tooo much

[bluiezz]

I feel a little bit alone sometimes. The thing is , I am a 45yr old married man who likes to wear womens clothes. I do not want to be a woman, I do not want to have sex with a man and I do not want to grow breasts. I have scoured the net looking for a web site for people like me. Men who are men 24/7 but like me , dress in womens clothes because they like it. All I seem to find is a lot of porn.Or make up tips and advice about what to wear on a night out. I do not want to go out wearing a dress because I would look like a man in a dress.
This site caters for a wide range of TV needs and its a good site. I just wish I could find a site that was a , er , little less of the sex side and more about men who like feminine clothes.
I hope you get the idea here , I am not slaging the site off . I just think its too much thats all. Well for me anyway, and I can ot seem to find any good chat rooms these days. Have they all gone.
If anyone can make sense of what I am trying to say , please let me know.

[Carroll]

I agree that sometimes there is too much "sex" talk here, but over all its a great place for what you are looking for. I have found lots of help and advice since I joined two years ago

[docrobbysherry]

I think the moderators here control this site, to prevent any detailed and/or graphic sex comments. Maybe u have missed the other sections of this site. One deals ENTIRELY with dressing discussion. And u can always skip the Forum threads that deal with topics u aren't interested in. That's what I do, and I think most others do, too.

[TGMarla]

There's a lot of diversity here, likely in an attempt to cover a whole lot of different tastes and desires. I think, from what you say, that you're a whole lot like me, a guy who likes to wear women's clothing. If you just want to talk about things like that, I'd point you towards the clothing section, and you can gab about clothing and dressing up all you want. Most posts get a decent response, and some get pretty lively. Try it. You might even make some friends and aquaintences while you're at it. You're not as alone as you think!

And have a beer, while you're at it.

[Deborah Jane]

I must be reading the wrong threads

[danielle_from_cal]

[SIZE=3]One of the reasons I am addicted to this site is because it is almost as clean as it gets. I rarely read anything about sex. It's about makeup, fashion and, most importantly, feelings and thoughts. You are in the right place. You must have read some odd threads.[/SIZE]

[sterling12]

Everyone's perception is different, and you are entitled to your opinion. I think your wrong about too much "sex talk," but if you perceive it that way, so be it.....for you.

Personally, I think this site is mostly about self-acceptance. I think an awful lot of people have been helped to better understand their femme selves. I think a lot of people have been helped to throw off their crippling load of guilt, their feelings of unworthiness, because they are different.

I think you perceive, or would like to convince yourself, "I'm not like those other people." Stick around and learn, I think you will find that we all share a lot more in common than you think. Consider that we are all Sisters and we all fall under a very broad general spectrum/label called "transgendered." Yes, there are plenty of "gals" here who just want to put on a few items of lingerie, and there are plenty who are in the act of transitioning. There are gals who get a sexual kick out of CD, there are many who don't. Inotherwords, we are all different, and that's a good thing as we learn from one another.

And, you have probably already made "the fatal mistake." You came here, started reading, and got interested. Now your hooked! Fait Accompli, and your stuck with it. Enjoy the ride!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[bluiezz]

Right I think I will shut up now. Thanks for everyone that replied. I now know I am in good company.....
Bless

[Tree GG]

My husband is 46, says he doesn't want SRS and thinks men are 'disgusting'. He's never been on a chat room, has no clue what Messenger is and has joined only one email listserv....which last I knew had about 1200 unread emails in it.

All the "do you want to be with a man" talk holds no interest for him...it's not what his CDing is about. He spends most of his on-line time shopping. I don't know why Macy's & Penney's don't give him some kind of award. But he does like going out to CD events and to be around other CDs. Everyone is apparently a bit unique in what it means to them.

I have no advice for you as to where to meet someone. All I know is that when my brother used to dress in drag for Halloween, my sister-in-law says women were falling all over him. Of course they were late-20's & early 30s at the time....maybe it's a generation gap thing. Good luck!

[KandisTX]

I'll be turning 40 this year and I have been CDing since I was 5/6 years old. I am happily married and simply enjoy wearing the clothing intended for the ladies. Welcome bluiezz to this wonderful forum, I am sure you will find many to talk to here.

Kandis

[MentalMercury]

Glad to see you came around. There's some good discussion on this site to be found

[victoriamwilliams1]

I find this to be one of the best sites around for us. I live 24/6.5 (some weeks) as a male, I do not have any intrest in men and I do go out dressed. I think that being a very diverse group of people on the site jut keep looking around you will find the inforation your looking for.

["Mary"]

I'll do everything within my power to change everything so it's what you want.

[dancinginthedark]

bluiezz I have heard your concerns voiced by several members at various times, but over-all they seem much quieter than our other members. Maybe it's shyness, but it seems more like a feeling of not quiet fitting in & that has them keeping more to themselves.

I realize that sometimes a member who has wanted more than you strive for has finally found some much needed encouragement, and feeling it was a God send simply wishes to give the gift to another. I am sure they never dreamed they might make you feel like an outcast even among fellow crossdressers.

Of course some of our members may not catch the subtle differences for any number of reasons and believe you are looking for support to do and be more. So that is what they offer... never imagining they may be making you feel more alienated.

Still others do seem to be smug in their believes that to not strive to be more is a waste. In the end the result is the same: a group of our members wanting to fit in somewhere and still feeling a bit alone wondering, "Aren't there any others like me?"

Over all the members here accept others with open arms. Like the others have said we are a diverse group and like any large group we have all kinds of folks here. Even guys who feel just like you.

It may take you a little time to find them on your own. But don't give up, like Tree my hubby sounds a great deal like you so they are out there. If you'd like maybe some of us can put our heads together and come up with a way for you to find each other quicker and easier.

Best of luck and hang in there kiddo.

dancin


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[Angie G]

Look around some more There are some girls here that just like to dress because they like it and for no other reason. I pretty much fit that bill. But I would hot mind have breasts maybe a B cup.
Angie

[JessieB]

This site caters for a wide range of TV needs and its a good site. I just wish I could find a site that was a , er , little less of the sex side and more about men who like feminine clothes.
I hope you get the idea here , I am not slaging the site off . I just think its too much thats all.

First, the idea that this forum is too preoccupied with sex and makeup to the exclusion of other aspects of CDing is overstating things, I think. And second, what exactly would you like to talk about in this ideal site that you're seeking?

[CharleneT]

I have not been here very long, but I have noticed that the subjects discussed tend to stay on a subject for a while, and then off to another idea. Just cycles around the various topics. You'll find over time that there really isn't much sex talk here. Lately it has come up and some great discussions have been in those threads.


C.

[Carly D.]

I spent a year (at least) just reading posts here before joining and replying to others posts, where I feel like I can add anything of any interest.. I think if you just read the different posts and understand that you can find like minded people here... not everyone feels the same exact way as I do but that is what makes a community... many diverse thoughts about all subjects having to do with crossdressing...

[michelle64]

i agree with the sex talk...sometimes it is too much here for me..i dress often..go out often and sure as hell will not discuss any personal aspects with my beautiful SO...im not gay or bi either...and those posts bother myself as well..i mean if thats what your after im sure there are plenty of sites that cater to that lifestyle..think for a minute about those here who have wonderful supportive GG's..would you want yous SO reading those posts?..i would not.....my concept is have fun, go out enfemme and see what the world is about..i have found 99.99% of the stores and people i have met enfemme are very very supportive....plus it helps if you dress properly for you age and act appropriately....

[JessieB]

im not gay or bi either...and those posts bother myself as well..i mean if thats what your after im sure there are plenty of sites that cater to that lifestyle..think for a minute about those here who have wonderful supportive GG's..would you want yous SO reading those posts?..i would not

Wow.

[Cassy11]

I've looked around for a few years and this site is the best I've found. The girls are friendly, helpful, and you can pick from a wide range of threads to join in on.

[deja true]

Yo, Buddy! I'm with ya'. All the sex talk pi**e* me off, too. It's freekin' hard just bein' a good ol' guy in a dress, ain't it? Jeez! Wouldn't want anyone thinkin' I was a fag!
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Now, really, hun...just because many of us like to add a bit of a feminine voice and expression to our chat doesn't mean we're looking to corrupt all you big strong, hairy guys. It's an affectation as much as the clothes, darling. And all we're doing is having a little fun! Sure we call each other 'girls' or 'gurls' or 'honey' or 'sweetie' or 'darlin'', it adds to our own vision of our selves.

But check out the voices in the serious threads, the life changing ones. You don't hear a lot of 'sweeties' and "you go girl" s in those. There's a time for serious and a time for fun. We know that... You'll figure it out.

Each one of us is different, they've all said it ahead of me. Believe it! And we appreciate your different-ness, too. Now it's up to you to appreciate ours. Mmm-kay?

Oh! You don't mind if I call you 'honey',do you darling?

[jaina]

i agree with the sex talk...sometimes it is too much here for me..i dress often..go out often and sure as hell will not discuss any personal aspects with my beautiful SO...im not gay or bi either...and those posts bother myself as well..i mean if thats what your after im sure there are plenty of sites that cater to that lifestyle..think for a minute about those here who have wonderful supportive GG's..would you want yous SO reading those posts?..i would not...

Those pesky gay/bi CD's are ruining it again. Can't they all go somewhere else?

[Nicole Erin]

Yes, the site looks overwhelming at first cause it is bigger than most.
However, it is broken up nicely and organised, you can read just the areas that pertain to your concerns.
Like This area "m t f CD'ing"..

Perhaps there are over 600 pages of threads but please understand something, the same questions or whatever get posted over and over so you need to look at only the first page to find good threads.

And really, there is very little talk of sex here. Once in a while it comes up but it is not graphic and never anything like an admirer saying "I want to have sex with a TV" type crap.

I think you will find good stuff here.

[Emily Anderson]

Bluiezz,

Is that really what you mean "I would look like a man in a dress?"