Ok, why do you attempt to pass. If I go out to pass it is because I want to be validated as female, nothing else. I'm not looking for a man, I'm looking for women to accept me as female.
If I can go to a store, pick out women's clothing and go to the dressing room, be smiled at by other women, I had the time of my life.
I personally don't even want contact with a man. My whole reason for going out as a woman is to be accepted as a woman.
What is your reason for striving to pass?