No, I was already out, had been out, I shut down to have a heart to heart with my wife, and re-evaluate our relationship and my dressing in light of this revelation that she felt that way. We've come to a new and better understanding and I'm more sensitive to her comfort level. I learned that finding out was such a severe blow, that when I'm pushing the envelope past the point she is ready to follow she can PTSD and I don't want that to happen.