How serious are you?

[Victoria Gizelle]

Please shed some light to my Questions.? So that I may get 2 know myself and you better. only answer what is relavent 2 u. How serious is it for you? could you stop? is it sexual? how much do you spend? do you have S.O.? how do they feel about it? how often do you dress? where do you dress? do you shave? paint your toenails? do you hide them? do you dress in secret? do you feel normal about the whole thing? do you want to be a women? do you act femme 24/7? do you feel the need to dress? if you don't dress? how does it make you feel? or are you just dressing up cause you can and want?. why? what are the reasons you dress?

[Dixie]

[SIZE="3"][SIZE="4"]YES and NO to all, depending on my mood, except is it sexual and then it's a YES YES OH GAWD YES!!!![/SIZE][/SIZE]

[Seville]

Too many questions,Hun!

[Karren H]

Ahhhhh What's a quests????

Ohhhh and I'm totally serious.... about having fun while crossdressing that is....

Karren

[Billijo49504]

Hi, Well the wife and I both have platinium cards at Lqane Bryant stores. Plus she gets me stuff at Avenue. I think I have 3 pr of men's underwear and I fill out a 38C or 40 b bra. So ai think she knows,LOL.
Right now I have on a bra and panties and shorts from Avenue and a shirt from LB. My puppies want to peak over the top of the bra, to see if the weather is good....BJ

[Sharon]

Very, no, no, lots, no, n/a, full-time, everywhere, yes, usually, no, no, yes, yes, dunno, n/a, normal, n/a.

Okay, I think I got them all.

Too many questions for one thread! But it's nice to have you here.

[Phoebe Reece]

Not very, not forever, no, a good bit, yes, OK, regularly, wherever I am, yes, no, no, no, yes, no, no, yes, distracted, sometimes, etc.

What Quests?

[Rita Knight]

Hi Victoria,
I think I am totally serious about dressing. I spend way too much money on it and I have a wardrobe most of you would die for. I live alone and do not have a girlfriend. I guess this statement sums up why I dress: I couldn't find the woman of my dreams so I decided to become her. I dress once a week to go out with other CDs. I think this answers the more basic of your questions.

[lowlavalentine]

Vitoria, I do believe you've covered pretty near every major question in the crossdressing world - remarkable in just one paragraph. People have written books on some of these subjects.

Let me tackle one that I consider a fundemental question:

Could I stop? - Only temporarily and very unhappily.

[Kate Simmons]

Whoa Victoria, too early in the morning for me to play "twenty questions". I will say , however, that I take dressing seriously because I figure if I'm going to to it, I'm going to do it right. I don't take MYSELF that seriously, however, and just have a lot of fun with it. It's easier for me to walk around with a smile on my face than it is for me to walk around being all stolid and somber.

[kerrianna]

Victoria, honey, I see you've been a member since Nov 06 and this is your 4th post. If you asked each of these questions over that period one at a time you'd have a couple of hundred posts! You been saving them up girl!

Relax, take a deep breath.

How serious is it for you? VERY
could you stop? NO

is it sexual? NOT REALLY - SOMETIMES SENSUAL
how much do you spend? TOO MUCH
do you have S.O.? YES
how do they feel about it? YOU'D HAVE TO ASK HER - SHE'S SUPPORTIVE AND INTERESTED
how often do you dress? EVERYDAY MOST OR ALL OF THE DAY. AT LEAST PARTIALLY, EXCEPT SOME WORK SITUATIONS
where do you dress? MAINLY AT HOME - PARTIALLY OR UNDERDRESS ANYWHERE AND EVERYWHERE
do you shave? YES - WISH I DIDN'T HAVE TO. SOON TO CHANGE I HOPE
paint your toenails? YES
do you hide them? NOT ANY MORE
do you dress in secret? NO
do you feel normal about the whole thing? NO SUCH THING AS NORMAL - BUT I FEEL TRUE TO MYSELF
do you want to be a women? I AM ONE - BIT OF AN ODD ONE
do you act femme 24/7? I DON'T HAVE TO ACT - IT COMES NATURAL
do you feel the need to dress? NOT NECESSARILY, BUT I AM IN BALANCE WHEN I DO REGULARILY
if you don't dress? how does it make you feel? DEPRESSED SOMETIMES, BUT SOMETIMES IT DOESN'T MATTER - BUT I'M USUALLY DRESSED PARTIALLY ALL THE TIME
or are you just dressing up cause you can and want? NO "JUST" ABOUT THAT
etc. and so on. AWW, YOU GOT TIRED TOO

[Ekatcha]

Holy cow, this reminds me of the 20 questions from "Home Alone"

How serious is it for you? Fairly
could you stop? No, tried before more times than I can count.
is it sexual? No. I agree with Kerrianna - sometimes sensual
how much do you spend? I'm not looking that the C.C. statement this month!
do you have S.O.? Not anymore.
how do they feel about it? Told her, she was ok with it (and a number of other things I wasn't as it turned out)
how often do you dress? Every day.
where do you dress? Home mostly.
do you shave? Yes
paint your toenails? Yes
do you hide them? Yes, when not at home.
do you dress in secret? Yes. Sometimes not so secret, though thats usually more androgynous.
do you feel normal about the whole thing? I'm coming to terms. Nothing is normal in my worldview & I have such low self worth/esteem thats where the no comes from and the yes comes from acceptance, so I'm somewhere in the middle.
do you want to be a women? it'd be my dreams come true (literally).
do you act femme 24/7? Not necessarily.
do you feel the need to dress? Yes.
if you don't dress? how does it make you feel? Like I'm trying to forget a part of me. It's not so much a dress and more of a persona. Anytime/where else, I'm a persona that's expected of me, that fits in. When I'm home & alone, I feel like who I am, such as it is.

[Carroll]

I guess I can jump in and answer the questions

How serious is it for you? Fairly

could you stop? No

is it sexual? No.

how much do you spend? As little as possible (thrift stores, yard sales)

do you have S.O.? Yep.

how do they feel about it? She enjoys it when I am dress because she knows I am happy

how often do you dress? Varies from every do to a few times a week.
where do you dress? Home mostly.

do you shave? Yes, but just my face

paint your toenails? no

do you hide them? N/A.

do you dress in secret? No, not really

do you feel normal about the whole thing? Yep

do you want to be a women? maybe for a few days

do you act femme 24/7? Not really.

do you feel the need to dress? Yes.

if you don't dress, how does it make you feel? depending on the day I can be ok with it, and other days it bothers me that I cant

[Paulacder]

Very Seriouss....No...No...To Much....Yes...OK....Quite Often.....Home....Yes....Yes.....Sometimes.....No. ....Yes.....No......No.....Yes.....Nervous

[Daintre]

Hi Victoria, I am glad to see your first try at a thread, Kerrianna gave you some good advice, I hope you take it to heart. I will answer the questions dear, but I also would like to hear your answers to them.


How serious is it for you? very
could you stop? No, tried several times
is it sexual? No.
how much do you spend? Way to much
do you have S.O.? divorced
how do they feel about it? Told her, Initially OK, but grew to hate it
how often do you dress? Every day.
where do you dress? Home mostly.
do you shave? Yes
paint your toenails? Yes
do you hide them? No
do you feel normal about the whole thing? No, I feel I am a gifted person
do you want to be a women? Yes
so you act femme 24/7? Not possible
do you feel the need to dress? Yes.
if you don't dress? how does it make you feel? If I don't then it is a feeling of despair, moodiness and anger

[O2B Barbara]

Victoria,

You sure aske a lot in one little post! I apologise to those that answered before me as I copied the list that they typed in, I am a slow typist and so I say thank you Ekatcha.


How serious is it for you? very
could you stop? No, tried several times
is it sexual? No and at times yes, the feel of ligerie....
how much do you spend? less than I would like probably more than I should
do you have S.O.? yes - Wife
how do they feel about it? Very supportive
how often do you dress? underdress daily, more as often as possible
where do you dress? Home mostly.
do you shave? Legs but not face yet, for my wife she loves the beard (but it is coming soon)
paint your toenails? not yet but soon
do you hide them? No
do you feel normal about the whole thing? yes
do you want to be a women? Not necessarilly permanent, but yes
do you act femme 24/7? Not possible
do you feel the need to dress? Yes.
if you don't dress? how does it make you feel. Like a part of the real me is missing, I do get grouchy.

[MsJanessa]

Vitoria, I do believe you've covered pretty near every major question in the crossdressing world - remarkable in just one paragraph. People have written books on some of these subjects.

Let me tackle one that I consider a fundemental question:

Could I stop? - Only temporarily and very unhappily.

Same with me Darling and I should add that I have two sides, both of which I like and have fun with. One is feminine and the other masculine---I'm comfortable with both and could no more cut one side out of my life than I could the other.

[Michelle04240]

How serious is it for you? I would say so
could you stop? No, and have no desire to.
is it sexual? Used to be, but not so much anymore
how much do you spend? As much as my budget says I can
do you have S.O.? Yes.
how do they feel about it? She is ok with it all
how often do you dress? Every day.
where do you dress? Home mostly, but I do go out now and then
do you shave? Yes
paint your toenails? Yes
do you hide them? only from the kids.
do you dress in secret? My family knows, but I don't dress in front of them, except my wife.
do you feel normal about the whole thing? Everything I do is normal for me :P.
do you want to be a women? I have thought about it
do you act femme 24/7? Not really, unless you count my desire to shop, fashion, my make-up skills, etc......
do you feel the need to dress? Yes.
if you don't dress? how does it make you feel? Always have the urge.

[pennycdtv1]

very serious stuff that i am drawn too by something i dont know but i do know it feels great, yes its sexual and believe me many times i tried to stop but to no avail. I send what I dont have, but sometimes you just have to have it, my so doesn not know, i dress at home in secret ,paint my toe nails, shave only in the winter months, i want to feel and be a woman 24/7, and feel that i have the need to dress cause when i dont, i feel very lousy and uncomfortable.

[Toni Shelton]

How serious is it for you? Very, I am tired of putting on the front of being male.
Could you stop? No, and have no desire to.
Is it sexual? I used to think it was, but I know now it is the companionship I need.
How much do you spend? All the extra money I have, I love thrift stores.
Do you have S.O.? Yes, And I couldn't make it without her.
How do they feel about it? She is good with it, She helps me be me.
How often do you dress? Every day-undergarments, as much as I can fully.
where do you dress? Home mostly, but I do go out now and then
Do you shave? My face everyday- Body sometimes
Paint your toenails? When I fully dress, the nails are not what make the woman.
Do you hide them? Only from the kids.
Do you dress in secret? I dress and hit the car to get away. My wife and I go for car rides.
Do you feel normal about the whole thing? I feel "NORMAL" when I am dressed. Its when I am not dressed, I feel I am trying to be someone I am not.
Do you want to be a women? I am a woman inside, But I am in no way going to have SRS. Oh the pain of it all. And the cash isn't there.
Do you act femme 24/7? Not really, unless you count my desire to shop, fashion, my make-up skills, the movies I pick, etc......
Do you feel the need to dress? I have the need/desire to be me, the person inside.
If you don't dress? how does it make you feel? I get moodie, short tempered, and I think about dressing more and more.

[aka.laura]

How serious is it for you? VERY
could you stop?No, never
is it sexual? Yes, very much
how much do you spend? as much as I can
do you have S.O.? Yes
how do they feel about it? she loves it
how often do you dress? every day
where do you dress? at home
do you shave? yes
paint your toenails? yes
do you hide them? only for the kids
do you dress in secret? when nmy so gone I tend to dress "overdone"
do you feel normal about the whole thing? YES
do you want to be a women? NO
do you act femme only when I dress ;o))
24/7? do you feel the need to dress? YES
how does it make you feel? Great!
or are you just dressing up cause you can and want? etc. and so on.

[Teddie]

Serious as a heart attack when the mood is right. And, the older I get the more the mood feels right.

[Emily Ann Brown]

OMGosh you are inquisitive !


I'll try to sum it up like this......my gender issue cost me a long and happy marriage, so I'm very serious about it. Therapist didn't help either. I'm a cheapskate so the spending is in check (for now). I am 24/7 shaved, pantied, and painted toenails (clear on fingernails). I like to go out as myself and enjoy life.


Glad you are here sis...now take a breath. We have the rest of our lives to get to know each other.


Emily Ann

[yms]

Hi

It's a little bit old now (1999) but here is a survey that was done on-line. It discusses much of what you are asking about.

Survey of Crossdressers

Yvonne

[marie354]

-- I'm serious about dressing. It's part of who I am. No, I'll never stop.
-- When I was a teen, I get turned on by it, but at that age, I got turned on if the wind was blowing the right way.
-- I tend to spend more on my clothes than anything else. Once in a while I'll spot that dress I just have to have and say... $100!... Well, I'm worth it.
-- I have a woman living with me that I care for very much. She supports me to the point that If I really want to come out of the closet fully in public, she'll be there to hold my hand.
-- I dress every day when I'm at home and shave everything in the shower.
-- I love pretty painted toenails and I generally wear socks if out in public.
-- I don't know if you'd call it dressing in secret or not... I dress normally every day. If I go out it's usually jeans, like other girls. I feel pretty much normal about it any more.
-- I've always wished that I could be a woman, but now, this old bod probably couldn't handle the changes necessary.
-- Sometimes I can act femme, sometimes I don't. I'm a moody wench.
-- Of course I need to dress... Got to cover the birthday suit with something. I feel more relaxed and myself when I'm dressed as a woman, and I dress because I want to and wear pretty much what I want when I want.

Now... Are you a psyche major or are you just trying to figure yourself out. I gave up looking for logical answers, it just is, I just am... I'm happy, and that's what really counts.