My Girlfriend wants to put makeup on me!

[Emily1]

I believe it's important to be HONEST all the time with girlfriends - and if you loose a few on the way then so be it - but the main thing is BE HONEST WITH HER

[ellieparsons]

My old Girlfriend did the same with me with wanting to put makeup on me, of course i didn't refuse. She used to put eyeshadow on me in the morning before we went to school, she wanted to know if anyone noticed, which no one did or said anything. She used do makeup and nailpolish with me. But I never got any farther than that, just makup no clothing. I wouldn't push the idea about dressing.

[Lindahexi]

When I showed my girlfriend some Japanese Game shows, including one where they dressed guys up as girls (really well, they look better than some girls!) my girlfriend asked if she could put makeup on me! Would you take that as a sign that she might be okay with CDing?

Maybe, maybe not. Girls like doing that sort of thing, but mostly it's just for fun. Did you accept her offer? and if so how pleased were you with the results?

[GG Vanya]

I cannot dissagree more.

I used to have long hair for a long time, GGs *love* to play and screw around with a guys long hair and make it look feminine (i.e., french braids, pigtails, etc). Does this mean they are all secretly totally ok with cd'ers?, NO.GGs (especially younger ones IME) love to dress guys up, does this mean they want a cd'er or are ok with cd'ing?, NO.

One approach to outing ones-self that I've seen a few times here starts this way, you let her dress you up a few times then spring on her that you are a cd'er claiming that "you liked it so much that you kept doing it". Hence putting the responsability of being a cd'er onto her shoulders instead of yours, when its your responsability to be ok with yourself and NOT hers.

Take the responsability, tell her the truth before she makes you over, or a few days afterwards. Dont automatically assume that she will be ok with you, dont be attached to the outcome. If you wait till afterwards, DONT even leave the possibility there for her to feel that she "turned" you into a cd'er, thats not fair to her.

honesty, COMPLETE honesty is the only way to go in these situations

Dawn

My ex, who's mind was as closed about CDing as the knees on a Nun, had *gorgeous* hair. VERY thick and a beautiful premature silver. He'd lie on the couch to watch TV with his head in my lap and I loved playing with his hair. There were a few times I even put it in "pin curles". (I love having that done to me as well, something SO soothing about someone brushing my hair.)

This was LONG before the idea of being in a relationship with a CD ever entered my mind. Additionally, if I had ever brought up the possibility of cross dressing him, he'd have had a major coronary. Hell, I jokingly bought him a pair of red bikini underwear one year for Valentine's day, and he was MAJOR insulted by it.

Additionally, had HE indicated there was anything remotely "CD" about him back then, I'd have run screaming for the hills. (I've come a long way baby!)

Toying around with something as simple as applying makeup or styling a man's hair does NOT an accepting GG make. For many GG's it's like playing adult paper dolls etc.

I'd be very careful about blasting your way out of the closet based on this one instance alone. Could very well be that she IS one of "us", but I'd take it very slow, watch for other signals if I were you.

[triciaannmarie]

only one real way to find out

tricia

[Michelle Ellis]

I wish I had a girlfriend who wanted to do that to me! I would definitely let her do it. I'd let her take the lead tho, see what she says and how she acts. One thing could lead to another and before you know it BAM, you're head to toe

But again, speaking as if it were me, I'd pretty much let her do all the talking, taking it slow. But enjoy it! lucky girl!

M

[Kerry Owens]

be honest, upfront and calm, if she needs help in understanding, send her over to the GG forum. It's amazing how much I have learned and calmed down since I learned duh....I'm not alone.

[Rachel Morley]

Listen to Bev06GG and GG Vanya. These GG's know....and I happen to agree, many times in my past a GG girlfriend was interested in somewhat "feminizing me" but in reality they did not care for cding per se. Caution required....

[Barb Valentine]

Well YES

[Serena]

I agree with Dawn here, that just because she likes putting make-up on you doesn't mean she wants you in dresses. That's smart advice, because you can't assume that, and you can't rush into it or you'll be outed too easily. But that doesn't mean she isn't ok with it. And also like Dawn said, don't make her think she turned you into a CD when she didn't. I'd recommend letting her do it, then easing into more stuff, and bringing it up without sounding like you want it to happen, something jokingly, like "Heh, now all I need are the clothes" something along those lines

[IvyL]

I havn't had a chance to take up her offer as she is in Hong Kong right now (I will be joining her in a week or so) but I will be sure to post her reaction when I do get a chance to do it.

[cindyxdresser]

well you never know but it sounds like she wouldnt have a problem with it.You should watch more shows with her that have girls putting make up an guys and dressing them up ,casually start a conversation with her and see how she feels about it all and her feelings on it being done to you

[eleyna]

Additionally, had HE indicated there was anything remotely "CD" about him back then, I'd have run screaming for the hills. (I've come a long way baby!)

One of my ex-gfs was that way and thought of me the same way - it was my front. I let her do those things a couple of times tho, put up a resistance but eventually let her. When I recently spoke to her she admitted she was actually not really interested in men, big thing for her to 'come out' to someone from her old life... So I admitted a thing for women's clothes and she went nuts Maybe one day we'll meet up again

Would you take that as a sign that she might be okay with CDing?

Nope, but I would give in and then treat her to the make out session from heaven and see if she gets any ideas

[Jennaie]

I would go for it. After she is through and she tells me how nice I look, I would smile and do the Sandra Bullock, You think I'm pretty, You want to kiss me. If she responds with nice kisses, she's into it.

[KateW]

Yeah, by all means let her, but don't read too much into it as girls love to play with peoples hair, paint their nails etc.

[AmandaM]

Act like it's a joke. Let her do it, act like it's no big deal. Have fun with it, and then let it end. Then, see if she brings it up again. ....oooorrrrrrr.....when she's done walk around like a big dummy doing the worst impersonation of a girl ever, walk like a man, a masculine dunce, see if she wants to show you how to do it correctly. Play dumb. Maybe she'll decide to get you some heels. Continue to act like it's a joke, until she wants it to be more than that.

[Julogden]

It's not possible to say whether that's a sign that she'd be OK with you being a CD.

Before my fiance knew about me, she dressed me up as a woman for Halloween once. After she found out that I crossdress, she turned against it entirely, so I would say tread lightly and don't assume anything, but by all means, take her up on her offer to dress you up and see what happens.

Good luck!
Carol

[Robin Leigh]

I havn't had a chance to take up her offer as she is in Hong Kong right now (I will be joining her in a week or so) but I will be sure to post her reaction when I do get a chance to do it.

Just in case you didn't notice, this post is from 2 months ago. I wonder if young IvyL ever got that makeover? She seems to have disappeared...

I used to work with a girl who's a total makeup addict. She loves putting a little makeup on guys, like eyeliner & blush, but going from our conversations she seems totally clueless about CD & TG issue, and more than a touch homophobic.

Robin

[Snookums]

Hey let her do your makeup,then see if she wants to take it farther,you never know