Hi Poc, Been reading this and have some ideas. It's seems you are comfortable with being yourself and the only problem is you can't decide how to present. You enjoy being a tomboy for sure. So, my question is what is wrong with that? You know most of your friends accept you for who you are. As far as dressing and presentation, just do what you want, when you want. No one here is going to fault you for that. If you want to wear a dress, wear a dress, if you want to wear boy stuff, wear boy stuff. If you want a willy, have one. Take it from someone who was in the same boat for years, always worried about other people. It gave me no small amount of frustration until I said the hell with it and I'm gonna be who I wanna be when I wanna be. You and I may be more alike than you may think from opposite sides of the same coin. Right now, I'm having fun being in guy mode and don't care what others think (especially folks here) as I'm enjoying myself thoroughly. This may last for a week or two, maybe more. I can always return to being Sal whenever I'm ready. The point is I'm doing it and am enjoying it and it is totally my choice. Being yourself and enjoying it is the key. As long as you don't compromise yourself and your identity as a person, you will always be happy. I've just realized I wasted too much energy worrying about it and just went ahead and did what I felt like. I'm much happier for that.