanes men string bikinis. She saw them and thought they were women?s and saw a floral print of boy shorts and confronted me. I?ve also lost about 80 lbs, and shave my legs now. I wear Bath & Body Works lotion on my legs and have a few women?s shorts and shirts. We've been going to counseling and she has come to understand that this isn?t going away. She is dealing with me wearing the panties, and the fact I?m a completely different person than who she married. Her biggest fear is that people will find out and it would adversely effect our family. We have a lot of good things about our marriage but, this might be too much for her. Any thoughts or advice for either of us? Obviously telling her at the start would have been ideal but I can?t go back in time.