I am writing this thread because I just had a wonderful chat with a very dear friend from England.
We were discussing learning about who we really are. I have posted tons on how we need to be positive about who we are and not let the negativity of others continue to influence and harm us.
In our conversation we concluded that the journey of really looking at who we are can seem freightening and even difficult at first, but essential nevertheless.
The journey of really looking in the mirror and really seeing our souls is so very important. One of the people I admire most once wrote "the truth will set you free." Which has been so very true in my case. I trully feel free because of the truth about what I have discovered so far, regarding who I am. I guess I will never completely know who I am but I am facing a lot of what has been revealed to me in my journey of soul searching.
I am, aside from many other things, a crossdresser who is today completely fulfilled with this part of me. In fact, totally happy and proud to be a crossdresser. I am so greatful to really love this part of me. I do not love this part of me exclusively but it is a major part of who I am today.
It is really wonderful to shed the guilt and self hate I use to know and come to terms with the fact that I do love me and it feels great.
Many might be saying, "great but how do you trully love yourself?"
I want also to make it perfectly clear that I do not love myself because I believe I am perfect. I am as flawed as the next gal, I believe more so. I used to love myself and others based on merit. Some internal scale that only allowed me to love based on achievements or perfection or strength or goodness. All that is over for me now. I love myself because it is good for me to love myself. It was a decision, as easy as that. Yes a decision and one we all have to make. Once the decision is made then comes the work. Like going into an attic and getting rid of the junk. Mentally getting rid of the bad attitudes about yourself and thinking about who put them there. Some were given to us by others and some we put in by ourselves, nevertheless they have to go.
I only wish this for everyone not just crossdressers.
Thanks for letting me share