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    Does lack of sex increase the crossdressing needs?

    I am not sure if this has been already discussed or not, but here we go...

    I have noticed that when I am having sex with my wife in a regular basis, my need to dress as Tamara drops substantially.

    But when we have long periods without intimacy (For whatever reason), Tamara comes back with a vengeance!!!

    Do any of you gurls go through the same, or is it just me?

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    For me - no.

    I have regular relations with my wife and with ... myself ... and my dressing/desire to dress stays the same.

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    My boyfriend and I have sex on a regular basis and it only *increases* the desire to dress given I wear lingerie to bed almost every night.

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    For me, nothing that I have noticed. Seems pretty consistent.
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    No, certainly not. Crossdressing ceased to be a method of or a replacement for having sex a long time ago. I would rather say that having a regular crossdressing experience increases my sexual arousal and need.
    If it makes you happy / It can't be that bad
    If it makes you happy / Then why the hell are you so sad?

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    For me there was a direct connection.
    When we were first married and had kids.
    I had very little to no desire to dress.
    As my wife's desire faded, the desire I had to dress became
    increasingly greater. She eventually became an ex-wife, not
    caused by the crossdressing, It was 1000% her personality that
    ended the relationship. It could have been a Hallmark movie.
    the events over the years, OMG Makes me shake my head.

    Anyways back to the point. After our seperation, My dressing became a daily thing.
    My minds was so much calmer, being away from the stress of the marriage
    and being able to dress like I prefer,

    Now because of meds and other reason. I am not intimate with any woman.
    I relax in my prefered dressing style every day.

    So fo me yes it is absolutely connected
    my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress

    "Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"

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    I have really never thought about it so I assume that there is no connection for me.

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    I believe there is a connection for me. I am not sure of the causes, but my wife has not been intimate with me for many years. Sometimes, I thought maybe the crossdressing had turned her off, but I stopped for several years and it made no difference. The other factors are menopause and her body image, having gained a lot of weight.

    I know that an active sex life reduces my pink fog a bit. Doesn?t eliminate it but can reduce its intensity. These days it?s pretty thick as a result.

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    Tamara, it makes a difference in how u finish your dressing sessions!

    If u simply take your clothes off when you're done I'm not sure why lack of sex with your SO makes u dress more?
    Last edited by docrobbysherry; 12-31-2024 at 01:16 AM.
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    Ahhh, No.
    Current Obsession - Breasts and Lingerie!

    .......My Photos

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    No not at all.

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    Not for me! But my desire to dress does seem to increase if I am feeling stressed...

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    My desire to dress does fluctuate but I can't correlate it with my sex life. Not a lot of data to be had.

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    There is a connection for me. The desire does increase if it's "been a while".

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    It has no effect on my need to dress.
    Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".

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    I wrote about this a while ago. I have to go back and try to remember the reason but I believe I was about to do something with high risk with my dressing. My wife told me that we had to have sex so I won't do anything stupid. I believe after the sex she was right and I didn't do what I was intending on doing. So for me I believe it matters and makes a difference in my dressing

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    If your crossdressing has a sexual driver (even if it may not be the only driver), it makes sense that less sex with your SO increases the need for this outlet.

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    For me, my mind subconsciously represses the GID when everything else in my life is going well, so the need to crossdress is kept in the background most of the time. It's what I experienced in my twenties and early thirties, when I didn't crossdress or even think about it for over ten years. It was only when I lost my job, had to take another for less than half the salary, then add in going back to school, and wifey getting increasingly critical of me, that the crossdressing urge came back with a vengeance.
    So; introduce any kind of stress, at some point the mind cannot repress it any longer, and the need to crossdress comes front and center into consciousness. And it might not take much additional stress; if you're already dealing with several other thing, all you need is 'the straw that broke the camel's back' type of thing to push you over the edge.

    For the computer nerds; look at it as diminishing resources to the point where the processor is working at maximum already, memory is all in use, the machine is thrashing the fixed disk trying to move all the bits about in the page file, and then adding in too many additional tasks, and soon you're at the 'blue screen of death', and have to reboot to escape the frozen up machine.
    Last edited by sometimes_miss; 12-31-2024 at 06:35 AM.
    Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
    There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
    Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.

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    No, not at all.
    Either way my desire to be me remains the same.
    I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !

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    At my age and the fact we've been in a sexless marriage for 17 years due to medical issues, my 4 1/2 years of Xdressing has nothing to do with sex other than I enjoy dressing like the fairer sex.
    It's never too late to enjoy a happy childhood.
    Live each day as though it's your last 'cause one day you'll be right.
    I'm finding the more feminine side of me...and I ❤️ this adventure.

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    For me, I feel that there is a very strong correlation to having sex and my dressing. When we are in our intimate cycles I rarely underdress or even feel the need. When we're not, I often find the need to be much more feminine.

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    For me it is all about the cloths. I just love to wear what the gals wear. I do know circumstances that come along in life had reduced the amount of dressing I do.

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    I've gotten on in years now, but back in the day where there was more of a sexual component to my dressing I worried that it subtracted sexual energy from our relationship. There isn't much sexual energy our relationship now and there only occasionally is in my crossdressing

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    I am, newly remarried and am having more sex than I had for more than five years. I am married to a woman who enjoys and encourages my cross dressing. But I don't have an answer as to whether its really correlated to sex. I enjoy feminine expression in many forms'

    At seventy four, I'm still exploring what it means to be myself.
    I am a vessel of the goddess. Let me express my calling to a feminine life through nurturing love and relatedness.

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    Definitely not for me. Lucky to be married a very long time and maintained a healthy relationship in bed. Keeping my female underwear on increases the mood.

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