Rest Rooms again, OK?

[Nicki B]

I think a crossdresser, no matter how convincing, is still a man dressed in womens clothing.

Perhaps you can only talk with authority about yourself?

Walking into the 'Mens' is much more likely to see you beaten to a pulp, surely?

might make a real woman uncomfortable , uneasy, unsettled, or just plain upset, if she knew that there was a man pretending to be a woman, using the stall next to her. I wouldn't want my wife, girfriend, sister, or daughter, subjected to that experience:mad:
YOUR BIRTH CERTIFICATE SAYS: "MALE"
And if an irate husband, father, boyfriend, or brother finds out,
so will your DEATH CERTIFICATE say: "MALE"

Mmm. It's always the men who have a problem with it, not the women, IME?

However if you are not passable it can be a real problem because you don't want to make genetic women feel nervous or fearful.

The way around that is to talk with people. Not to appear furtive, or threatening? Act like you've a right to be there - you're doing something normal...

If you are in a shared restroom, get in and out as quickly as possible. It's not a social event.

No, really, it is... You're not doing it right, honey?

[Sarahwithanh11]

I just look at the little figure outside the door. If I'm wearing a skirt, I use the rest room with the sign of the figure wearing the skirt!

But seriously - a man in womens clothing entering a mens room WILL face violence. Not every time, but enough that the odds will catch up with you pretty quickly, especially if alcohol is involved. Non-CD men tend to think guys who wear womens clothes are there to pursue them sexually, and many react in a severe way (I have a handful of gay friends who face this hostility on a regular basis - like gay men are out pursuing every other male or something). If you're dressed as a woman, do something else - find a tree or go behind a wall if you're desperate - but never the mens room.

And I don't know how passable I am, but I've used the womens room a handful of times with no incident.

[Katie Ashe]

Short and simply, would be which ever gender you look most like, is what bathroom you should use. Please always look for private ones first, even if you have to go to the other end of the mall. Mind your bathrrom manners, it makes a difference. Safe bet: get in, be shy, don't speak, but do smile, don't linger, get out. All goes well most of the time.

All was well in a Target bathroom, until, full house, waiting my turn, then I was coming out of stall, I was passable, no trouble, all friendly... until my daughter said "I'm with him". Now here comes the employees ... I couldn't get out fast enough

My rule is no talking in the rest rooms, as she is only 11, and purely innocent. Save yourself some trouble; learn from this. In the federal court house, I use the ladies room all the time with 0 problems. Which ever restroom you choose to use, USE common sense in there, first rule of thumb.

[yms]

There is this article from the Washington Post:


http://blog.washingtonpost.com/rawfi...ets_to_us.html


In many ways, it is well written, but the repeated use of the euphemism "right equipment" shows just how hard it is for society to talk about this.

[Mary Lee]

And just think how many stright men that do not like CD/TG in the mens room are looking for a rump with a CD/TG.

[Mariah]

I only had one problem, at a jc pennies down in tx. and it was a mother of 3 girls she was nervice, I just smiled and did what I need to do. nothing else, just smile.

keris

[KittenKraske]

Later on in the day, My son tells the SO and she mentions to me that she will take the boy to the rest room if we are out in public from now on. Wow, what did I do wrong? She really gets worked up over the littlest things. LOL

SUzzie

Well I can't really see what you did wrong, in fact I think you took charge and were responsible for your childs needs. I think most SO's don't really understand the conflict we go through when deciding where to go! Oh well, I would say you are somewhat lucky as you now don't have the responsibility of taking him to the bathroom. :P

[Mary Jane1]

I try to find a good tree out back.

There ya go. I'm with you Trannie.