Why Do We Cross Dress?

[Glenda58]

When I was younger it was sexual the feel of the cloths and the taboo that it was wrong if I got caught. Then as I got older the fantasy of being a girl and doing things that girls did. Putting on makeup, having breast, long hair, getting my ears pierced. Knowing all the time if my wife caught me that it would end my marriage and it did.

Now older entering my sixties I dress to pass. To act and do things women do. I shop dressed try on cloths go out to eat go to shows. I even work around my home outside dressed. I have been Madam, Dear, Honey.I have been call a lady. I have mistaken for someones wife at a TG meeting. This all made me feel good that I could pass. But for what why do I or us need to dress up. Most of the we are alone when we dress or we must hurry to get it in before someone see us then we quick change back to our male selves. We hind our cloths. We're ashame of what we do. We fear that if we are fond out that we could lose our jobs our families and friends.

Some of us have SOs that accept us but not in front of them. And SOs accept and do things with you. I think that's wonderful for you. But most of us our SO would leave us in a heart beat if they fond out.

We have the forum to talk to others but again we are alone at home. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life just to dress up. I want someone to be with as I get older. Going to meetings and shopping is fun and talking to my friends that I have met here has been wonderful but I want more from my life.

I will support everyone in this forum and encourage them to venture out. The feelings can't be described in words the first time you public. That first time in a mall shopping for a dress and trying it on and having the SA ask if you want to try on this other outfit she fond for you..

Sorry for the long thread just trying to find out what I want to do next.

[docrobbysherry]

Glenda, I'm where u r, kinda. I'm about your age. Unmarried, and have started some dating. At this point, I think I will eventually have to make a choice between dressing and being alone, or giving it up for a woman to get old with. I had hoped to find, a CD accepting GG on this, or a similar site. I now realise THAT is not going to happen. A fickle CD, just what the world needs! I hate that I'm so picky. But, can't change that, any more than my CD desires!

[ArleneRaquel]

Because I feel that I am a woman, I love to look sexy. I also love to be flirty & seductive. & Beyonce Welch - Sexy African - American FemmeFatale Chardonnay & Stay Healthy

[Patricia Danielle]

I dress for comfort and don't worry to much about what other people think. The only person I worry about is my SO and she is pretty supportive.

[My Lady Marsea]

I'm your age too. Just waiting for the divorce to finalize and get out of Dodge. Can't get my start over grubstake 'till then. I've found and fell in love with the women I'm going to die with...ME. I don't try to understand me and am not embarresed to be seen as (with) me. Me doesn't have to decide if I can dress only certain times and can push the bubble 'till it burst LOL. I would however like to share me and all I have to offer with a no judgement GG or T-Girl, but if it doesn't happen I'll still have the perfect person to be with.

[Wifeofacrosser]

It breaks my heart to hear that our society is so unaccepting that for a lot of C.D's it is a choice of being alone or not being true to yourself. I hope that you find love with someone who is willing to work through their own stereotypes and move beyond what society has dictated to us.

[Deanna2]

Although I wear femme style gear a lot, I'm not sure that I count myself as a crossdresser. The clothes I wear are all mine. And I am never cross when I wear them.

[Eileen]

First Glenda you do not look 60ish. Yes it is nice to have soport groups and such, but the are not a substitute for a friend in the flesh. We can make just about anything happen if we put our minds to it. We just need to decide what we want and go for it.

Eileen

[ArleneRaquel]

You are So right & Beyonce Welch - Famous Belly Dancer & er of Chardonnay

[Kate Simmons]

Wow Glenda, I could give a complex, convoluted in depth soul searching answer but think I'll just say that it seems like a good idea at the time whenever I do it.

[Angie G]

Glenda I sorry I don't know what to tell you but I do wish you luck ih your finding someone
Angie

[malika.cd]

Glenda I sorry I don't know what to tell you but I do wish you luck ih your finding someone
Angie

I always feel since childhood that i am a gal...i love to dressup like a sexy gal ...and tease guys around me with my arousing beauty...lol.....i m a gal trapped in male body.

Malika

[DAVIDA]

Hi Glenda!
I am one of the very lucky ones. Jean is and has always been very supportive of me. I do know what it is like not having anyone at all. The last 17 years have been very enlightening.

[TxKimberly]

Why - The 64 Million dollar question. Damned if I know Glenda, but if you figure it out would you please share the answer with me?

[Karan]

I don't know why. However, I do know how I feel when i put together a cute outfit from the shoes to the hair and i look in the mirror and I see a reflection of a relatively nice looking lady. I have this tremendous inner joy in my heart and peaceful feeling that no other thing in my life has brought. This is not to say that my life and family have not brough me untold happiness, it is just not the same as this feeling from within.

Does this make sense? I don't know.

Have a wonderful day.

Karan



Karan

[Suzy Harrison]

I used to wonder 'why' years ago, but now I just accept that it will forever be a (growing) part of me. If you believe in reincarnation, as I do, then I wonder if we have had many past lives as females and that's why we are attracted to it.

[Jilmac]

glenda, you're not alone with your feelings of isolation. i'm 62, been dressing since 15, still not passable, and still stay at home when i dress. but the fact still remains that i love to know my feminine side. i've been to only two tg meetings in my life, where i was totally accepted by the other girls. i was married twice, first one ended because she couldn't handle my dressing. second wife stuck with me and knew about my dressing, but i still had to do it secretly. you ask why we dress, i can't speak for anyone but me on that. i've always felt that dressing allows me to do things that society has stereotypically deprived men of. things such as crying in public, expressing emotions, hugging, and openly experssing affection, without being judged or "labeled". consider yourself lucky to be passable enough to try on clothes in the womens dressing rooms, and to be called maam by your neighbors. i'm still bound by society's stigma attached to anybody who is transgendered. perhaps some day i too will have the courage to put on a dress wig and makeup, and walk down the street, proud to be a woman.
forever, Jill

[Daintre]

I really don't think anyone can give you a definite answer to the why do we dress. If I knew the why, I could maybe take steps to stop it. In my case there is a need to dress, not dressing puts me in a very dark place. It has cost me so much in that I lost my soul mate, I am alone and I do not see any change coming.

[Glenda58]

Are we hiding from our male selves because we can't make it as men. And dressing is our escape. Or our we just getting away from the stress that comes from having to do all things right as a man that we dress as women to getaway from it all for awhile till the next day where we start all over again as a male. Don't get me wrong I still love to dress up and more than likely never give it up. As I write this thread I'm getting ready to go out tomorrow.

[TxKimberly]

Are we hiding from our male selves because we can't make it as men. And dressing is our escape. Or our we just getting away from the stress that comes from having to do all things right as a man that we dress as women to getaway from it all for awhile till the next day where we start all over again as a male. Don't get me wrong I still love to dress up and more than likely never give it up. As I write this thread I'm getting ready to go out tomorrow.

I don't think its as simple or easy as that. As anyone who has read my posts here knows, I spent over a decade active duty Army - I CAN, have, and do "make it as a man". It's not a "hiding from being a man" thing, it's not that I am running or hiding from something. I think it's more that I think men should be allowed to "be pretty". Why should only women be allowed to have beautiful hair, or wear beautiful things, or use makeup? When I try and look atit objectivly, I don't see a problem with a man that wants to look pretty sometimes.

[nikki_t]

Because it's downright fun!!

[ElaineB]

I don't think I could name any one reason why I started. I was just a little kid then!

However... the situation today is different and I try to be honest with myself and ... honestly ... it is at least partly boredom and partly sexual frustration. I am one of those high-flying types and "normal life" is painfully slow for me at times.

When I am out doing something else I really like (for example, walking on the Great Wall of China), CDing doesn't even cross my mind.

If I could ever meet a woman who is really compatible with me, it would be interesting to see if the thought of CDing also never came up again.

[Deborah Jane]

Because i enjoy it!!

[TiffanyTgirl]

Dressing starts out as curiosity, then sometimes sexual stimulation, then habit, then ... because we want to. For me , it has become a "my time" thing. Male persona gets shelved with all "his" stresses, problems, and issues. Girl time means I get to concentrate on something and someone else. Anyway, that is my take on it.

[janet1234]

and everyone else, I do it because I like it. If my SO throws a fit, I will probably purge or store away until the next time. I like it. I like it.