I work in an environment with 45 females, and 3 other males. A few of them have a weekly "Girl's night in," where they all hang out together. One of them discovered my Myspace page through a mutual friend's link, and just last night, showed it to everyone else.. And at a job full of women, such gossip spreads faster than a cheerleader's legs on prom night. So this afternoon, when I go into work at 3:00, I expect life to be very interesting...
I guess I should've seen it coming, what with having a female page on myspace and all, the largest network know to man.. But I was constantly in conflict:
1.) On the one hand, the need for discretion. You all know what a raw deal we get. Many of us are still in the closet because of all the relationships, intimate and otherwise, it might damage. Its even worse in the black community where, on average, gender/sexuality acceptance is still where America was in 1955.
2.) On the other hand, I needed to be out, I needed to feel attractive, had an aspect of myself that I needed to express. Preaching to the choir here, I know, but I have to wonder if I was just careless, or if I was subconsciously sabotaging myself?
Anyway let that be a lesson to you ladies, be carefull, and being descrete is like a chess game.. think 2 or 3 moves ahead...