If you feel like things are out of control or you are not where you want to be with your crossdressing and you feel that you need to do something about it.
All I can share is what I would do in a similar position. I would implement structure. I would determine how much time to give myself to enjoy dressing. It would be very important for me to adhere to the discipline I set out for myself. It would probably take a lot of trial and error to find the balance I need, but it would be a start.
This is just how I would approach it if it was me. I do not know if that is something you would benefit from or even want to engage in.
All the best