Small win

[Bea_]

I don't do girl. I do femme man. Yesterday i had a therapy session and have been going dressed on the femme side of androgyny to my sessions for a while now. I use the opportunity to do a bit of exposure therapy by stopping by a coffee shop close to the therapist's office and going inside dressed in something femme. Yesterday, i went in in a fairly stealth mode with my femme top covered by an oversized sweatshirt. But, for that trip I decided to just own the pearls I was wearing and pulled them from under the sweatshirt collar. I was also wearing some overdone eyeshadow and mascara (I didn't realize how overdone the eyeshadow was until after the fact). Oh well...

I was wearing women's black skinny jeans with black knee highs and an ankle bracelet. Definitely not over the top, but definitely not typical male. I get to the counter and a twenty-something male barista took my order. As I was paying he told me "I love the pearls. You're really rocking them." It made my day.

[Crissy 107]

Definitely a win, a good win, funny how things like that can make one’s day!
Thanks for posting this

[Andie]

Solid win.

[Maria 60]

That's always great to get that compliment and very confident of you to dress partially fem, I respect your courage. A few years back I drove to a drive through coffee shop with my fem stuff under. I thought I covered up well but then the girl at the window complimented me on my necklace, I looked down to see it exposed. I thought to myself was that girl at the window because being of a new generation did she really like the necklace or was she just being polite. Not answering my own question I decided to except the positive reaction instead of anything negative and it did feel good.
I would say about ten years back if not longer myself and a co-worker were sitting on a sidewalk curb waiting for someone to open a door outside a building. We both instantly heard the sounds of heels coming, as the sound came closer we seen these amazing pair of legs and as we looked up we seen all male. I believe I was so impressed with his legs and most of all his confidence and courage and I probably wouldn't have sad anything to a women walking by but for some reason I felt as if this person deserved a compliment for his efforts. When he passed I told him "nice legs buddy" and this is very out of character for me to do something like that. He had a lot of confidence and he looked me straight in the eye and with a smile thanked me. My co-worker told me he thought it was nice and it didn't cost me anything to pay that guy a compliment and probably made his day. The part you made me realize with this post is I complimented him and he wasn't trying to be a woman he was presenting the way he wanted to and I believe that's why I gave him the compliment, I respected that and I believe thats what you heard from that barista, a lot of respect, and just like that guy rocked that mini skirt you rocked that necklace.
That's what I believe I hope you feel the same.

[Bea_]

Maria, It's nice that the guy was able to look you in the eye and say thanks. Unfortunately, in yesterday's situation I was in middle of trying to figure out the coffee shop's card reader and the compliment caught me off guard. I was still looking down as I said thank you, but tried to show appreciation for the kind words.

I've been toying with adding pearls to my regular daily drab presentation. I saw a documentary years ago about a guy who practiced yoga as a lifestyle. In the video he had on a string of pearls all the time. This was years before my dressing began but i've wanted to wear pearls since.

[bridget thronton]

Pearls are good (I love wearing mine - I should try to wearing them in boy mode once in a while)