If she wanted to be a man?

[Lanore]

This is a simple question and it's not meant to hurt anyone. It seems most everyone has a girlfriend, wife or SO. Here's a male who wants to dress and act female but can't understand why there is a problem with the one they tell. My question is. Say you are not gay and have no attraction to a male and you still feel female. Your girlfriend, wife or SO comes to you and tells you they want to dress and act like a man, how would it make you feel and how would you react?

Lanore

[Jesse69]

Well, I'm open to gender switch games with a women too! Only if I'm a woman - no man to man games here.

[Mary Morgan]

Lanore, there is what I think I would do, then there is what I would do. I hope they are the same but I really don't know. Given the love and compassion, tolerance and understanding I have received from her, and given that she is my true love, I would like to think that I would (and do) make room for her need(s) just as she has mine. Funny, I think I understand why CDs want to appear female, afterall women are the superior sex, but I just don't get why a woman would want to appear to be a man. I have so much to learn. Louise

[Kieron Andrew]

but I just don't get why a woman would want to appear to be a man. I have so much to learn. Louise

visit and ask the boys sometime im sure they'll be happy to tell you lol

[Kate Simmons]

Louise, Try being a man who wants to look like a woman who wants to look like a man. Keeps life interesting. Ericka/Rich

[Jenna1561]

Lanore, an interesting question. Of course my perceptions and thinking are influenced by the fact that I AM TG. Having always lacked support and knowing how that feels, I hope that I could support her desires.

Sorry Kieron, but I simply don't know why a woman would want to be a man, but I'm sure that's the same thing that runs through her mind about me.

I remind myself of this scenario whenever I wonder why my wife isn't supportive.


Jenna

[AngGG]

Well, I'm open to gender switch games with a women too! Only if I'm a woman - no man to man games here.

But what if this is one of her "secret" desires. Would you be willing to be supportive and indulge her/him in the fantasy? Isn't that what most mtf's would like their wives to do? Engage in some woman on woman games?

Just a thought.

Angela

[linnea]

I really believe that I would be open and supportive about my wife's desires. I may be deluding myself to think so, but CDing has helped me to understand and empathize with a wide range of self-expressions.

[Michellebej]

Lanore,

I actually went through that. My ex-wife started to assume the male role, more and more till in our private life ( we had four kids) she was the man, and I the woman.

We had to be our genetic selves when around the children, but; otherwise it was the Rod and Michelle hour.

I got used to it. It was fun. In the end she was the one that had trouble accepting her feelings on the subject. Thats another story.

Bye the bye, my current SO is also very into the Role Reversal thing. So; here we go again.

Love

Michelle

[sara_also]

I would support my so with all of my heart. No matter what she would want.
However, Does she want to "be" a man or just dress like a man. Our situation is that I only dress like a lady I have no desire to be a lady, so your question could run the gamut of responses.

[Karren H]

Ekkkkkk.....That would be hard to take and that's why I understand my wifes objection to my crossdressing......

Karren

[NatalieBliss]

This is not an easy question to answer, however, I honestly would probably be okay with it... depending on the amount of time she would want to spend in "guy" mode. Before you start yelling hipocrite at your computer screen... I fully understand that when a girl starts dating me she is expecting to have a "boy"friend, and I think I deliver the goods on that one. Crossdressing defines me to a certain extent to be sure, but my world does not revolve around it. So basically if it was something she "liked to do from time to time" because she feels compeled to "express that side of herself" freaking bully for her! That is pretty much how I define my crossdressing. I use that scenerio because honestly I don't really think any other one is plausible because while I do have a soft spot for "tom boys" mainly I prefer closer to the girly-girl side of the spectrum.

[Jesse69]

Michele how do you find these kind of women?

I'm only into totally femme women, and I don't want her to transition to male. Just role reversal and women on women games are ok with me. But I've actually never tried any of this yet.

[Jestina]

Well said Lanore, this puts it in terms we can truly dig.

However that said my SO and I have played the gender switch game, where she dressed and acted as a man while I was dressed and acted coy demure and "Jestina like".

While I was not turned on specifically by the man thing we did it as a different game. It doesn't hurt that she is spectacularly beautiful and I didn't have to close my eyes and imagine her still being a woman. I just made sure ,my words and reactions were correct so the scene could play out.

Not everyone can do that though.

Also remember that GG's will talk to each other about makeup and do each others nails etc. Whereas men will will have a very hard time even just telling another man he has a soup stain on his face!!

When my SO came to terms with it she realized she had a lot of advantage being with a guy who knolws makeup and even tricks to keep bra straps in place and understands underwear issues.
She now gets to chat with me about girl stuff knowing that I am experienced persoanlly and I am not just being an empathetic man.
I know what it is to have a run in a pair of expensive stockings.

Again, I can NOT imagine chatting with my buddies over the way boxers chaffe my legs under jeans. (They do too!)
So if she wanted to act like a guy it would have an entirely different connotation than me acting like a woman.

But men and women relate very differently to each others gender but also to each other.

So that is what I am thinking.

But analysis aside, your statement is rather profound for a man to read.

Jestina.

[Calliope]

My SO has always dressed and acted like a dude - and thats probably why I got involved with her. My first wife was pretty 'hi-test,' too. And I suspect they intuited I was their 'natural' match.

I guess I mean, it's just not so black & white.

Try being a man who wants to look like a woman who wants to look like a man. Keeps life interesting.

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[Jestina]

This is not an easy question to answer, however, I honestly would probably be okay with it... depending on the amount of time she would want to spend in "guy" mode. Before you start yelling hipocrite at your computer screen... I fully understand that when a girl starts dating me she is expecting to have a "boy"friend, and I think I deliver the goods on that one. Crossdressing defines me to a certain extent to be sure, but my world does not revolve around it. So basically if it was something she "liked to do from time to time" because she feels compeled to "express that side of herself" freaking bully for her! That is pretty much how I define my crossdressing. I use that scenerio because honestly I don't really think any other one is plausible because while I do have a soft spot for "tom boys" mainly I prefer closer to the girly-girl side of the spectrum.

Yup! Me too!!
I think that if I loved someone and I do, I would let her do it if she wanted to.
In fact I gave my SO a three pack of gross regular old fashioned tighty whitey briefs to wear while being in guy mode.
However, thankfully she prefers to borrow my panties.

Jestina again?

[Sweet Jane]

it'd depend on how manly she wanted to get....just dress and act masculine once in a while, always wear mens undies, I'd probably be OK, possibly as I could empathise with that...I think most CDers could empathise....now if she wanted to use a str@p on on me, then we'd need to talk a bit...I'm not exactly saying no but it makes me a little uncomfortable...breast removal and hormones and SRS would freak me right out...

[Marla S]

Your girlfriend, wife or SO comes to you and tells you they want to dress and act like a man, how would it make you feel and how would you react?

Like Jane said: It would depend how far she wants to go.
Some or some more CDing and acting manly would be absolute ok, but I don't know how I would deal with SRS and the like.

I like the mix for me and I'd at least accept and probalby like the mix on her.
Extremes ? Dunno, but who knows until it happens.

[Jestina]

it'd depend on how manly she wanted to get....just dress and act masculine once in a while, always wear mens undies, I'd probably be OK, possibly as I could empathise with that...I think most CDers could empathise....now if she wanted to use a str@p on on me, then we'd need to talk a bit....

OK I just got a little gross out there, my ex wife used to wear mens underwear sometimes with her second husband she exclusively wore his!!
Yet some how I am totally cool with my current SO.

Maybe because my ex is a registered child sex offender.
Glad we havent seen her in years!! Especially in mens underwear!!
Interesting connection here.

Now the starp on thing...OK I have had that offered to me thanks, talking is definetely in order.

Oh wow does this stuff ever get personal...


I am in cognito and I refuse to sign my alter ego's name.

[Calliope]

Now the starp on thing...OK I have had that offered to me thanks, talking is definetely in order.

Myra Breckinridge!

[Charleen]

That's what I had. My wife was always more on the masculine side, and me more fem. It was never discussed, just part of who we were.

[janet p]

Boy I don't believe this most of you are saying it's OK for you to be a woman but if your SO wanted to be a man you would have to think about it. I myself would have no problem with as long as she didn't want to become a fat lazy slob like my last one.

[jo_ann]

I'd be ok with it.. my wife is a tomboy 99% of the time when she's not working, and even when she's working it's 99% dress pants with a blouse and heel-less shoes. If my wife wanted to roleplay (and I know she has no desire to), but if she did I'd be ok with it.. In fact I might have fun with it if I was allowed to be the woman at the same time.

[Kate Simmons]

My SO has always dressed and acted like a dude - and thats probably why I got involved with her. My first wife was pretty 'hi-test,' too. And I suspect they intuited I was their 'natural' match.

I guess I mean, it's just not so black & white.




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I enjoy living in the grey area, keeps me sharp. It's interesting because of all of the "flack" I get , especially when Ericka dresses as Eric, mostly from my M T F friends. The lesbians think it's great, the gay guys are basically lost with it. To further answer the original question of this thread, though, if my wife wanted to dress and act like a guy, I would tell her to go for it. I fell in love with the person after all, not the image. Ericka/Rich

[Lissa Stevens]

I honestly believe I would be understanding. Having had gender issues most of my life I know what it's like and would want to be supportive.