Ok, I have been thinking about FtM because of posts here recently.
My 10 year old daughter is 'going through a phase' (doesnt that sound like what all our mothers would have said?). Her 12 year old sister is very femme, and the 10 year-old is rebelling at hand-me-downs.
Her best friend is a guy, on the other hand he just came back from choir camp. Oh stereo types are are everywhere aren't they?
She will NOT wear pink, lace, ribbons, or frills of any kind. Her favorite color is purple though she doesn't consider it girly. She will wear one and only one kind of flower design and only because it matches her nick name which is very femme.
The thing that struck me is that stereotypes and dressing are just inaccurate. This girl is several inches shorter than her classmates and is barely over fifty pounds with a very feminine face, and insists on keeping her blond hair waist length. She views none of these things as fem. She is quite happy with her size and she thinks of her hair in terms of a Nirvana Era Dave Grohl rather than Barbie. (She HATE all things Barbie. Thinks it is inane and vapid)
We found some boys polo shirts and selected all the purple ones for her, and some more 'masculine' ones for the 8 year old boy. I also found some khaki cargo pants from the boys section in her side. SHE was pleased. She has been indifferent or irritated with most clothes we have gotten her in the recent past.
Oh and the most "femme" boys polo was one with a thin purple stripe, lime green and light blue bands. The Boy dove for that, its his favorite. He has been clomping around in his mom;s heels (the higher the better) since he could walk. Since I began buying shoes for Barbara only the last 2-3 months, the communal shoe collection has grown considerably. (I wear 9-10 Dee wear 8-9 so there is some overlap). He came in our room the other day and tried on a pair then proceeded to select and try on one by one each and every pair of "Barbara's" shoes ignoring Dee's! Like Father, Like Son. I am so proud. ~tears~ and Grins.
Oh the other one is the teenager who went through a serious EMO period. I was horrified at the time but its funny (and relevant now)
Jury is still out on the infant. SHE looks so cute in BLUE. Matches her eyes. We have a lot of donated, dove for, and craigslist finds. she can wear a different outfit a day for years if she doesn't grow, and so far she hasn't. Our cat weighs more and shes almost one.