I guess for me it's mostly for sense of community, to reinforce the sense that I am not alone with my hosiery and lipstick thing. I also learn some things now and then.
I guess for me it's mostly for sense of community, to reinforce the sense that I am not alone with my hosiery and lipstick thing. I also learn some things now and then.
It is a place where I can come to and learn more about the overwhelming changes that are presenting themselves to me. Somewhere I can find understanding and support, like minded people and stories of inspiration that will guide me in my recent transition and awakening. Otherwise I would still be the same screwed up male I was a few months ago.
I want to post this answer BEFORE I read every one else's to be sure that I am not influenced by their response. I would make a small distinction though -the true "object of this forum" or its reason for coming into existence can only be spoken to by those who started it, but I will tell you why I value it.
You can come here to know you are not alone.
You can come here to share - your triumphs and your failures.
You can come here to seek advice or to offer it.
You can come to learn from the experience of others.
I think those are the main points for me!
Originally Posted by Kieron Andrew
Plus, it's not porn & hookups.
Real girls, real questions, real stories, real problems and real solutions / support.
V/R -k-
I have only been here 3 days i can tell you why I will stay
To fell normal 7 years ago I commited to live alone so I coud dress
and in my apartment Alone in dress i felt normal.
I felt so right for the first time in years relaxed and the end all happy I remember the day This is me. Backe then I had no computer no knowledge of them.I worked 4 10 houres a days as a mechanic and 2 at a tattoo shop tattooing I dressed every sunday.
After a little over a year I relized I lived only for sunday. The whole week was to keep bills paid so I could lock the door unplug the phone and do things around the hose in girls clothes.
I quit the factory I was happier alone in my apartment I tattoed 4 days and had 3 for me.I had bought a computer and thought what if I could make a living off the internet dressed as a me controil all my time live as I want when I want long story short
yes with houres of hard work I worked all day and night as me I even forgot and went to the store 2 times with light makeup on The peopel new me for years and I knew what i forgot as soon as we made eye contact
However my new life gave me strength to think screw them screw them all If I have to I will live alone without friends and for 2 years
I did worked and lived at home somtimes not leaving for over a week my own little well stocked world I opend a storefront this year so now I see maney people every day However allin my mask of what society calles male clothing and little time to dress latly
lead to a google search I had serched years ago. maney times but nothing lie this came up Just porn.
So I come here becouse after years of walking alone in a dessert I see a society of people like me and I hope
and It feels natural it makes me happy info on all thes organized things I knew nothing of this I come her to not be alone I read post and already I see maney people I would like to get to know
I come here becouse this is my lifestyle and I want to start living it
I cant explane how happy I was to find this place it is in a oasis in what for maney was a lonly and confusing dessert
For me I find it positive therapy, by that I mean that I can come here to learn more about myself, and possibly help others in need. I hope to make lifelong friends here that truly understand who I am and why I do what I do. I found this forum quite by accident and I am glad to be here.
If you want to live life on your own terms:
"You gotta be willing to Crash & Burn"
Dakota
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I couldn't have said it any better myself.
A Community for Crossdressers, their Family and Friends.
There is a prominent sign posted just outside of town with curious symbols of F-A-Q that hardly anyone reads inititally in their understandable rush to reach...
The welcome embrace of the Welcome Committee. A lot of people do tireless but interesting duty there, No stranger enters with out a sincere embrace or a peck on the cheek. After the long journey arriving here remembered by all here it is hard not to be curious about the very next arrivals, dusty from the trail.
There are different buildings to shelter from the elements the people who in that building are gathered in discussions of varied importance to them.
As you enter town, there is the main town square where everyone passes through checks the gossip and either stays to shoot the breeze or each other before going on about the business of why they came. Some stay to watch the traffic, some are gregarious and like talking to everyone. I am not sure why town square is called FtM. It is for the most part a pretty clean looking town with the occasional inadvertent littering episode discretely picked up by circling moderators. Occasionally if the trash recepticals are full or have overflowed, or on hot days when decomp is faster, some of the populous cries out for more pick-up days.
Still in the public space, just off to the side, under the spread of a welcoming oak is a place for a little more reflective thoughts about who we are and what makes us who we are.
Nearby with membership one can duck into the body shop to discuss repairs and upgrades to the chassis.
There is a little used store, It would be good to see more merchandise in stock. Apparently though we are a community of hoarders at last comfortable with our stash and loath to part with it (except Karren of course).
There are quiet lanes for reflection, even a house of worship where we can connect with others and possible some higher power. There is a really supportive clinic for mental health issues.
There is a pool hall where the boys hang out. I expected it to be a bit more raucous in there than it actually is. I sometimes slip in there when I am really feeling in touch with my sensitive side, and always find the boys often deep in real meaningful conversations and courteous to a lady.
There is a well staffed with volunteers preparation and recovery center for those who are just about to head out to the big city or just back from there for corrective surgery.
There is a woman's hall where entrance is only granted after the secret knock is learned. The mysteries there I know not of, but I will say my wife emerges there from often with a smile affixed
There is a street of shop windows where the giddy teen girls gather and look in the windows and compare notes on fashion. There is also a powder room nearby for them to check there make-up.
The art gallery is very progressive with unfinished works displayed next to stunning artistry all to good acclaim. This progressive community values beauty and seems to truly appreciate it in all its forms.
There is a building for planing and zoning and where one goes to apply for a varience.
There is an electronic fix-it shop.
Oh and the park. It seems free from cares,with rides and amusements, poets and poets to be minstraling about, and games and laughter.
I forgot..what was the question?
Oh Its a place for what society and biology calls guys to figure out why wearing a skirt has its appeal, for what society and biology calls girls to figure out why it is that a skirt was thrust into their wardrobe, and for the family and friends to have a place to hold the hands of their loved one while they figure all that out.
And for me, apparently, a place to practice my typing.
Vincent Vega: Well, I confess that I wait to talk, but I am trying to learn to listen. (paraphrased)
Barbara's Blog
Kieron,
I'm here because people like KarenHutton can answer the question in one line, and because people like RobertaFermina and BarbaraTalbot answer it in 75 lines.
I'm here because people like me are here. People like ta2 who tell such emotionally moving stories not all too disimilar from my own.
And I'm here because it splices in FTM's and sometimes I find the tone of the FTM's soothing.
And, because I can live my 'in my heart of hearts' life here in cyber-space, whereas I can't, or won't, or am still trying to figure out how to, do that in the real world.
hugs,
'lissa
* PS, and because I get insomnia and this place is open all night.
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For me this is the only place I express my feeling as Trinni. Even though I still keep pretty much everything about myself a secret, here I tell what I have done, want to do and how I feel about things I don't feel I can tell anyone else. As I have mentioned before, I seriously doubt my wife would want to see her man dressed as a woman and my children are very young and it would really confuse them. I also have to admit keeping Trinni a secret is fun for me. Don't get me wrong, I would love to go out in public as Trinni but part of my likes the fact I have something that no one who personally knows me, knows about. This is the only secret I have from my wife and I like having at least one secret. Now that I have drifted away from the real question I would have to add not only so I can express my feeling and experience about cross dressing, it's so I can learn from other people experience and know that a lot of what I have thought since I was a kid, is the same things other people think too. I also like to see the different thoughts people have since some of us crossdress full time, some part time, and some not at all.
I'm with you Ruth
Freedom to be an individual is all powerful
Oh well, actually it's for all the reasons listed above from everybody.
How do you get stockings on without damaging them with t h o s e nails Trinni? Sorry, changed the subject - they are yours, aren't they?????
Freedom to be an individual is all powerful
A place we can talk to others with our interest and to share info on dressing and support eachother in time of need
Angie
Ladies alot of you are stating your own personal reasons for coming here, im not asking for that....im asking what the object of the forum is in a broader sense, why is it here for everyone in the first place? what is its purpose meant to be for everyone, i.e what do you think the forum is here to achieve? i cant put it any plainer than that
Brother and sisterhood is what it's all about. This place is here for crossdressers, mtf and ftm as well as ts etc, and GGs to come in and have a place to talk with others of like mind. A place where we can talk to each other from around the world and share our experiences and hopes/dreams, and find out that we are not alone in what we do.
Kandis
Someone once told me "Put on Your big girl panties and deal with it". If they only knew, I WAS ALREADY WEARING THEM.
I wear the bras and panties so my wife doesn't have to.
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To help any (esp. CD/TG/TS/SO) sincerely curious about gender/dressing and attached gifts or baggage. To share and to ask. To gain the understanding needed to accept ourselves and maybe acheive the craved for acceptance of others.
there...2 lines!
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Vincent Vega: Well, I confess that I wait to talk, but I am trying to learn to listen. (paraphrased)
Barbara's Blog
Just being able to converse with like-minded folk, see their problems and pleasures.
Oh and the pics are onderful and an inspiration to us
Here I can meet people.
(Something I do outside of this forum )
Here I can talk about my Cd activities........ if I want to.
(I know now that I am not alone [and twisted] and that there are others who thought they were alone.)
I can share with people.
(People can share with me)
There can be friends here.
(They are increasingly difficult to find in the real outside world.)
~Samm
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'Kerriana "Samantha.....i feel like I'm hearing her through fractured glass.. She makes sense if you kinda squint"
To provide a place where we can support each other & learn from one another. And maybe even understand one another.
If we can't understand and accept us, what hope do we have for wider acceptance?
Robin
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
Diagonally parked in a parallel universe
A place to go to achieve peace and understanding, and a release for pent up frustration?alot of you are stating your own personal reasons for coming here, im not asking for that....im asking what the object of the forum is in a broader sense, why is it here for everyone in the first place? what is its purpose meant to be for everyone, i.e what do you think the forum is here to achieve?
my friends, my support group network, my family, my encouragement, my learning place ...
mitch
You haven't asked the right question Kieron. Do you want to know what purpose people WANT it to have?....or do you want to know what people THINK its purpose is, from having visited it?
The REAL answer to your question is that the forum exists and was created in order to generate advertising revenue. A bi-product is that is has become a useful resource and credible source of information and entertainment for the CD community....which generates more visitors....which creates more advertising revenue.
But anyway.....
I THOUGHT its purpose.....(the one molded over the years and created by the Mods and members) was as a place where people could express their genuine emotions, problems and feelings, regarding ALL CD/TG issues.....without being subjected to the usual sexual excess on the internet. And where, as a result, people make friends, have a laugh, share triumphs and failures and become educated.
The problem Admin has is that there are four distinct groups, which have very different needs and it is impossible to cater to them all without somehow redefining the FUNCTION of the forum.
How can you be honest and genuine about the CD experience without discussing the issues of sexuality and fetishes?
How can you create an environment that a GG could visit without being made sick by the references to confused sexuality and fetishes honestly expressed?
How can you make FtM feel welcome even though they have virtually nothing in common with CDs?
How can you make TS feel welcome without fragmenting the forum and making a distinction between one group and another?
I don't know the answer but I think the structure as it is is fragmented enough. What is required is some sort of common understanding amongst the members that when you post in a section you don't naturally fall into, that you are a GUEST. And therefore, like a guest, you should maybe keep some of your opinions to yourself...or rephrase them somewhat.
THAT'S WHY GG's get a hard time when they post something provocative in the MtF section about CDs.
THAT'S WHY EVERYONE gets a hard time if they post something provocative in the FtM section about FtMs.
THAT'S WHY a CD gets a hard time if they post something provocative in the TS section.
They are seen as Guests, intruding....... rudely.
Regardless of everyone's best intentions, divisions exit, and whole sections of the forum have been created to accomodate those specific divisions. Therefore, what is required are not more divisions, but a common philosophy.
(I of course reserve the right to call anyone a complete tosspot. Thank you.)
How about a source of inspiration, for support and use as needed by each indivisual.
Ah...that ugly thing...the truth.
Morgan
“Truth Hits Everybody"
Julie York as usual nailed it!
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