Now that the illusion of acceptance from my wife has been dispelled and I know that it is only tolerance, I'm happy with that. I didn't need to go back to the closet but there differently has been an attitude change on her part and it changes day to day. I would like things to go back to what I thought they were. Anyway we are getting along fine right now and I'm free to dress as want. Thanks once again for all your thoughtful and encouraging input.
Sheena