Originally Posted by
NicoleY
I've been a long time lurker on this forum. Though I was never registered, I appreciated all the comments and support you've all indirectly provided.
Nicole, this 15-year of closeted CDer is now done at 27 years of age. Just last night, I was caught by my wife and through extensive discussion as two mature adults, we came to a conclusion in the discussion that my stopping CDing would be the optimistic path for both of us.
There was a thread in the other section that asked what kind of CDer am I? For me, CDing has not been an integral part of my life. I identify myself as a straight male, very attracted to women (well, mostly my wife), and like my guy life. CDing has always been a little something extra on top.
For those 15 years, I've managed to keep it a secret. My wife and I have dated for 4, engaged for 1, and married for 2: total of 7 years of relationship. Not once, has she noticed my CDing.
As others have stated, through discussion, we found that it was really the secrecy, the hiding, and the lies that were hurting her, though I never meant to hurt her that way.
We've talked all night last night and a few hours this evening. And we've explored all possibilities and scenarios. Our decision to put an end to my CDing seemed to make sense for the both of us.
Anyway, I will be disposing my clothes. I was originally going to give them to Goodwill, but I would rather donate them to another CDer who could make use of them. These clothes are meant to be worn: and I want to help other CDers. They are completely free. I will not ask for money. I'm in Southern California (East Long Beach, near CSULB), so if you'd like to come by, I'd be happy to give them to you.
Mostly, the sizes range from Medium to Large. I have a lot of jeans, lots of tops, a couple of dresses, tank tops, shirts, etc etc etc.... knee-high boots, 6-inch heel strappy sandals, and other shoes. Unfortunately, I don't have pictures of them as this was decided just this evening. Overall, collectively, I think there has to be over 60 pieces of clothing (probably more than that).
I am going to put them all in boxes. I would appreciate it if someone could come by and pick them up?
Also, if this is not permitted to do here, I will gladly donate them to Goodwill. Thanks for everything, ladies. I love you all.
-Nicole.