Being recognized while "en femme"

[Eugenie]

Many of us, me included, fear to be recogized while being outside "en femme" or when showing pictures on a website.

One thing for sure is that I don't look like my male self when I'm "en femme"...

That fear is starting to fade away for me as I've had several occasions to test this situation. In most cases people didn't recognize me al all. Even thos whom I had told about my x-dressing. Showing them a picture of me all dressed, they couldn't identify me...

I met in person a friend whom I had explained my x-dressing and even had shown photos. Being in my physical presence she said "Good afternoon Maam", and it is only when she heard my voice when I replied that she said my "man" name.

I've had this confirmed once more this morning/ a person had so far only seen me "en femme". I had told her about my other handicap related activities.
This morning I was in DRAB mode when I turned on my webcam. Then she said "Wouaoh, I've met you several times at meetings of our association..." But seeing me "en femme" she had not made the link between Eugenie and the man in the association…

Do other sisters have similar experiences or contrary ones where they have been recognized fo who they were. I don't mean being recognized as a man dresses as a woman, but trully recognized as the individual man they are.


Eugenie

[MarinaTwelve200]

Although I DO NOT go out dressed, save for onece Halloween, 2004, I have no concerns showing my pictures, as like you , I look NOTHING like my male self when dressed---a fact that still fascinates even ME.

[Kristen Marie]

I had a banquent dinner with a gal at First Event in Boston this year. Spent hours with her and had photos taken with her. I then changed back to guy mode, stopped by the gathering on the way out to say thank you and she asked who are you? I had to really convince her I was Kristen. That made me feel real good about being dressed in public.

[JenniferR771]

And I have met cds who I had never seen in drab--I didn't recognize them at all. And last week some cds got together in drab and one who had never seen me drab, did not recognize me for several minutes.

And Anita, the nice lady at the optician's office--I told her I was a cd and might wear my wig to pick up my glasses next week. Also wore jeans, heels, padding and light lipstick. She slid open the glass door and said, "May I help you M'am?"
She didn't recognize me until I used my voice.

[marie354]

Myself, anyone that knows me would be able to put two and two together. There's not really much difference, just a more feminine appearance.
My SO said that if you hadn't ever seen me in guy mode, that she didn't think that anyone could tell I wasn't a woman, except for my voice maybe. I'm working on that part though. It's tough trying to keep all those extra unwanted harmonics from popping in unexpectedly when I speak. Singing hasn't helped either. Maybe in time I'll perfect it.

[Kate Simmons]

Only my closest friends know me both ways. I've done what Kristen did in the past and presented myself both ways to the same group of people and they didn't have a clue, unless I told them who I was. Amazing what a little makeup and imagination can do, huh?

[trannie T]

Only on International Crossdressers Day {Halloween} I've gone to a few of my regular hangouts. Everyone enjoyed seeing me in a dress and makeup, don't think they suspect that I dress at other times.

[Karren H]

I'm not that worried any more.... With 450,000 views of my 360 site you think someone would have recoginized me?? I have passed coworkers accross the parking lot while enfemme with no repercussions but I do know a coworker who is also a sister that told me that she figured out who my male side was buy talking to a couple other local CD's.... So if I'm recognized so be it.... Probably most people that know me may already suspect...

Love Karren

[Fab Karen]

I've had that experience before, of someone meeting me in girl mode & then later seeing me boy mode had no idea who I was.

[Toyah]

I dont think anyone would recognise my guy self but hell would spot a CD and thats the real problem for me

[Stlalice]

Nowhere near as big a problem as most CD's would think it is. For me, my appearance is quite different from the male mode appearance that I'm forced to maintain for work. As others have said, the voice is the only sure give away so as long as I keep my mouth shut I'm OK. One big factor is that I avoid venues where meeting a coworker would be more likely - sporting events, casinos, some bars, and hunting/fishing type stores ( Bass Pro Shops, etc.). Face it, most of the guys I work with regard going shopping at the mall as a form of torture to be avoided at all costs. Enter a womens clothing store voluntarily? No way! The one time I spotted a coworker I walked right past him and turned into a Coldwater Creek store (love their clothes!) - no recognition and no problems - he was gone when I came out.The biggest obstacle to going out en femme is getting past the fear of being spotted as a CD/TS - dressing to blend in and adopting a confident attitude is the key there. Enjoy yourself and be safe.

[cindychan]

I don't really care if I get reconized. Though it seems like the two sides are different as night and day

[Sweet Jane]

I look a little different as a girl....

[Dixie]

[SIZE="3"]They way people who know me have recognized me is by being with my wife, they know we are inseperable so that's the give away, and yet I still fooled some of the "Mayberry" crowd on Halloween, even though I was with my wife. [/SIZE]

[Rachel Morley]

I think there is a big difference between what I look like as a guy and when I am dressed en femme. Even my wife's sister Heather, when she first saw a picture of me dressed my wife said she said: "gosh! is that *******?? ... he sure looks different!"

Regarding being recognized .... I think it's highly unlikely. On two separate occasions I have been shopping at the mall and I almost literally bumped into a co-worker (one time it was a guy the other time it was a GG) as I turned around. Both times I made brief eye contact with the person and then turned and calmly walked away from the area. Nothing happened. Like Dixie says, if I'm going to get outed it will most likely (but not definitely) be because of association, as I always go out en femme with my wife.

[Krystenw]

I have only just lately started going anywhere dressed as a women. About the third or fourth time that my wife had sent me to get some groceries I was pushing the cart through the store looking for things on her list and listening to the click of the heels of my pumps on the tile floor. When one of the nurses I work with walked past me in the other direction. Just in passing she said Hi. Well, not thinking I said Hi back. I no sooner said it and I knew I was in trouble. She stopped and backed up and looked at me and
told me that if I would have not said anything that she would have never recognized me. She was smiling and asked what I was doing in makeup and a dress. I told her that I had lost a bet with my wife. She just shook her head and laughed and we parted ways.
A few days later at work she asked If I had lost any more bets.
That has been almost three weeks ago and I have not heard anything more about it. If she did mention it to anyone it hasn't gotten back to me anyway.
I learned that if anyone smiles and says Hi just to smile back and nod your head.
Krysten

[crusadergirl]

I showed my best friend my girl pic and he didn't have a clue who it was. He just thought it was some girl i met. I don't think many will figure it it out and if they do good for them.

[Ashlee]

However, I look absolutely nothing like my girl pic. If i had a desk job I"m confident that I could post a picture of me en-femme and go unrecognized. I could pass myself off as a girlfriend, a friend whatever. I can look at my en femme photos and see nothing of my male self which I find fascinating. Perhaps a future halloween I can put this to the test with friends and see what happens. I've never been to a halloween party though, each year I kepp hoping, each year it passes me by (sigh)

[Mitch23]

I showed a 'girlfriend' my picture. She knew it was me but she couldn't comprehend it was me. I just enjoyed the look on her face and recognition when it dawned on her!

mitch

[Emily Ann Brown]

I have shown Em's photo while standing there before them in drab and they just go "NO WAY....REALLY??????????"


Emily Ann

[Stephenie S]

Oh yeah, the "I lost a bet", ploy. That's about as transparent as they get, isn't it?

Lets think about it for a minute. How often in your life have you placed a bet with someone (your spouse?) where the looser has to buy an entire outfit, shoes, hose, and underwear, put on complete makeup, and then go food shopping at the local market?

Time for a reality check here, I think. LOL

Steph

[Denielleinheels]

It hasn't happened yet but I get wierd looks all the time. Especially now with it being summer. I shave everything so the shorts season is upon us. My nails are always done so I am used to getting looks from people. I guess it wouldn't matter to me if they did.

[kellyann2012]

I love the fact that I can dress up and my own mother would not recognize me. I post my pics almost everywhere and have never been noticed by anyone I know, then again most people I know would not go where I do...

[Michelle04240]

I was at a bar with my wife and a gg friend. This was shortly after I told my wife about my CDing, and she had a need to get someone else's view on the subject. This would be the first person I told. I came prepared and brought a small photo album with about 20 pictures. A few minutes after my wife told her, I pulled out the book and showed her the pics. After looking at pictures, which were early and not my best, she asked who it was. I held the book up next to my face and struck a pose. She was shocked. I guess I see myself in every picture and often wonder how others see me. But anyway, I have pics all over and don't worry about being seen.

[stefcd1]

I have a gg friend who I occasionally hang with. She had not seen me anything except as a woman, when I showed her my drivers license, she couldn't believe so yes, I suppose I look different as a woman vs myself.