A question for GG's.
I just read and posted a response to Karen plight. I don't know if my post is going to be perceived as a question or a rant. If a wife discovers her husband is a cross dresser after many years of marriage, how long does it take to forgive the husband for not disclosing that facet of his inner being. Karen used the term trust. Now I do not mean what happens after disclosure and ground rules were established. As in the husband is spending too much money on clothing. Or he is sitting around the house in a dress and heels which clearly is breaking the rules, the in your face militant approach. Ignoring the wife's wish he not go out dressed. The husband just wishes to dress in the private of his home and his private time.
If your man did not reveal or conceals his cross dressing desires, and, he has done absolutely nothing else to upset the marital bliss, is it a matter of trust after six years, ten years, twenty years, a lifetime?
When do you 'forgive' him for being who he is? Or, is it something else?