Checking into a hotel enfemme

[Karren H]

Well, I tried.. But just couldn't do it!! And it's on my list to do this year. Drove to Charleston, WV tuesday night enfemme, and had planned to check into a hotel enfemme. Didn't make reservations and at the time that seemed like a good idea but looking back, probably not. And I had 2 to choose from, drove by the lobby of the first and it was crowded so I went on to the second. Not crowded at all but there were two young girls working the front desk. And I still have that fear of using my real name and credit card info while enfemme.... Like they might call the office or home and tell everyone I know or something... hehe

So I threw on a jacket, pair of slacks and wiped some of the makeup off, ball cap and went in to check in. Have you stayed with us before or did you make a reservation? NO.... Lets see some photo ID and a major credit card!!! Now that would have been fun enfemme!!! lol

One of the clerkettes kept looking at me and when I got to the room I didn't do a very good job of wiping off the makeup... Later that evening I went in and out the front door enfemme and neither of them said a thing.... just smiles... So I'm sure they knew... "Well, another crossdresser.... that's 10 this week.... Business is picking up" hehehe

So how many of you do check in enfemme and how do you do it? Spare no details please..... the year is getting shorter...

Love Karren

[Marcie Sexton]

Well it nice to know you're in the area...those country girls have a sharp eye for that stuff....

I have spent several evening there H.I.E. and shopped enfemme there...pretty cool...I'm glad things went well there...

[Kaitlyn Michele]

karren

always love your "Adventures"...i do a lot of walking in and out of hotels..

i think they are basically xdresser paradise...people are around, its very safe...etc...heels clicking on the pavement and tile floor...all that fun stuff

i know i've been read, i've passed and i 've been gawked at even but so what

i have bought stuff at a mall dressed so why cant ya check in dressed!!!??

ok i admit it, i've not checked into a hotel dressed either!

[MsJanessa]

Well, I tried.. But just couldn't do it!! And it's on my list to do this year. Drove to Charleston, WV tuesday night enfemme, and had planned to check into a hotel enfemme. Didn't make reservations and at the time that seemed like a good idea but looking back, probably not. And I had 2 to choose from, drove by the lobby of the first and it was crowded so I went on to the second. Not crowded at all but there were two young girls working the front desk. And I still have that fear of using my real name and credit card info while enfemme.... Like they might call the office or home and tell everyone I know or something... hehe

So I threw on a jacket, pair of slacks and wiped some of the makeup off, ball cap and went in to check in. Have you stayed with us before or did you make a reservation? NO.... Lets see some photo ID and a major credit card!!! Now that would have been fun enfemme!!! lol

One of the clerkettes kept looking at me and when I got to the room I didn't do a very good job of wiping off the makeup... Later that evening I went in and out the front door enfemme and neither of them said a thing.... just smiles... So I'm sure they knew... "Well, another crossdresser.... that's 10 this week.... Business is picking up" hehehe

So how many of you do check in enfemme and how do you do it? Spare no details please..... the year is getting shorter...

Love Karren

Hon--Ive checked into a hotel en femme and there was nothing to it--It was a hotel that I stay and dress at all the time while on business and they know about my dressing---I was wearing a gold satin camosill (sp) top under a short black silk blazer with tight stretchy femme jeans, moderatly heeled sandals, painted toe nails, full face make up and a long red wig---I had to stand behind another customer while I was waiting to be checked, checked in gave the clerk my credit card and he gave me the room card/key--no problem-- neither he nor the other customer said a thing--I'm sure he know but the other customer didn't-also I have gone to countless hotels and never been asked for a photo ID when I checked in, just the credit card and if approved, no problem--

[Karren H]

i have bought stuff at a mall dressed so why cant ya check in dressed!!!??

ok i admit it, i've not checked into a hotel dressed either!

I pay cash when shopping enfemme so theirs no paper trail... And hotels don't take cash.... Plus when I travel for business I need the reciept to turn in for my expense account...

I can see my boss asking me "Who's Karren Hutton and why do you have her hotel reciept?". Hehe

I have thought of a couple ideas that I might try... 1) Make the reservations in my wifes name and use her credit card.... Same account numbers just with her name... So they will be expecting a female..... Or 2) get a VISA gift card or a hotel gift card... The last one needs some more work.. Lol

Hon--Ive checked into a hotel en femme and there was nothing to it--It was a hotel that I stay and dress at all the time while on business and they know about my dressing---........

also I have gone to countless hotels and never been asked for a photo ID when I checked in, just the credit card and if approved, no problem--

Your way way way more open about it than I am..... And a big problem I have is that a lot of the places I go, I have gone for decades and know a lot of "Coal mining people" there.... And that's a big problem for me... Tuesday night I stayed at a hotel about 30 minutes away from the hotel where my meeting was the next day... Just so I wouldn't bump into anyone...

On the trip home Wednesday I was going to dress and drive home but didn't... And stopped at a rest area and when coming out a guy ran up to me and grabbed me from behind... Scared the crap out of me but it was an old friend!! Glad I wasn't enfemme... Lol

Love Karren

[Tree GG]

In Indiana, the BMV will issue an ID card (similar to driver's license but with ID ONLY stamped real big). If PA does the same, can you go to BMV en femme and have a photo ID taken using your birth name? If you prefer to use Karren, maybe you can get an ID using that name and a new credit card with Karren on it - I'm sure the card company would issue an additional card for your account using Karren (they don't know it's not your daughter).

I believe I saw another thread where someone suggested using your initials instead of a full femme or male name.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

also ...and i'm not kidding here...i'm pretty sure that its against the law to lie when dealing with credit cards..i know we all look at it as a white lie and there is surely no harm but the credit card company might have a different view

[Rhonda Jean]

Karen,
Like you, I have a company car and a company credit card. I worry about being stopped by the police in the company car while en femme and the officer deciding to call the company for some lame reason and outing me, or worse yet, I know if I had a wreck and had to go to the hospital I know they'd call the office. But, that's a little off topic. My hotel drill is this: First of all, I stay in a place where I can park at my door and not have to walk through a lobby (Is this a motel rather than a hotel?). I don't use my company credit card. I put it on my expense account later. I check in in more-or-less androgenous mode, which would typically be girl's jeans, top, and shoes, little to no makeup, and my hair kind of fem or in a ponytail (my hair is collar bone length). Im comfortable with this for a number of reasons. I'm still recognizable by my photo I.D. and my male name credit card is not questioned. I'm pretty comfortable in androgenous mode, and I don't ruffle any feathers. This is about the best I can pull off after work. If they see me later, I've left enough clues that no one will be surprised.

I have no problem checking out en femme, and, in fact, look forward to it. It's kind of the first test of the morning. I've always been treated extremely well, and usually get a "mam" to brightem my day! I'll spend a day doing my thing, then go through the inevitable change on the drive home (makeup removing wipes work amazingly well while driving).

[Amanda Shaft]

Hi, I'm pretty sure having a credit card in a false name would be illegal, but unless you failed to meet the payments who's going to know? I was thinking the other day about knocking out a id card for myself on my computer: as id cards are not compulsory over here (as yet) I can't see that it could be classed as fraudulent unless you were acting with some criminal intent that is.

As for going into hotels en femme I went to a fantastic TV weekend in Blackpool last week and had a great time. Before I arrived at the hotel I couldn’t bring myself to just walk in, I had to use my mobile phone from outside and ask: This is the right hotel isn’t it, and the right weekend? Can you imagine if it hadn’t of been and just strolling in all glamed up to the wrong gathering, could have been a Hells Angel convention or something… sure they would of understood!

Hugs Amanda x

[RobertaFermina]

Karren,

It is easy.
I am not that discreet, I can't stand the worrying about such things.
And I don't care as much as you seem to whether anyone finds out.
I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, after all...I'm just *sigh* another *unique* person.

I do behave in a friendly and outgoing way, and simply smile genuinely, and goodheartedly as I hand over my credit card or driver's licence with my MaleFace on them. Friendly Eye-Contact shows I have nothing to hide, or fear...this is just how I am.....And I see this doesn't seem to work for you?

I am guessing you have much more at stake in being *outed* where you live.

I'd be talking Apples while you are living Oranges.

So come to SF and check into a Hotel over here! How's that for advice ?

Roberta

[Lovely Rita]

You are courageous just for contemplating it. I admire your chutzpah.

[Jennifer_Ph]

I *had* to do it once. I went to Chicago to get a makeover from Tranformations by Rori and then attend a Mardi Gras party she was having. Not being from the area, I got a room in drab the night before. Had my makeover the next morning. Well it turns out the party was a ways from where I was staying, and didn't realize it until it was too late. So all dolled up I checked out of my original hotel, drove the 45 minutes to the party place and got another room very close to the party. Since I had to do it, I just mustered up my courage and walked in. Everyone obviously knew I was a CD, but were all very polite. Checked out and drove home en femme too. It was a great experience, gave me lots of confidence, but I am pretty sure that if I weren't forced to do it, I probably would have chickened out. I came a long way with being comfortable as Jennifer that weekend. Sure people notice, but that's part of the fun I suppose. I just acted like I was the hit of the lobby - and I was!

[Deena]

Karen: I make a reservation in advance. Walk up to the desk and present my credit card and drivers licence. I have never been questioned. For one TriEss dinner meeting I had a social hour in my suite and went to the desk to ask for some paper plates and cups. All enfemme. The same rule applys when checking into a hotel or motel as applies when shopping--Money rules. Besides that it is just fun.

Hugs, Deena

[Sophia Rearen]

Karren,
I too had those same fears. Here is an excerpt from my anthology. You can read the rest of the page here:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ad.php?t=24120
When all is said and done, just do it!


I head toward the never ending blur of noise, that is the casino floor. And people think we crossdressers are outrageous? These places are insane. What a hodge podge of color and gawdiness. Top it off with mirrors everywhere, though, I like that, I get to check my hair, outfit and walk, as I go past. I look at the people sitting at the slots, most pay me no attention as I pass them by. Following the sign to the front desk, I get there without incident. I arrive at the cattle chutes with an old man and a young man in front of me. The young man has a friend with him, he is nearby to the side. Are these the guys from the parking lot I wonder? I try to remain as innocent looking as possible. I stand their with my best female posture, though me feet were killing me. I shuffle my stance from time to time. There is two women working th efront desk, thank goodness. After about 10 minutes, the closest desk girl asks for me. I hand her my itinerary, she tells me what kind of room I'm getting. I think it's what I wanted, I'm not really listening. Just get me to my room, please, now! She needs my i.d. and a major credit card. Oh boy, here we go! I reach into my pocket book and pull them out and place my big bald mug face on the counter. She says nothing, she is very courteous. Thank you.

I get my room keys and she points the way. She didn't even inquire about me needing a bell boy. That's ok, didn't want one. I head through the halls and to the elevator. The female security smiles and I smile back. Another elevator ride. Thankfully, no other passengers. I get to my room. Walk in and to my delight is a huge bathroom. It's what I wanted most in a hotel room. Two sinks, huge shower, a toilet, and a large makeup counter with magnifying mirror and a plush chair to enjoy while I take an eternity to apply my face. Yes, I'm in girl heaven. A room to myself. I can spread out my stuff, yeah!
I drop my things and check my look. Not bad for 8 hours after my shave. I sit at the desk and call room service. They'll be up in 30-40 minutes. Perfect, gives me the opportunity to go back to the car and do it all again, ugh!

[Sue Too]

Hi Karren,

I had an experience some months ago that sort of forced my hand. I was having a Susan Day and had checked into my favorite motel en drab. Following my normal routine I had dressed and had gone to a nearby mall to look for some shoes. After shopping, I returned to the motel for a change of femme clothing and discovered that I had neglected to put the room key card in my purse. Everything else was there but no key card. What to do? Everything except what I did have I my purse was in the room. Looked for a cleaning lady but no luck.

I HAD NO ALTERNATIVE! I went to the office, told them I had locked my key in the room and asked for another. They asked for my driver’s license. They checked the name against the motel registration, returned my license, gave me a quizzical look and another room key.

I’ll not check into this motel en drab again. All I can say is GO FOR IT! Just as in shopping, all they really care about is your money. As far as anybody recognizing you, your femme appearance is totally different than your male look. And darn, that is good.

And while were talking of details, how about a detailed description of your “Change on the Fly” technique. Please include the preplanning activity as well as changing room techniques. I’m sure a lot of us would appreciate it. I done similar things, but I always feel very awkward. I need to smooth my routine.

You’re a dear,

Susan

[MsJanessa]

Hi Karren,

I had an experience some months ago that sort of forced my hand. I was having a Susan Day and had checked into my favorite motel en drab. Following my normal routine I had dressed and had gone to a nearby mall to look for some shoes. After shopping, I returned to the motel for a change of femme clothing and discovered that I had neglected to put the room key card in my purse. Everything else was there but no key card. What to do? Everything except what I did have I my purse was in the room. Looked for a cleaning lady but no luck.

I HAD NO ALTERNATIVE! I went to the office, told them I had locked my key in the room and asked for another. They asked for my driver’s license. They checked the name against the motel registration, returned my license, gave me a quizzical look and another room key.

I’ll not check into this motel en drab again. All I can say is GO FOR IT! Just as in shopping, all they really care about is your money. As far as anybody recognizing you, your femme appearance is totally different than your male look. And darn, that is good.

And while were talking of details, how about a detailed description of your “Change on the Fly” technique. Please include the preplanning activity as well as changing room techniques. I’m sure a lot of us would appreciate it. I done similar things, but I always feel very awkward. I need to smooth my routine.

You’re a dear,

Susan

Reminds Me of the time I went out clubbing with one of My friends dressed in the same outfit you see in My avatar---about 11 pm W/we were returning to My hotel room--the damn card wouldn't open the door---I had to walk My leather covered, high heeled ass down to the front desk to get a new key--that's right big blonde hair, heavy killer makeup, shoulder length black leather gloves, super short, super tight black leather mini dress and thigh high black leather boots with 4 inch heels---oh and did I mention I was carrying a flogger--I suspect I would have drawn attention even if I was a 5' 5" GG dressed like that let alone a 5'11" T-Girl---the two ladies on the front desk just smiled and made Me a new card. After that I got over being embarrassed by being out in public

[amanda barber]

also ...and i'm not kidding here...i'm pretty sure that its against the law to lie when dealing with credit cards..i know we all look at it as a white lie and there is surely no harm but the credit card company might have a different view

Its not against the law to have a second card issued with any name on it. Its not lying. It could be your children, girlfriend, cat or your houseplants name. One of our business cards has 2 additionals on it, "driver redservicetruck" and "driver boomtruck" YOU as the primary cardholder are responsible for paying any and all charges made on that additional card so where does the lie come in?. Its kind of pointless as a way to buy stuff without ID as many card companies have changed the merchant agreement to require ID anyways.

It can be frustrating and embarasing but when the time comes (and it will if your out dressed alot) when you need to show ID, just show it, and move on. Most of the time ID is just glanced at, have a recent lisence photo taken with long hair and no one will even bother looking at name and gender. they glance at the photo and parrot off "yup, thats you" as a trained PR responce when dealing with customers, same as "have a nice day and "welcome to ~~~~, how may I help you".

[Eugenie]

I've not yet checked in a hotel "en femme". So far I have only been going in and out of the hotel while dressed "en femme" after checking in in drab.

I may have to check "en femme" in the near future as I will have a "business" meeting with an European Transgender support organisation and I may not have the possibility to change back in drab before I will check in the hotel. But what I will do, in that case is warning the hotel management ahead of time in order to avoid any surprises...

On the coming in and out of the hotel, I had no problem at all with the staff nor with the custommers who probably didn't notice that I was a CD from the distance...


Eugenie

[Brianna Lovely]

I have not really given it a thought, until you mentioned it, Karren.

I can tell you this, when I use my CC to reserve tickets or a hotel/motel room, I give them my given name and CC number, then tell them that Brianna will be picking up the ticket or "I'll be checking in as Brianna Lovely".

I have not had any problems, yet.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

Karen,
I guess I figured that you had done it all but go figure! Get yourself a state issued ID in your fem name, shouldn't be a problem. Add a credit card in Karen Huttons name and have fun with it. I always use my credit cards and ID when I am out and about en-fem and have never had any problems. I agree it could have been a problem if you were en-fem and your friend spotted you but I'll bet you he wouldn't have known you in your fem mode so he wouldn't have grabbed you, unless of course he is on the prowl for a "hot babe". You can pass easily and should not be all that concerned, I on the otherhand hope to be like you when I grow up.
Love
sandra

[lucytv2003]

i have a few times but let the guy do the talking if it happens, and avoid eye contact. not sure why, f*ck them if they care. they're ignorant fools if they judge another person negatively just because that person likes being the female role, but they're the majority so we have to put up with it and be realistic sadly...

[ArleneRaquel]

Just last Friday my Boyfriend and I checked into a Hotel. He handled the check in while I stood a few feet back from the reservation desk. I was in full female mode, but in my babuska, old clothes, lipstick and Oversized Prescription Sun Glasses, I don't think that I received any looks. After checking in and bathing I changed into more sexy attire and enjoyed a Night of Dining, Dancing, Gambling, and More. & Trina - I Love Being a Girl

[Sam-antha]

It was last year that I first checked into the hotel dressed. Often since.

Points : If there is a choice, take the desk with the crowd in front of it. The staff are busy and want to see the end of the queue.
Credit card : get one with your name showing as K Hutton or X.yyzz the latter being your name without the Mr prefix.
(Photo id I have no idea, but set up the photo with a male looking female){Are you allowed to use your own phot when you obtain the photo ID in the states ?}
Perhaps you could try the small hotel rather than the expense account one, admittedly there will be a larger contact with reception. (Owner ?) but who cares ? Perhaps US small hotels do not bother with the ID business. Surely they are not all running scared....
~Samm

[Karren H]

Lots of great ideas.... may need to get me a boyfriend... hehe Now all I need i another opertunity!!!! Maybe I sould transfere to Marketing.... They travel a lot!!!

Love Karren

[Butterfly Bill]

I just walk in like it's the most normal thing in the world. Since I don't try to pass and never wear makeup, my driver's license picture is no problem. I've done it in motels from North Carolina to California (and in Charleston in 2005 on the way back from the Rainbow Gathering).