"I have always depended on the kindness of strangers".
Der Transsexuellaußenseiter
The lovers have flown...
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First of all, I want to thank Christine Kelly for her input on this subject. I also would like to thank Salandra for her kind comments concerning me and my dealings with the girls here on the forum. As I said yesterday, I have been a "quiet" member of this forum for a long time. Most of the time just enjoying the threads, the questions and answers and the stories of your CDing adventures. I sometimes put my two cents in and comment. I have found you ALL to be wonderful and gracious people. And again, if I had the chance to meet you in a mall or even in a park, YES, I would approach and I would strike up a conversation. It can only go one of two ways.....say good by or stay for a cup of coffee. Were all human and we all have to believe in one another. Just be careful but also be OPEN.
Hugs Jerry
I wouldn't call them "idiots". Most men tend to become jirks when they talk to women trying to seduce them in the street... Most of the times they try to attract attention in a way that is so naive...
Actually, even taking this into consideration, if a men would approach me with a compliment, I would still feel very happy, providing ot course he would be sincere...
I think that your attitude is the most appropriate one, unless you are really seduced by the person as a woman and would like to meet her. But that would require as much style as you would with a female at birth...If the roles were reversed and you were in drab and saw someone that you were quite certain was a CD, would you consider going up to them just to say hi?
For me, the 1st scenario is hypothetical since I've never been out and in the 2nd situation I've always assumed that they would rather be left alone.
Approaching a CD sister just because you read her is just rude otherwise...
Eugenie
I've always thought that when someone behaves like a gentleman, they deserve at least a ladylike response?
But as I'm sure you know, Jerry, some girls act like rabbits in the headlight, because it's never crossed their mind a man would approach them?
Don't get wound up about 'admirer', as term - IME, it's often used in non-derogatory way (at least in the UK)? The one to avoid is tranny-fancier, or similar? :hmmm:
Glad to see you here, anyway.
Nicki
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how would a gg feel if a guy did that !!! so no and no . i get to live another day ..
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I love to give compliments, when the girl seems open to receiving one.
I love compliments, and always respond with gratitude, and a little charm.
If, by doing so, I risk the lovestruck fella venturing a step further, I know how to curb his ambitions without dashing his ego. As for those who can't take the hint.....there is no "safe word" when Roberta commences to give you what you are asking for.
Roberta
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I can generally talk to anyone about anything any time.
I have reservations about being dressed and not having "normal clothes" over my CD ones, but I have had guys come over and tell me I'm attractive even RIGHT IN FRONT of my love. I guess my make-up and long hair help out! Some have been straight, but most were gay. I have no problem with it, if I wasn't taken I would do whatever.
I have seen other crossdressers out and about, but if I'm not dressed I usually leave them be. If they came up to me while I'm not dressed under my clothes, then I still flirt but it's not quite as natural.
There was a time I was the one who approached and after a while we were kissing and carrying on, but I thought I was kissing a girl. I couldn't quite understand why she wouldn't let me touch anything else besides her breasts. Well, to my wonderful suprise she was a transexual. She was so shy, it was such a turn on. LUCKILY I had on a g-string, so I felt dressed-up. I'll spare the details from there, but once she saw I was REALLY cool with the situation she relaxed and had fun!
Now I often wish for the same thing to happen to me when I'm out, but at the same time I avoid it because I want to stay faithful. I tell ya, if it's not one thing, it's another!
I would be nervous as can be, but I think it would be exciting.
In the city I currently live in I'd be scared if someone approached me in broad daylight while I was dressed in male clothes. In the event I ever went out dressed, I'd probably expect to get shot or beat up...on second thought, I guess it doesn't look too good for me in either scenario
I wouldn't approach someone else to compliment them, 1 because I've noticed most people on the street carry my opinion about people approaching them, and 2 because I'm a pretty shy person, you'd have to pay me alot of money for me to just approach somebody outta the blue
I'm private about crossdressing, but I do fantasize being dressed in public and being approached by men. My reaction would depend on the type of man. I would probably learn to run in heels.
Years ago I made a crossdresser in a department store (ladie's section) and looked right at her from 20-30 feet away. She looked very frightened and I felt nervous excitement. I turned my head to keep from staring and when I looked back she had vanished. Can't blame her in this town. But I've seen CDs in Vegas that walk with such confidence that I would be afraid to approach them.
I never have approached someone I thought was a CD but I have wanted to. I've never been out en femme, but being "discovered" and meeting someone who is friendly and open would be kinda exciting.
we need more guys like jerry , i am ok being approached and have led to some interesting encounters as i am bi so i like men
Thank you so much Kristy. Its nice to know that women like you understand the "other side" of the spectrum. As I said, I have been an "admirer" for many years and have met wonderful CDs and even a few who were a bit off the wall. I even met a CD who was very passable while I was working one summer day on someone's lawn of all places. I have had the opportunity to randomly meet by chance a couple of CDs who were shopping in the same store at the time that I was. Approaching them was not a super feat since I respect people reguardless of who they are and being a GENTLEMAN at all times and speaking as one, they released their nervousness and realized that I was NOT out to disrespect or make a fool of them. After a cordial invitation for a cup of coffee and conversation about "our mutual" love of this lifestyle, most felt comfortable and knew that I was not going to be a problem. This lead to some wonderful friendships and some exciting days out and about. So it can be done. There are many lovely women here on the forum who I would escort out in a heart beat.
Jerry
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I concur.
Often dressing for me can become more work than I care to bear but that does not preclude me from appreciating the fine job done by other dressers.
After all, who else is in a better position to know and admire dressers than another dresser?
If I am out and about dressed, I have to expect someone like jerry to show up.
What is the point of dressing and going out if there is no interaction with anyone? How are we ever going to be accepted if we fear interaction?
Besides, there are a number of people, men and women alike, who are fascinated by this and want to know more.
Who else better to educate them then a real live dresser?
Well that is cause in Vegas, anything goes. A CD there is no different than anyone else in the population. And when we get to be ourselves, it does feel great. We finally get to show our beauty without ridicule or worried if anyone knows. People would sometimes know but NOT care.
And when you see a confident CD, that does not mean she is not approachable. In fact, she wouldn't mind making new friends at all. We are cool people
You know ladies, one thing that is funny is that some guys think we will fall for the same "pickup" tactics that work on FAB's. It is like "OK honey, I have used that approach several times myself..."
It takes a true Erin to be a pain in the assatar.
i think that it a little interesting when a man comes up to me and says stuff, its only happened once and i really didn't know what to say because it caught me of gaurd