Excrement Test?

[Tricia Lee]

There's this thing called an "S" test, where 'S' is the four letter cuss word that starts with "S". Specifically, the one that is a synonym for excrement lol. Google the phrase if unfamiliar?

As a guy back out in the dating world after nearly 30 years of marriage I'm quite familiar with those tests. But I've always been on the receiving end. I've learned how to recognize them from women and pass them

Well Saturday night I was out looking all cute at this massive Halloween party. I kind of got pushed in to a conversation with a guy I wasn't looking to have. But pretty quickly I found myself launching an 'S' test myself! I didn't do it intentionally, and didn't realize I had done it until later. But that's what it was.

He did not pass... lol.

[Suzie Petersen]

There is a test? No sh..!

[Christie ann]

Is this a pass/ fail exam or do you give a grade?

[kimdl93]

I have lived a sheltered life. I googled it and still have no idea.

[Geena75]

Write me off as another innocent. I have no idea what you're talking about.

[Crissy 107]

Ok, count me in with Kim and Geena

[Tricia Lee]

There is a test? No sh..!

Yes. Exactly! lol


Wow you girls are sheltered!

We can't use swear words here. We can't even just put dashes in place of some of the letters. I probably won't even get by with this...

Substitute the four letter cuss word that starts with an 'S' in for its synonym "excrement". Then google that kind of test. It's a thing that happens in the dating world. It's widely discussed and worth knowing about.

Anyway, I though it was funny when I realized I'd done that exact thing the other night. It was way more fun than being on the receiving end of that kind of test.

[docrobbysherry]

I'm 80. So, I've had my s tested several times. I can tell u that fishing around in the bowl and sealing the bit in a tube and mailing it to the lab is NOT a fun experience!

In fact, it's downrite s-----y!

[AmyJordan]

Hi Tricia

I'm completely baffled is this an American thing?

Amy x

[TheHiddenMe]

The GG friends I've met while being Dee have had a lot of negative experiences with guys and the dating scene (friend: "Men are a-holes". Me: "True Dat."). So I'm not surprised you might have had a negative experience from a guy while out, but it would be useful if you shared more details.

I think women are more receptive to me out dressed (I think Sandi Beech would agree) than I would from being a middle aged guy in the same environment, because women constantly need to have their guard up.

[char GG]

Seems to be some confusion as to what this thread is about. Maybe you can give some clarification.

[GaleWarning]

I, too, have no idea. And I have done a bit of online dating in my time.

[Philipa Jane]

Colour me confused as well.
I did look it up and I still have no idea where this would be useful.

[Karen Wilder]

Best explanation I can find.

Another label, without having to resort to vulgarity, is to say one is “baiting a response”.

We test the reaction of others by bring up a situation or making a comment to see if the reaction is within our tolerance of what we might expect or actually want from the other.

As this is often done within a sense of feeling insecure about a situation or relationship, we might suggest that this is done by someone who is in a position to actuallyfeel insecure. Its common in some cultures that a man might be expect to provide a sense of security in a relationship whereas a woman's position might be more in caretaker or companion. That’s not the case in all cultures, or even within any culture, but if so, the a woman might often bait the man (or a BFF) to get responses to “see where they stand” in the relationship.

A man or woman might prefer the other to be a bit jealous at time to notice the other to pay more attention to the one baiting. If so, then, if a woman, let's say, then she might try to be seen talking to another man, a waiter, staff worker, whomever, not out of interest, but to illicit a jealous response from her beau.

Or one might say something contradictory to their opinion, such as, “I don't think a man should pay for dinner on a first date”, even when she expects him to do so, and then see what the response is to test if he might agree or disagree.

To some this can be described as “a trap”or “luring”.

It's a variation of humility as well, in some circumstances, when one might suggest they don't need or want something, when in reality, they definitely want that very thing -- “Dont worry about me. You go have fun with your friends. I'll just stay home by myself” is code for “You better bring me along or I'll be mad at you!.”

It's an age-old passive -aggressive means of testing another to see how they react, so you might feel more in control or more apt to make decisions regarding the relationship. This often backfires in the long run, as you are constantly being deceptive and manipulative in order to achieve what you would like to call an “honest and open“ relationship.

[Connie D50]

Wow I can't wait to see what this means. Maybe give us a example of a small conversation. The above reply wasn't there when I did mine lol.

[Shelly Preston]

I think is could be described as a "Suitability Test"

I had never heard of this. However its seems like a way to filter out people who they don't was to date.

It not new just a new description.

[VS Fan]

https://thepowermoves.com/####-tests/ replace the #### with the actual S word, and it gives a decent explanation.

In short: A ####-test is a premeditated social challenge set up by a man or a woman, but usually a woman, to test and assess the target’s reaction to the social challenge.

Basically it's a way for women to size you up....

[BLUE ORCHID]

There is a test? No sh..!

L O L , >Orchid**OO**

[CDMargret]

Ever have that dear in the headlights feeling...

[Geena75]

OK, I'm a fan of old movies. If you've ever seen "To Have and Have Not" starring Bogart and Bacall, you've seen it done. Walter Brennan's character Eddie would ask people "Was you ever stung by a dead bee?" If they blew him off, he knew not to engage them in conversation. Only Bogart and Bacall gave the right answer, "No, have you?" which told him they were all right. That was his version of the s@#% test.

[Tricia Lee]

https://thepowermoves.com/####-tests/ replace the #### with the actual S word, and it gives a decent explanation.

In short: A ####-test is a premeditated social challenge set up by a man or a woman, but usually a woman, to test and assess the target?s reaction to the social challenge.

Basically it's a way for women to size you up....

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This!


Sorry for all the confusion lol. I thought it was a more commonly known phrase. I've watched a lot of dating-related youtube content over the last few years, and this s-test thing is a common topic of discussion for men learning how to relate to women.

The basic idea is that when a man is trying to get to know a woman, she will inevitably say something negative to him. As the definition below says, it's often subconscious even. It's done to see how the man will respond to to something negative. There are good responses and bad responses, and the response allows the woman to evaluate the man's relationship potential.

[Stephanie47]

I thought a woman's intuition was able to size a guy up for potential. I suppose there is an all encompassing word that men use to size up a woman: Something akin to hair color.

[NancySue]

I?m with the group of ?what?? I asked my wife what she thought and she also had never heard of it, but we agree with Karen. It sounded like what we called ?baiting?. Her definition of baiting seems to fit Karen?s. I also look at baiting as a form of a challenging set up, a provocation kind of test. It?s fun to learn new things.

[Cheryl T]

Sorry, I searched and found a few articles, read them and am still confused as to the Test.
Glad I'm not in that realm anymore.

[Sandi Beech]

I am not sure that is the typical application of the saying. Since you already stated you had no intentions to have a conversation with him in the first place, you would not be in the position of sizing him up, right? My guess is your sub conscience was looking for a way to make him go away, rather than sizing him up. Just guessing here.

It happens to me as well. The funny thing is one time I had a GG ask me if I wanted her to make some guy go away. It?s not always as subtle as the test.

Sandi