Today, from the misery loves company corner comes a story of a TS gal who sees a beautiful black and white print dress on sale for $15.99. Pocket change, go get it, right? Well, no. My wife and I have an arrangement. Neither spends a dime without clearing it with the other. It was her idea because I wasn't spending anything but she was shopping/buying at will. I agreed since I don't usually buy anything anyway. I am always shopping and looking for femme items. I just never buy them. Our finances are very tight and I do more than my share of sacrifice to make ends meet. However, I know that if I give in and get that dress without telling her, I will be disloyal to her. I don't have a stash and don't want secrets either. I can't ask her for the dress because I know her reaction will be immediate and very negative. She can handle my wearing femme pants and tops as long as they are boy-like. But a dress is a totally different matter. If I bring up this dress issue, we are bound for another big fight. At the moment, things are going along pretty well between us and I want it it to stay that way. As I indicated in another post, I am now learning to sew. She is teaching me. It is strange because we assiduously avoid skirt and dress patterns. She never wears dresses or skirts and has asked me, worriedly, if I will eventually want to wear one. At the time, I denied my feelings and said no. That denial has made the latent desire turn to a constant craving.
I should put this in perspective, I am also free to have shoulder length hair, pierced earrings, panties, bras, nighties, total shaving, and "over the counter" hormone treatments. There is a line drawn on some areas that makes TG acceptable to her. When we are in balance, she forgets about my TG issues and we live a relatively normal peaceful life. If I go too far or too fast the balance is upset and we have weeks of crisis. We tried counseling and that was a total disaster so that won't happen any time soon.