Traditional female roles

[BLUE ORCHID]

As my Wife has been on O2, 24-7 for 7 years now, We are both in our 80's ,her Breathing problems has me taking on so much more of the choirs.

I do what ever i can to make her life better, She still does the Cooking & Bowls Duckpins once a week, She is worn out when she gets Home.

I just finished changing the Bed Sheets, We are two Months from our 62nd Anniversary,

[NancySue]

Many moons ago, before we walked the aisle, we spent many enjoyable hours just chatting. We?re both first borne, with very traditional midwestern families. It?s during one of these talks that, with great trepidation, I told her of my little hobby. Actually, she was kinda fascinated and didn?t see any problems (whew). During our working years, we had no problem regarding who did what. I?d occasionally cook, she?d occasionally mow the grass. It worked for us. If it ain?t broke, etc. In retirement, things haven?t changed. We pretty much help each other. Get ?er done is our call, then play, rest, etc.

[Maria 60]

I got a taste of it last week. I mentioned before that my wife got into a bad car accident years ago when our children were young. I instantly stepped up and took over the household, she's much better now but has her days. Last week my wife brought her parents and Uncle and aunt to visit a very sick elderly relative in a hospital in our downtown of our city. She called me and told me she was running late and to order some pizza for them. I know that older generation dont like take out food so I made a pasta dish, veal cutlets, vegetables and salad. If you know any traditional European men they have no idea what's in a refrigerator and have no idea how to turn on a stove. My mother in law literally takes his clothes out every morning and puts them on his bed to wear for that day and if she goes out for the day he will literally starve.
When they got back and finished eating instead of some appreciation for cooking for them her uncle makes a cheep comment to me that I'll make a good wife for someone one day HA HA HA! Then asked his wife he she has a skirt my size to give to me. I took it on the shoulder and laughed and I cleaned the table and made coffee for them. The mother in law then tells me that my wife feels better these day and in case I didn't notice she has arms and legs and not to spoil her like I'm doing. She believes her daughter, my wife is milking it and that women don't appreciate anything they just take advantage. The funny part is this is coming from a women. I told her my wife just drove 2 hours in traffic and she could use the break. After they left I told my wife the comment her uncle and mom made and she said her mothers just jealous because my father in law never helped her around the house. One would think a mother would be happy that there daughter found a husband to help her. Boy do I ever know about female roles and how others view when men do them.
How can't I help my wife for everything she does for me, especially all the support for my crossdressing.

[Brenda Freeman]

My wife and I decided when we had children that she would take care of the house, cooking etc. I Worked a job that had me on call alot so regular hours + a lot of after hour surprises. When I finally retired kids out of the house I wondered what is my wife retiring from? So I took on more of the cooking, laundry etc. We seem to have struck a nice balance and enjoy our own activities plus sharing time together.

[HollyGreene]

My wife comes from a fairly remote village in an Eastern European country where they still have "traditional" gender roles. It's like they are still in the 1950s.
So she thinks it's her responsibility to do the cleaning and laundry, and does most of it.
However, she's not a very good cook, and I am particularly good at cooking, so I do most of that, but it has no connection with my dressing - I have always enjoyed it.

[DianeT]

Not being misogynistic here, but at least here in the USA the push is still alive and well as to traditional female roles. Being women do the cooking and cleaning men are the bread winners. Right, wrong, whatever, it?s still very much what is.

Btw, cave women were breadwinners as much as cave men. Recent advances in science show that hunters were selected not based on gender but competency, and that women had genetics and a metabolism that favored endurance (they could run longer than men) and efficiency (running the same distance with less energy than men, thanks to... the swaying of their hips), a decisive advantage in hunting where the key is to track for extended hours and distances (https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/67511097.amp). And in nature, examples abound where genders roles aren't so partitioned as your examples and often quite opposite (see Emperor penguins where the male protects the egg, lions where the male protects the family as an expendable asset while the lionesses hunt in packs). So the "traditional female roles" aren't any natural, and these "traditions" aren't any traditional as soon as you look beyond a very recent past prehistorically and historically speaking. Let's not forget that most of history and science literature was written by men with a male point of view, and for a very long time. Women were overshadowed and their contributions often ignored (a modern example with ADN https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-023-01313-5), but their contributions remain, and they were decisive for humanity.
As transgenders we should be proud of course to try to imitate, and for some of us, to try and live up to, such powerful beings.

[Rochal Tukque]

Culture here is the driving factor. That is exactly why I said right, wrong, or whatever. At the time my sister became an airline pilot companies could actually state a very misogynistic reason. They told her in writing she was to tall and her breasts were not big enough to be a flight attendant! So she called their bluff and applied for flight training. It was hell in a male dominated industry. I worked in my mom?s sewing and really enjoyed it. That stigma followed me all through high school. How many men get weird about about hanging around the women?s underwear section in a store. Culture, culture, culture. I?m not on anybody?s liberation wagon. I simply found my attracted to some of those cultural female roles. Opps. Definitely not looking to debate the science it just not that serious of a question.
Hugs Rochal

[susants]

I do all the household chores now that I;m retired . When I worked it was about 50/50
It seams to me that I always enjoyed them more so now i do all now always dressed but sometimes