hello,i have a question,i have considered myself a crossdresser for many many years but lately i have thought alot about dressing up and going to a dance club and dancing with men.as far as seeing a guy's tool it completely turns me off but do i want to to feel more feminine or am i turning gay or what??,thanks hillary
There's a simple test.
Do you find men sexually attractive?
i can only speak for my self . i would rather a woman come up to me dressd and dance with her i know im not gay and we all have different goals in dressing altho im prob ts. but for me i cant understand what ggs see in men lol two woman is beautifull for me and i will always wish i was 1 of them but i think only you know your own true feelings so there for only you can answer it . even if you were gay theres nothing wrong with that each to there own as long as no ones getting hurt or breaking the law. maybe others might be able to help you more
Actually, you would be turning bi, wouldn't you?
A clarification of julie's test: who are you sexually attracted to; men, women, or both. It really is that simple.
Depends what the dance is Hillary - if its the tango - then I think there's a good chance you're gay. Also the waltz - would be a big ? If you're into wearing ballgowns then sounds a bit sissy to me.
Otherwise I wouldn't worry too much.
Fiona xx
If you're into wearing ball gowns then sounds a bit sissy to me.
Fiona xx[/QUOTE]
Gee Fiona you trampeled one of my great fantasies ! LOL
no,i mean i drive down the road everyday and go to wal-mart etc and never have looked at a guy and thought dang he's cutes or anything like that,i guess i just wonder what it would feel like to dance with a man while wearing a dress and feeling feminine,hillary
Maybe it's "gay" maybe it's not, do what feels right to you babe, don't worry about it.
Andrew Dice Clay once said:
You either suck .... or you don't suck .... there is no in between.
So do you? There's your answer.
i liked the way you put that lol,and to answer your question no i dont and no i wont,hillary
not gay I reckon
Hillary. after reading what you wrote and the replies you got, then what you added. I don't think you are gay just normal. Hope this helps
alexis35
I've been dressed and danced with women, does this make them gay? Or is it like junior high when all the boys were afraid to dance with girls so the girls would dance with each other? Or am I just confused?
It takes a real man to wear a dress.
if you have sex with a man dressed as a woman but not at any other time than you are not gay.
Gay men like having sex as men and like being men.
My therapist, and I had 4 total all asked me (when I asked them if I was gay),
if I felt like a man or a woman when with these men I had sex with, I told them that there was nothing male about the way I felt or acted and gay porn does nothing for me but I am attracted to men as a woman never a man.
they said I'm not gay, because I did not identify as a man when with these men.
So there is your answer, you can have sex with a man and not be gay providing you do not see your self as a man having sex with a man.
If I have sex with a woman I still feel like a female so that makes me a lesbian in a male body.
Originally Posted by jessica duprea
if you have sex with a man dressed as a woman but not at any other time than you are not gay.
Gay men like having sex as men and like being men.
My therapist, and I had 4 total all asked me (when I asked them if I was gay),
if I felt like a man or a woman when with these men I had sex with, I told them that there was nothing male about the way I felt or acted and gay porn does nothing for me but I am attracted to men as a woman never a man.
they said I'm not gay, because I did not identify as a man when with these men.
So there is your answer, you can have sex with a man and not be gay providing you do not see your self as a man having sex with a man.
If I have sex with a woman I still feel like a female so that makes me a lesbian in a male body.
I'm sorry, do you actually believe this?
I guess it's the main point.
Crossdressing is for most people a part of something bigger which is "Cross the Gender Barrier-ing". It's not just dressing, it's talking, standing, walking, thinking, being a woman. You tried the dress, now you want the rest. You just wanna dance with guys like women do. You may have more the desire of meeting men if you are in the closet, i think, because you can only imagine it. So imagine the complement of a nice girl like you, it's a man making you feel more feminine. Math formula: MF/F=M, male seeking mode.
(- My confused point of view
Not gay, bisexual... doesn't matter what you are wearing, if you are having sex with both genders, then you are bisexual... clothes does not maketh the person!
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Exactly!
I am only a cross dresser when I don't crossdress!
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How about if you are attracted to GG's, TS, and CD's...but not men at all? The thought of hairy, masculine guys is pretty gross to me....but a beautiful TS or CD is very attractive to me....sorry if this makes no sense....I'm NEW! LoLif you have sex with a man dressed as a woman but not at any other time than you are not gay.
Gay men like having sex as men and like being men.
My therapist, and I had 4 total all asked me (when I asked them if I was gay),
if I felt like a man or a woman when with these men I had sex with, I told them that there was nothing male about the way I felt or acted and gay porn does nothing for me but I am attracted to men as a woman never a man.
they said I'm not gay, because I did not identify as a man when with these men.
So there is your answer, you can have sex with a man and not be gay providing you do not see your self as a man having sex with a man.
If I have sex with a woman I still feel like a female so that makes me a lesbian in a male body.
CJ
I don't think you are gay. Just a normal cd women
Michelleliz
Yes, you are quite right. Sexuality for TGs is much more complex than simplistic gay, bi, hetero labels. And in addition many TGs are more adaptable and their sexuality is often changing.
You may be NEW - but you are honest.
Fiona xx
In other words - that would mean finding feminine men attractive. You would still technically be considered gay or bi.
I am only a cross dresser when I don't crossdress!
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"I don't want the world to see me, cause I don't think that they'd understand. When everything's made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am" - Goo Goo Dolls
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For me, I could never imagine being with a man as a man... but, as a WOMAN, well that's another thing entirely. I'd love to be with a man! In fact, this is pretty much where all my fantaisies and desires reside these days. Funny how I so resist the label of being "gay." It just doesn't fit, especially when you're all concerned about what lipstick matches your blouse...
As for Deborah's Andrew Dice Clay offering: "You either suck .... or you don't suck .... there is no in between." Well...guess I fall into the former...
xxxooo,
Robyn
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When lost, alone, or blue I know I can always get through the day, for I've always another shade of lipstick to make things right!
Good question hun. I feel the same way...The whole either you do or don't...that is crap if you ask me. When I dress, that is the only time I have bi curious feelings. When in drab, it is women all the way. I have found out here that most here do not have bi curious or gay relationships, which I do not understand, and you are the first I have seen ask this. Or maybe is it just me? When I am a woman, I want to be a woman....Either by a man or a dom GG......thats me though and I know I do not have the majority on my side here..............I am who I am, and be who you are......no need to feel a certain way, just be it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ladies,
I, also, have never come anywhere near close to a relationship, momentary, overnight, short-term or long-term, with a GM. Of course, I've been married for almost 25 years, and never even idly considered *any* alternatives, of whatever gender or species. Still, if you ask me would I "do boys", I'd reply that no, I'm not into that.
Yet, when I'm dressed and alone in my room, with my panties down around my ankles, I'm definitely into that, or, to coin a phrase, that's definitely into me.
Out there in the "real" world, I don't give men a second look. Truly, I can't remember a single occasion in my three-decades-plus since puberty, when I passed some dude in the mall and thought to myself, "whoa, yes, for him I certainly would!" I have had the other experience, though, on the average weekly since 1975: "oh my God, she could eat crackers in bed if she wanted to..."
If you want a true physical manifestation of Julie's "am I gay" test, I submit that this is it. Who, and of what gender, have you imagined allowing in your bed with a box of crackers?
I think a lot of us TV/TG/TSs lead very schizophrenic lives, but with carefully delineated boundaries. Fantasy and reality blur to a certain degree, but not uncontrollably. I know I'd rather be female, and if I were, OMG, would I absolutely love every aspect of it, including getting my knees bruised -- hopefully next life -- but I digress. But in the meanwhile, I'm something else, and my feminine side is stamped "FANTASY-ONLY".
I also must observe, having been in this forum since August 2005, that a number of earnest queries, followed by several heartfelt replies, boil down to: "it's just a label, sweetheart. Don't worry about it! Instead, figure out what makes you happy, and go get it!"
This, certainly, is one of them!
Hugs,
Susie
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Yes and if you're a TG and into masculine, butch women - you're still technically hetero - however psychologically it's much more complicated.
Fiona xx
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