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    Junior Member jessica duprea's Avatar
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    the fetish curse of MTF TS

    In my journey to understand myself, I have read so much from DSMVI, to cross-dresser chat lines.

    There is this problem with fetishistic dressing, that seems to get in the way for allot of MTF TS.
    The problem is that there is a stigma associated with it and self acceptance.
    For me I am guilty of such acts and I am also guilty of wanting to cut off JR.

    I have wanted to be a girl all my life and the fetish portion has messed me up big time.

    It is blamed on Testosterone by me and others like me and if it weren't for "T"
    there would be no desire to live as a man.

    My question to you is, have you ever had Fetishistic dressing episodes?

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica duprea
    My question to you is, have you ever had Fetishistic dressing episodes?
    I assume you're asking if there is a "turn-on" aspect to our crossdressing? If so, then the answer in my case is no. No sexual turn-on, that is, just a feeling of empowerment and normalcy. Hope that makes sense.
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    yes that is exactly what I expected. thank you at least you answered my post for that I am eternally gratefull and shall pledge my love to you always.


    thank you.

    Jessica

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    no dont get turned by dressing male

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    me, neither.
    Yes-- socks! Run out again! Why is it that no matter how many millions of pairs of socks I buy, I never seem to have any? They just... disappear. Honestly, you'd think someone was coming in here, stealing the damn things, and selling them off. . . For me, socks are like sex: tons of it about, and I never seem to get any.


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    tahnks guy's

    have you ever known any FTM that has??:be:

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica duprea
    tahnks guy's

    have you ever known any FTM that has??:be:
    Nope, I haven't met any yet that have said they do. Either they don't exist, or they don't want to talk about it.
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    Why is all but the rum gone? No, the rum's gone too . . .
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    actually

    hey there, I'm new to the group. Actually I realized the first time I dressed as a guy I really was turned on. I also get turned on when I dress really up hot as a girl, and when people of either genders cross-dress. I get turned on all over the place; I'm just a very sexual person.

    Normally though, my want for crossdressing is motivated by a need to express myself in ways that I didnt feel like I could before. As CaptLex said, I get "a feeling of empowerment and normalcy". It is complicated, I'm really not sure if I've quite figured it out yet.

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    IIRC one of the subject in Magnus Hirshfield's study (the first serious research on TSs and CDs, done in the 1920s) was a woman who crossdressed in part because she found it arousing. A later researcher named Stoller (probably 1970s) had a case study on another woman who enjoyed crossdressing to the point of orgasm. So Bessie isn't alone, although it seems far less common than men who crossdress for sexual reasons.

    Part of it may be the differences between male and female sexuality. Transman Raven Kaldera talks about how after he started T, he found his sexually became more "programmable" and realized he was inadvertantly development a sexual fetish that he decided he didn't want. Part of it may be that for the past century or so women weren't encouraged to think about their sexuality nor talk about it -- as recently as the 1970s, the conventional wisdom was that women didn't have sexual fantasies. So there may be women who are turned on by men's clothes who are loath to talk about, or even it admit to themselves.

    Likewise, for years, the conventional wisdom of psychiatry was the women didn't have fetishes. (In fact the DSM IV definition of "transvetic fetishism" still specifically states it only applies to men.) So having created a blindspot, it's entirely possible researchers just didn't "see" female fetishes. 'Course one thing about the Internet is that it's gone a long way toward disproving that people "don't" do or fantasize about x, y or z....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marlena Dahlstrom
    So there may be women who are turned on by men's clothes who are loath to talk about, or even it admit to themselves.
    Thanks for the info, Marlena. I should have known that you'd be the one to find it. I had a feeling that it couldn't be a total impossibility - especially when those male hormones kick in and start messing with your mind.
    But why is the rum gone?! - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: The Curse of the Black Pearl[/SIZE]

    Why is the rum always gone? - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man's Chest[/SIZE]

    Why is all but the rum gone? No, the rum's gone too . . .
    - [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: At World End[/SIZE]

    [SIZE="3"]Lex on the Beach[/SIZE]. . . [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

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    Yes indeedy, my life experience says, genetic females and genetic males are different in reliable ways - but not in ways that require them to subscribe to the gender rules prescribed by the dominant culture.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptLex
    I had a feeling that it couldn't be a total impossibility - especially when those male hormones kick in and start messing with your mind.
    I'll get you a pair of sexy men's boxer briefs and we'll see what happens.... :evil:
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    I guess it is hard for me to understand why anyone would think one kind of dressing is worse than another, for me its wearing what I enjoy I dont see it as fetish or non fetish its just me.
    Just enjoy what you do dont spend all your time worrying about it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marlena Dahlstrom
    I'll get you a pair of sexy men's boxer briefs and we'll see what happens.... :evil:
    ooooh is that offer open to everyone lol, ive just looked at the link, i see some i like

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marlena Dahlstrom
    I'll get you a pair of sexy men's boxer briefs and we'll see what happens.... :evil:
    OMG! Well, I may have to re-think my original answer - LOL! I'm having a hard time deciding between the velvet one and the zippered one. Thanks for the hot pics, Marlena. The Capt needs a cold shower now.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lex
    And CaptLex, diggin' the new avatar.
    Thanks, Lex - I could look at that wiggle all day long.

    Quote Originally Posted by Toyah
    I guess it is hard for me to understand why anyone would think one kind of dressing is worse than another, for me its wearing what I enjoy I dont see it as fetish or non fetish its just me. Just enjoy what you do dont spend all your time worrying about it
    Toyah,

    I don't think anyone is saying one reason for dressing is better or worse than another, it's just that different people have different reasons for it and, for the most part, it seems that FtMs very rarely have a fetish for it, while this reason is more commonly found with MtFs.
    But why is the rum gone?! - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: The Curse of the Black Pearl[/SIZE]

    Why is the rum always gone? - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man's Chest[/SIZE]

    Why is all but the rum gone? No, the rum's gone too . . .
    - [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: At World End[/SIZE]

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marlena Dahlstrom
    I'll get you a pair of sexy men's boxer briefs and we'll see what happens.... :evil:
    Arrrgggghhhh .................. the FtM equivalent of a panty thread ................ *runs from forum, screaming*.............................





    .........sorry, guys, couldn't resist........I blame it all on the cocktail of drugs I'm taking for a bronchial infection..................




    .........seriously, though, the velvet ones are very sexie...................*tries to sneak out without anyone noticing*.............
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    Quote Originally Posted by Patsy Stone GG
    .........seriously, though, the velvet ones are very sexie...................*tries to sneak out without anyone noticing*.............
    Too late, Patsy - we caught you!
    But why is the rum gone?! - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: The Curse of the Black Pearl[/SIZE]

    Why is the rum always gone? - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man's Chest[/SIZE]

    Why is all but the rum gone? No, the rum's gone too . . .
    - [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: At World End[/SIZE]

    [SIZE="3"]Lex on the Beach[/SIZE]. . . [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

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    Oh, er....oops.....well, I came in to look at that wiggle and was distracted somewhat by the underwear..........not sure abouut the ones with the zipper

    Am I too far off topic yet??
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    Quote Originally Posted by Patsy Stone GG
    Oh, er....oops.....well, I came in to look at that wiggle and was distracted somewhat by the underwear..........not sure abouut the ones with the zipper Am I too far off topic yet??
    Done in by the wiggle! I think we've now totally lost the point of this thread . . . I blame the sexy underwear.
    But why is the rum gone?! - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: The Curse of the Black Pearl[/SIZE]

    Why is the rum always gone? - Capt. Jack Sparrow [SIZE="1"]Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man's Chest[/SIZE]

    Why is all but the rum gone? No, the rum's gone too . . .
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    [SIZE="3"]Lex on the Beach[/SIZE]. . . [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bessie
    hey there, I'm new to the group. Actually I realized the first time I dressed as a guy I really was turned on. I also get turned on when I dress really up hot as a girl, and when people of either genders cross-dress. I get turned on all over the place; I'm just a very sexual person.

    Normally though, my want for crossdressing is motivated by a need to express myself in ways that I didnt feel like I could before. As CaptLex said, I get "a feeling of empowerment and normalcy". It is complicated, I'm really not sure if I've quite figured it out yet.
    Take a look at my profile pic and see if I turn you on ,that would be neat, love to see your pic

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