In DADT, except for the times things blow up due to crossdressing. I try very hard to be kind to my wife and support her wishes, hoping someday she will just accept the part of me that is feminine.
The other day, I was bending over the bottom freezer checking for things as I was going to the grocery store. She walks up behind me and says I need to make sure I am careful at the store if I bend over as people will see my hot pink underwear. It didnt even come across as nasty which is her normal reaction to anything CDish. I may be reading too much into it, but I am hoping that she might just someday relent and be a little more comfortable with it. Coming up on 50 years of marriage soon. Always the optimist!