I will just say this from what I?ve read. Your wife seems to be set in her thinking that she?s going to get what she wants regardless. What I see if you purge all your clothing ?I?ve purged on my own 5 times total over 40 years and it came back with a vengeance every time. No telling how much money totally I spent adding in the thousands buying same things again and again? What I see here is you going shopping with her picking out beautiful outfits for her and you?ll end up wearing her clothes then sneaking ??tis time around. It won?t end well. I?m sorry if I?ve hurt your feelings just saying from my own experience you should get counseling with or without your wife. We?ve all been there with purging and all the other that goes with it. It?s an addiction that?s to me worse that alcoholic, drug addict or smoker etc. some or all of them can be quit but crossdressing cannot. This is my opinion along with therapist I?ve seen throughout the years. It?s engrained in out souls. Please at least for your own sanity see a therapist and talk about this with them honestly and don?t leave anything out. It?s therapist patient confidentiality so talking to them won?t go any further unless you talk outside his/her office about what you say in private. Good luck and may God Bless you and your wife.