Sheena and Sheena's wife,
For both of you!! The fact that you are both actively seeking information shows me that you do love each other very much!! The fear of the unknown, and what you can do about it, is a very strong, strong emotion. A short 18 months ago, I didn't know anything much, let alone that my loving husband had battled with this for 50 years!! I did go through a short period, also, of thinking this was something that could be changed, 2 weeks or less is very short compared to 45 years my SO went through this. However, I had a lot more information in that timespan and no fear of being rejected by everyone on earth. I could logically understand the difference this could make, and I saw the wondrous joy the first time my soulmate saw the reflection of beauty in the mirror. I'm so glad I was open minded enough to share this!! This humbled me to tears! Something I'll never forget!
MY 0.02 , get all the info you can, talk, talk, talk, more info, talk, sometimes gender therapists can help, talk, talk, there's always time for a divorce, but, from my own experience, if this person is your soulmate, truly, you'll find away. I'd, personally, rather be sure, because I'm eternally grateful I didn't give up, even when I thought I couldn't go on, I'm glad I've stuck it out!! The rewards have been better than I could've dreamed, I have a best friend for life!! Just sharing my thoughts!!
KrazyKat