[SIZE=3]I suggest that you at least get a wig. Give it a try. It really can improve your appearance far more than you might expect. Get your wife to help you find one that will suit your features. And don't go too cheap. If you get one of those $20 costume wigs you will look like crap. If you can afford it, look in the $100 to $150 range. You will find a lot of great quality products in this range (maybe a bit less on sale). It will change your life.[/SIZE]
Natalia, As many here have stated, practice, practice, practice. It is great that your wife is accepting and helpful in your transition. IMO, trying on a wig, makeup, and dressing up are just small parts of understanding your feminine side. You have to find and add the conifidence, attitude, and comfort that suits you. Only you can say what is your calming level when you become Natalia. Sometimes it is tough when we become our own worst critic, so please post some pics if you need other opinions of your progress.
Enjoy life, Chari
Many thanks for all the kind replies...
Especially for saying that you like my name!
The only restriction my wife has placed is the getting of a wig...but, every time I have pushed the chiffon envelope, she has caved and gotten turned on by the result...she once confided that she was attracted to a long haired brunette...
Long brunette wig? giggle giggle...
None of us were born instantly knowing this stuff. We all have to learn. Don't worry, I bet you are more passable than you think.
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[SIZE="3"]"We're all born naked. Everything we wear is drag," said Boy George
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It's ALL about "looks" for me. No matter how bad u think u look, I'm sure I'm much homelier AND much older! I solved my problem by cheating! My masks solved my "looks" problem.
That may not work for u, but something else will! Just keep trying and don't give up!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Natalia,
I just have to add to the practice practice stuff you've been told that MANY of the members here are really good with photo shop! Don't you think for a minute that everyone actually looks like they do in their pictures. They have photo shop and also pick the very best one out of a BUNCH to post up.
I am sure that with time, practice, and help from your lovely wife, you will do fine. And.. at least you aren't phony and use some software program to distort yourself.
Good luck!
Kris
Last edited by Kris; 04-18-2008 at 10:44 PM. Reason: spelling
[SIZE="3"]I'm BACK..... I miss you all so much!![/SIZE]
Natalia, I have to agree with what else has been said here. You are very fortunate to have an understanding and supportive wife. Try to get her to help you with a wig purchase and to help you with your makeup. Some of us girls have learn this on our own but you are fortunate to have a wife who can help you. Let us know how things progress.
Natalia,You are so fortunate to have an understanding wife.Time and patience is the key.My clothes came first and are still the most important part of my xdressing.My make up,wigs,jewellery,etc are secondary but a very special addition when i want to feel more femine.You'll get where you want to be.Dont put youself down and good luck.Love.Claire.XXX
Claire en femme,smart,casual and sexy!
[SIZE="4"]It's all about presentation baby!
I think the first few times I tried makeup and wigs I looked rideculous but I kept at it and I sought out people to help me. Gradually, over time and as I could afford it, I added better and better quality makeup and wigs as well as jewelry and other accessories.
You can do it Sweetie![/SIZE]
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Living the Dream!
Regina
Natalia,
Trust me, sister, I know exactly how you feel! But it is important to understand a couple of things:
1) You will always be your own worst critic.
2) Since you have a wonderful supportive wife, I betcha she'll help with makeup and stuff that is currently unfamiliar to you.
3) Get the wig! It is HUGE for me to have it (my lovely wife bought it for me). Now I can't be dressed w/o it, because it makes me FEEL so much prettier (even if the reality is something else!)
4) Just BE happy about how you look and feel.Confidence and comfort in your own skin goes a long way toward determining how attractive you are to others. I have known many women who perhaps have average facial features but actually look very pretty because of their countenance, as it were. A bubbly, happy personality covers many physical flaws.
5) Have fun, enjoy the ride, and thank God for the blessing of a supportive and understanding wife.
God bless,
Stephanie
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