Pink Fog Since Getting Caught

[Amy Randal]

Six weeks or so since she caught me. Everything between us is great. I am blessed with an understanding wife. One change for me is the pink fog has gone into high gear. My girl clothes, makeup, wigs, jewelry and stuff are all in my closet and drawers instead of hiding in the attic. So much easier to dress and I see my girl things even when I am getting ready in male mode. There is a feeling of freedom and euphoria that wasn?t there before. Happy girl here! Has anyone else experience this after your spouse found out?

[Genifer Teal]

She gave you an inch, don't take a mile. I mean that seriously. I don't know you're exact situation. She's going along with it, but she still may be making up her mind at how she feels about it. Take it slowly and keep checking to make sure she's on board.

You've had lots of time to be okay with it and understand your situation. She's just heard of it and just figuring out what she thinks of it, trying to determine what it all means. Don't make her regret giving the okay or whatever she said. She needs to remain the priority and the excitement in the marriage. Don't let her think this puts her a second.

[kimdl93]

I recall a similar feeling when I finally came completely out to my SO. It’s fair to say that I went a bit overboard, dressing at every opportunity. (That may be the understatement of the past decade.) Once that lid had been removed, the desire to dress boiled over. The long term consequences were, lets say, not good.

So my thought is, please enjoy the freedom, but don’t over do it. Your wife may still be working through her feelings. Do what you can to reassure her and giver her reasons to feel positive and confident in your relationship.

[Kris Burton]

I wasn't caught, it was my choice to come out, but I certainly understand the euphoria you feel Amy. My wife is fully supportive too, even participatory up to a point. Still, I am very judicious about my CD time and clothing. I don't want to push the issue too far, even though it is constantly on my mind. I see that as positive also, as the restrictions I have placed on myself in this area have gone far into keeping me grounded and balanced.

[docrobbysherry]

Not a chance in heck!

No interest in my young family finding out!

However, after my ex and I separated and she took the the kids part time, I had the house to myself 3 to 5 days every week.

Now, THAT is what I call euphoric freedom!

[Bea_]

I expressed my wish to wear panties before I began wearing them. My wife bought me a selection to start my collection and I remember the euphoria. Since then, we kinda found out what my taste would grow into together. There's been a few one-step-forward/two-step-back periods and we've settled into a sort of truce. It's definitely not DADT but she keeps any negative comments to a minimum. I try to respect her sensibilities, but i don't hide either. The biggest compromise for me is that I stay more private with my taste than I would if I didn't know she'd be embarrassed or worse if others knew. Where I'm at now is less euphoric than trying to avoid dysphoria.

[Fiona_44]

I am glad you situation has worked out well. I do though urge you to go slow and stay within the boundaries set by you both.

[DianeT]

Sorry, still looks more like a fantasy than actual facts.

[Georgia Rose]

My wife picked up there was a bit of a difference in me after she had been away for a number of months assisting one of our children and family. I confessed up and she was more curious than angry. However my stuff was still hidden away. Over time everything has come out in the open (within our household) and my wardrobe holds my girl stuff alongside my guy stuff. However I would say the best route even with an accepting partner/spouse is to take it slowly and see how the situation develops over time.

[CarlaWestin]

Amy, now is the time to actually judge her level of acceptance. You've introduced female competition into the relationship from a source she never imagined.
Maybe you don't have to keep things in the attic anymore but just remember that you are the man in the relationship and she is the woman.
She will appreciate your considerations to her perceptions more than how you look in a dress. Allow her curiosity to be the guide as the pink fog can be dangerously intoxicating.

[audreyinalbany]

I think its fairly common to have a sort of rebound reaction after having had to keep our crossdressing secret for so long. I also think unless you are transgender, it tends to equilibrate over time

[Jillcder]

Sounds like the perfect scenario caught Crossdressing and end up with an understanding wife how lucky!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Amy , Just be careful and don't Overwhelm her, >Orchid**OO**

[Debbie Denier]

Be careful out there Amy and take it easy as others have advised.

[Aroara Xanthemae]

My wife fought me earlier this year and has accepted it and at that point all I had was black panties and nylons and a couple dresses and petty coat all black now I have a big collection of pink and red dresses and nylons and panties and she has been ok with it and even buys random skirts and dresses for me I love her so much I hope it goes as well for you

[Heather76]

I have but one comment/question. Since you've been a CD.com member since 2006, how on earth were you able to keep your wife in the fog (pun intended) for at least 18 years? Of course, I'm only assuming you've been married this entire time which could be incorrect. Anyway, as others have mentioned, take it slow and please have conversations with your wife as you move forward.

[Amy Randal]

I was very careful. I kept my clothes hidden, went out when she or I were out of town, only dressed when I had a safe opportunity. I had a couple close calls when she found a bottle of my foundation in the car and a pair of my jeans, but I played I didn’t know and someone must have left them there. It’s a lot better now that she knows. She is an amazing and understanding woman.

[Cacique82]

Once I told my wife it was a weight lifted. I was able to fully enjoy it.

[Chelsea B]

She gave you an inch, don't take a mile. I mean that seriously. I don't know you're exact situation. She's going along with it, but she still may be making up her mind at how she feels about it. Take it slowly and keep checking to make sure she's on board.

You've had lots of time to be okay with it and understand your situation. She's just heard of it and just figuring out what she thinks of it, trying to determine what it all means. Don't make her regret giving the okay or whatever she said. She needs to remain the priority and the excitement in the marriage. Don't let her think this puts her a second.

Spot on Genifer! Same experience here.

[Sabine Janus]

Involve her if she is willing.

We tend to support what we help make.

[Stephanie47]

I have to agree with Genifer. Sometimes it appears one has been given the green light and a wife is overwhelmed by her husband's interests, resulting in a 180 degree turnaround.

[Veronica Lacey]

Having disclosed to my wife very early in our relationship there was never that feeling of euphoria over not having to hide my wares any longer; was more a relief that she knew about this part of my personality and still wanted to be with me. THAT was an incredible feeling.

Since then having the majority of my wardrobe accessible without hiding it in difficult to access places...yes, that is certainly a nice feeling.

[Joanie CD]

Heather76, I can be done. I had been married for about 38 or 39 years before my wife found out, after I accidentally left behind a skirt out that I meant to take on an out of town trip. Prior to that , I had always been extremely careful, with good hiding places, and only dressing when my wife and I were away from each other. Fortunately, she is one of the one-in-a-million, and has be uber-supportive. Best of luck, Amy, but as most of the other comments have said, take it slow with your wife. Make sure she knows that she's more important than dressing. Even though my wife is very open-minded and supportive, I always reassure her that her needs come first, and any time she's tired of me dressing for a few days or doesn't want me to dress at a certain place or time, all she has do do is tell me, and no hard feelings on either side.

[Amy Randal]

It's been about three months since she found out. I have been following advice from some of you and not being too open about it. She hasn't said a thing about it since week one. Everything is going good with us. Do bring it up or should I just leave it be.