Im sure it was asked here before but I'm just wondering how you choose your fem name, is it the fem version of your male name. Did someone pic it out for you or was it a name you just liked. For myself I would go clothes shopping with my wife and she would hold up something fem and ask me if I wanted it. I was more uncomfortable with that situation back then but not as much now, but at that time I told her it felt a little uncomfortable her asking me that out loud. So the next time we went out she just asked if I thought Maria would like it.
It wasn't a name I would have chosen but my wife just said I remembered her of a Maria when I was dressed. Coming from her I respected it and kept it.