A deal-beaker ~ (divorce ~ breakup) what is?
I've been married and divorce only once. That was fifteen years ago. At the time the ex left, I was the kind of husband that picked up the kids from the sitters, took them home, helped them and checked their homework, got supper started, got the clothes out of the dryer, got another load started in the washer ~ got the kids their baths, etc. The wife worked and my attitude was housework was whoever hit the backdoor first? I usually got home before the wife. The wife worked ~ but since I earned enough to cover all the expenses ~ the wife worked only for "her money" I didn't cheat, run around with other women ~ lay out in the clubs with the fella's, drink up, gamble away the rent ~ grocery money, etc. Never laid a hand on her, (sorely tempted to grab her by the shoulders and shake the ever~living H**l out her a couple of times!)
When I got the divorce papers, all I could get out her (and to this day still the same) was that I had to change ~ and that I was a workaholic. My CD'ing by relative compassion was mild and insignificant and periodic ~ if not spasmadic. I really was attempting to walk the walk ~ and talk the talk the role that I was cast to play.
So, the question comes to my mind ~ if CD'ing isn't a "deal breaker" what is?