i am currently still in the closet - i have been out but only a few times and was always worried about neighbours seeing me in case eventually it got back to people that know me (its a small world especially when you only lived 5 mins walk from your sisters) i have considered telling people a few times but i once read an article in a magazine (a porno mag of all things!) an article on tvs and one of the questions was this one and the answer given was once you tell someone you cannot retract it - so as long as i've been predomently a closet cd i thought why tell people unless you have to - but now i'm thinking of going to a tv social group with the possible aim of going out in the city where i live there is surely more risk of being found out other ways - like someone seeing you from work - fortunately where i'm livin at the moment it is a very quite place where you hardly see your neighbours anyway and even if you did it wouldnt matter (everyone keeps themselves to themselves) but in other places it might not be so easy - so you could get to the stage where if you knew your neighbours had seen you you might not want your friends/family to come round to yours in case someone said something - so in that situation it must be easier to tell people rather than be paraniod about them finding out from other people