Originally Posted by
susiej
Hmm, seeing a definite pattern in these posts:
1. Introverted young man gets into crossdressing, thinks it's a sexual practice, a "coping strategy" for not having a GG in his life.
2. Finding that special GG at last, he figures, that's it, I can throw out my girl clothes, draw a line in the sand and move on. And, having a real GG to play with is a lot of fun, and for a while, all's well.
3. Time passes. Calendar pages fall off.
4. He finds that crossdressing is not only, or not truly, a sexual practice -- it's more basic to his wiring than that. Sooner or later, the pressure gets too great to resist. But, its years later, he didn't tell her early on, because he didn't think he was going back. He's stuck with the "why didn't you tell me" problem.
I also married at a time, and to a girl, that would have made discussion of my crossdressing passion totally impossible. I'm really stuck. But I do strongly encourage others to realize, as has been said many times here, it's not going away, and wot th'ell, she might actually enjoy having you as her sometime girlfriend! Tell her!
Hugs,
Susie