So like the title says, why are you still in the closet. Now by this I mean why not tell everyone that you are a crossdresser, I'm not here to judge I just have a general curiosity. I was in the closet until very recently and now that I'm out I have no idea why I was ever in there in the first place, I get to show off my outfits and I finally know what daytime make up looks like in the daytime, however some of you do have your reasons for being in there I was just wondering why?
Can you really have to much mascara?
to find a nice dress or skirt and top to go out in
I'd say I'm 90% out of the closet. I wear what I want and go where I please without any worries. I haven't told mom and dad, and I can only imagine how that would fly around the family grapevine, considering most of them are the uber conservative. I don't tell work for obvious reasons. Work is work and it's professional life and I keep my personal life out of it. Church people have seen me. I have worn womens jeans to church. Church friends have come over and seen my toes. ( though I recently havn't been attending that church )
IMO I'm out, I'm just not in peoples face about it. I'm also not going to hide who I am. If they don't like it, that is there problem.
For anyone thats out, knows that being out and open is so much easier. Like I mentioned in other threads. In one day I got 3 compliments about my makeup. Was told how it brings out my eyes :P
Last edited by noname; 02-06-2007 at 03:39 AM.
I'm out to quite a few friends but not to my partner I'm not sure she'd accept the full truth yet
She does know to a degree but thinks I've just got a fetish for her underwear which provides some cover for the fact I go all the way and have been out dressed up
Having been asked once "your not one of those bloody trannies are you" by your partner, kind of makes you a little bit backward at coming out
So if her knickers go missing she knows why, and she knows its not the full truth now but its not something we talk about
Well, it's like this, I have to many things in my life going on right now. I would love to come out, but I have my a life for myself as a male and have the need to live it also. I also have a son that lives with me.
Ladies have a GREAT time!
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Most people stay in the closet for the security it gives them, or at least the sense of security.
We all have our fears, and only we can conquer them, until that time, the closet feels the safest place to be.
Just my
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I'm in the closet because I don't think Suzie is ready to be out to the world. I don''t think the world is ready for her either, LOL! It's also out of respect for my wife. I'm just lucky she accepts Suzie's existence. There's always once a year to come out of the closet on Halloween, but then thats just a portable closet, isn't it? Oh well, my closet is quite comfy anyway.
GO RED SOX!!!
Suzie
I am out of the closet to my wife and have been for a long time. I also attend some tranny weekends.
I would love to come out to everyone but the one thing that stops me is respect for my wife and children. If I was to come out it would not just be me opening myself up for abuse or ridicule or worse but it is the ripple effect as I call it which would then spread out to engulf my wife and kids. Why should they be abused, ridiculed or worse for something I do.
Imagine their life at school/work if this got out to their friends/work collegues that their father/husband is a crossdresser.
Also I really think that friends and people you have known for a long time opinion of you will change as they will percieve you as the way the media portray a crossdresser/tranny.
Is it really worth all that trouble.
Because its warm, and comfortable, and safe ......... If it weren't, everyone would be out!!
Love Karren
it's like most things in life some people can axceptt more than others and the risk is not worth the reward
susie
FEAR!
Fear of what others will say...
Will I run into an old girlfriend, friend from church, co-worker, etc?
Will they know who I am?
I have started telling people that I know now, so it'll be easier if run into someone.
My fear is fading on a daily basis and I feel it's just a matter of time for me, anyway, to feel free and easy about going out.
Maybe the attitide to have is... The Hell with what they think if they see me!
It's hard to think that way at this point in my life... Yet anyway.
Time... It's all a matter of time... I have to believe in me, and I'm getting there.
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I'm very out. It gives me the freedom to come and go as I want. Friends and neighbours accept that it's just part of me being me and give me a cheery wave if they see me
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Paula
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I would like to escape from the closet but my lifestyle and community prohibits it. But you go girl for the some of the rest of us.
Suanne stole my story, I am just a little older than her, and after dressing as ovten as I could as a boy, I didn't even hear the word Transvestite until I was in by twentys, and in the context I had read it, i thought it was the word thatkind of fit me. So I looked it up in the Dictonary, but the word was not there ( no bad words in the dictonary of that period, and people thought that was a bad word) the only difference is I ended up in devorce, and got lucky in a second marrage, found a woman that understands and excepts me for who I am.
But grown kids from the first marrage would not, and I don't want to lose them again!
Tina B.
Almost didn't even answer this one but figured....why not. No cute remarks just the truth as I have experienced it myself for the last 50 some years of crossdressing is secret. I started like most wearing moms stuff. Didn't want anyone knowing cause I knew the difference between boy clothes and girl clothes. But girl clothes looked and felt better and I enjoyed them so much. Now in the 50's and so young I didn't know that anybody else did this and didn't even know what it was called. I thought I was weird but accepted that because it was just me and me alone in secret that was dressing in mom's undies. This lasted for all my school years. I hid and didn't want anyone to know about this because of people making fun of me and calling me a queer. (I am not a homosexual) But that was about the only word people used back then for anything they didn't understand. Oh yes I did discover the word "Transvestite" while in high school. Just couldn't find out much about it except I was one. Now I am a crossdresser.
Suanne
Ditto here!Originally Posted by Amy Wannabe
"Diane"
I guess I am now 50% in the closet and 50% out. The 50% in the closet is the wife, family, work, friends. The 50% out is here on this forum and two other forums, my Tri-Ess chapter and all the girls and SO's there and all the CD friends I have made from this and the other two forums. I go out in the day time and night time and feel very compfy when I do. I know that the Probability the first 50% finding out increases over time but I will face that day when it comes.
Mainly because I look all man and I look strange in womens clothes. If I had done what I wanted to when I was a kid I would look beautiful in any womens clothes but back then there was no support so I just dressed in the closet.
I thought many times about going to school in a skirt that I had. I thought many times about trying out for cheerleading but stereotyping was very and is very strong in this small hick town. If I went out today dressed up then I would still either be beaten up or killed. It is not worth the problems that it would entail either. Scared? NO! Just facing facts and real life......JMO2
It's a dirty little secret.
Just like smoking, drinking, Picking your nose or butt.
It has the potential to spoil "The good life"
You have to realize it is nothing more than a hobby (blended with an obsession).
Don't ever ask again !
Don't ever come over for coffee and start with this kinda Shit !
Okay ? Then, take off that dress and those High Heels, get out of here and Mow the grass, like you are suppose to.
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I came out last year to my family and a few of my friends. It felt really good getting that over with. Family took it much better then I had expected', but dosen't want to see it. Thats ok though not going to stop me and my girlfriend loves it so makes it all that much better.
My wife has the key and shes not about to open that door.. She knows about my crossdressing but thats all.she calls me p*&^% boy among other things we tried to talk about it but to no avail kinda waste of time. but thats why I am in the closet with out a paddle.....HMMM or is that a creek????
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Fear. Fear of being discovered by family or friends. Church not accepting of such practices. Fear of being assaulted and having to go to ER en femme Also, mom says we may have to look into professional help about my dressing.
I'm out to my mother, but that's about it. My father pays for college and, until I'm in my own place living full time, I'll keep things quiet in this area.
Because I didn't tell my SO when we married and it would be a little tardy to mention it 20 odd years later. I'm pretty sure of the likely reaction. Crossdressing is a part of my life and it would be unfair to make it a part of hers. I would love her to know and accept Elle but you deal with the situation you have more often than the one you want. Its a compromise but isn't everything?
Im in the closet cause of my mom. She doesnt believe in that kind of thing. She always says a man is a man and a woman is a woman.
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