Has living the female side, help you understand females.

[Tamera]

Since you have stepped into a females shoes and have seen things from their point of veiw. Has that helped you with your relationships with them and seen what a female goes through.
Such as maybe their way of thinking,
Why they may be jealous at certain things you do,
Being jealous of other girls,
Why they may yell at you,
Mood swings,
Maybe being looked at as sex objects,
How men hit on women,
How women are treated in the work place,
Etc.
LOL
Tamera

[Kate Simmons]

One of the biggest things I've gotten from it Tamera is new respect for them. While I will never really be a woman, I have a better understanding of what they are "expected" to do by virtue of the fact they are women. Housework--HOW do they do it?, not to mention running errands, co-ordinating schedules, raising children--etc. etc. Being hit on as a "sex object", expected to look like $1,000,000 all the time when you are tired and don't feel well and the biggest one--being expected to be pleasant all the time when you feel anything but. On the plus side, I've got a better sense of empathy and have a need for interpersonal relationships with friends. No one said reality was easy. Like I said, new respect.

[Laura Jane]

Has living the female side, help you understand females.

Nope! They are still an enigma wrapped inside a mystery, to me!

[Suzie S.]

Nope, never, nada...LOL! While I can change my appearance to look like one, I can't rewire my brain to think or feel like one completely. I am male, like it or not. I do believe that embracing and nurturing my fem side has helped me to at least empathize with their trials and tibulations better. GG's are truly a mystery sometimes, and also one of the wonders of the world!

[insearchofme]

What Suzie S. said!!!!

[Angie G]

No I still can't get what goes on in there
Angie

[Karren H]

Nope.... hasn't helped a bit.... still don't understand them...

Can't live with them, can't live without them, might as well live as one of them...... hehe

Love Karren

[Roberta Lynn]

Shopping, Before I started to dress more I could never understand the shopping thing.
Now I know!
It is IMPOSSIBLE to have too many dresses, skirts, tops ,shoes purses, ect.
There is ALWAYS something that would be nice to have.
I may not know a lot about women but I do understand SHOPPING

[Toyah]

I love them to bits but understand them noooo way, I dont even understand myself

[paulaN]

I can't say it has helped me understand them one bit.

[Joanie]

On a surface level, yes, can understand the time it takes in getting prepared to go out as putting on hose, makeup, etc. takes longer than just going out male (actually, I don't go out dressed as a female, don't have the courage yet but you know what I mean).

Beyond that, I don't have periods, so this is only a surface transformation.

[Kristen Kelly]

Can't live with them, can't live without them, might as well live as one of them...... hehe
Love Karren

Shopping, Before I started to dress more I could never understand the shopping thing.
Now I know!
It is IMPOSSIBLE to have too many dresses, skirts, tops ,shoes purses, ect.
There is ALWAYS something that would be nice to have.
I may not know a lot about women but I do understand SHOPPING

[SIZE="3"]Understanding would be a difficult word to use, understand why they do things they do yes. I understand why it takes so long to get ready, why with a closet of clothes they have nothing to wear. What it feels like to be hit on by men, and what it feels not to be hit on by men when you feel you look "HOT." I have walked a mile in their shoes and yes it has made me a better person, one that understands others but one that truely understands myself. [/SIZE]

[Helen H. Heels]

As sister Karren has said, live W/O them but perhaps as one of the sweet gender people.Two marriages and maybe two lifetimes will still bring confusion and questions as to what is going on.

There was a short lived animated series about God and a suburban husband he communicated with. God told this fellow that he created man in his own image but woman, even he could not comprehend!!!

So we continue, a small insight is gained from a forum like this but it is still our expereience that will lead-and don't forget the Mars/Venus disarrangement.

Thanks for listening,
Helen.

[Fab Karen]

[QUOTE=Salandra;824052]One of the biggest things I've gotten from it Tamera is new respect for them. While I will never really be a woman, I have a better understanding of what they are "expected" to do by virtue of the fact they are women. Housework--HOW do they do it?, not to mention QUOTE]

HOUSEWORK EXPECTED? Have you looked at a calendar?

[Kate Simmons]

[QUOTE=Fab Karen;824738]

One of the biggest things I've gotten from it Tamera is new respect for them. While I will never really be a woman, I have a better understanding of what they are "expected" to do by virtue of the fact they are women. Housework--HOW do they do it?, not to mention QUOTE]

HOUSEWORK EXPECTED? Have you looked at a calendar?

I know Karen, that's why I put expected in quotation marks. Nowadays, it's a team effort, at least it should be. Still, some guys from the "old school" (like my father in law) expect to be waited on.

[Pamela75s]

I can not say that I know how a woman feels or thinks, but I do know that I have more respect for them. I have a better understanding on how to treat women, and what they must go through on a daily bases. I try to do what I can to make their life and my wifes life easier. ( I still wish I could live for a good amount of time as Pamela )
Have a good day
Pamela

[trannie T]

I still don't understand women.
When I'm dressed I don't even understand myself.

[veronicag48]

I've been dressing for some 50 years. Had numerous relationships(no brag just fact) and into my 4th marriage of 9 yrs going for ever hopefully. But what really gave me an insight to a women's feelings and mind was about 12 years ago when I was working graveyard shifts and watched the talk shows like Oprha ect that related to women and their inner most feelings and how they needed to be nurtured. Crossdressing for all those years just gave me an insight of how they got into and out of their clothes. But seriously when I got married for the 4th and final time I was already knowledgeable and could handle and comfort my wife when she started going thru "the change". So crossdressing might have contributed to my understanding of the way of a woman's mind. the talk shows of the early days helped a lot. Too bad there aren't any talk shows to show a woman how a man thinks and get into his mind more.

[Deborah]

I can only guess that i do. Since i wasn't born a GG i only have an idea.

[jessie_cal]

Nope they are as much a mystery to me as men who don't crossdress

[JacquiUKTV]

I'm genuinely surprised that so many answer in the negative. I think I understand women quite well...(flow-diagram to follow :LOL.
But seriously, apart from being married I 've had many female friends in my life and have been told more than once (as a compliment) that they like me because I "understand how women think".
Going away now to think this over....I wonder (not without some trepidation) whether there's a little secret I should reveal to myself.....

[SandyR]

Well, I really can appreciate how long it takes to get ready. makup, hiar, get shaved, but other then that, nope!

SandyR

[kerrianna]

I've always understood women better than men, although I'm always learning more, about both sides actually. I'm fortunate in that Carol and I are and have always been best friends, and are open and free with each other. As far as political, social issues go, I've always been pretty sensitive to that (I recall making a sculpture/collage thing when I was about 20 that was about the sexual objectification of women, and how many of my GFs GG friends thought it was totally cool that a guy got that.) I'm not trying to brag here...it's just the way I've always thought. Carol was on the frontlines of domestic abuse and very immersed in feminism for a long period too, so I learned a lot about what kind of barriers women have had to and continue to face.

I also grew up in a strong matriarchal family, and with pretty poor male role models, so that must have influenced me a lot.

Women tend to like and trust me as a friend, which wasn't what I wanted sometimes in the past , but now I'm really glad for that. I've finally started to figure out that I Gender Identify as a female - and that in fact has helped me like men better, oddly enough.

[Tamera]

With some of the replies. Some of us still don't have a clue about women even though we have walked in their shoes.
While others have learned about:
Makeup, Maintanance, cooking, cleaning, children, and being the streagth of a household and being caring when your male spouse needs a lil' comfort.

1. But what about equality with a man?
2. Being bought a drink at the bar because the guy wants to get lucky?
3. Politics?
4. The things that interests women compared to men?
5. Books that a woman will read compared to a man?
6. What a woman looks for in a man?
7. Things that a women talk about when out with the girls compared to what men talk about when?
8. Birth Control?
9. Having babies?
10.Careers?

Come on get in touch with your fem side and give it what you got!!!!

Many of us say that when we are fem our thoughts and actions turn fem also. Well whats the difference that you see between the two?
LOL
Tamera

[kerrianna]

Okay Tamera I'll try to be more specific with what I think.

1. But what about equality with a man?

Ha! I'd like to believe that we are equal but there is still too many things that say otherwise. Pay inequity, the low number of women in positions of real power (and many who are that act like males to get and stay there), inherant sexism in many organized religions still, proliferation of pornography -much of which debases and subsumes women and much of which is built on the backs of abused coerced young women. I could go on. In our society much progress has been made (with great struggle) but it still has a ways to go. In some societies, being female is worse than being a livestock animal.

2. Being bought a drink at the bar because the guy wants to get lucky?

That hasn't happened to me, but I would be curious as to how I would feel. I think it appeals to some parts of me for sure, just to be pursued, to be desired. Of course if the guy is yicky or scary, not so much fun. That's why GFs travel together.

3. Politics?

See my feminism rant above. Politics is still a man's game way too much in my country at least. Getting a bit better, long long way to go. Women weren't even given the vote until 1929 here in Canada.

4. The things that interests women compared to men?

Relationships are more important than things. Intuition and emotions weigh in quicker. Obviously personal appearance and fashion, but that's pushed by consumerism and advertising so much. These are generalities. I know men who value the things I said, and women who repudiate them. But generally speaking those are a few things that come to mind.

5. Books that a woman will read compared to a man?

Books about ordinary people living extraordinary and courageous lives. Some women really love romance books. I haven't read one for awhile. I should try. Might be interesting now that I've accepted myself more. Again, indivduals read different stuff. Some women like non-fiction and scifi, fantasy, but generally I think they read more general fiction.

6. What a woman looks for in a man?

Depends on the woman. Generally I think women want men to be reliable, trustworthy, sensitive and romantic, have a good sense of humour. Being physically capable and attractive doesn't hurt. I don't think rich is that important to most women, as long as the guy isn't a freeloader. Women want a guy who is going to be a supportive, loving, giving part of their lives, not a draining, difficult, untrustworthy person.

7. Things that a women talk about when out with the girls compared to what men talk about when?

Depends on the people. Sometimes girls will talk about men, relationship, and sex in a frank and open way. Sometimes they talk about thier lives in general. Mostly it revolves around the relationships (family/friends/lovers) of their lives. Men talk about things a lot more - sports, cars, jobs, gizmos. They talk about personal things too but in a much more guarded way. With good friends I think guys let their guard done quite a bit and talk about a lot of stuff women talk about.

8. Birth Control?

Only one of the most important things a sexually active woman has to think about. That's why so many women take charge of that. It's their bodies, their lives (not saying men's aren't, just not the same way) that are primarily affected by ....

9. Having babies?

Some women don't ever want to. Some have a great desire too. It depends on the indvidual. Most women who chose either course are happy with their decisions.

10.Careers?

I think most women in our society want to make some contribution and have a career or work identity. Many women recognize that being a mother is a full time job itself and are happy to pursue that. Sometimes when the two clash it can be difficult because in many cases it is the woman who has to make both work. Partly due to pay and power inequity and social expectations. If guys can make more money and are accepted more into the power structures it makes sense for couples to have the guy working more. I do know many couples where that is reversed now, because a female lawyer for instance is able to make more money than a male freelance writer. I think women would like to see more career choices and more equal pay still available to them.

Come on get in touch with your fem side and give it what you got!!!!
Many of us say that when we are fem our thoughts and actions turn fem also. Well whats the difference that you see between the two?
LOL
Tamera

These are generalizations Tamera. And a lot of what I feel with my fem side isn't really well expressed this way. Having said all the above I think there is much much more in common with men and women than what seperates them. That's why we generally get along and like each other, and why many of us can have both sides co-exist within. My