nervious and freaking out

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

So here's the deal, I met this GG on myspace yesterday. I was looking for local Girls here in Okc, ok who might be interested in giving me some advice on different things like Make-up, and clothing, and just different other girlie things. We messaged back and forth for most of the evening last night. I diffenately got more then I was expecting. when I first messaged her I was more or less expecting to either be blocked, reported to myspace for being a freak, or just to get an what the f@#% message from her. But she was totally cool about it and responded back, and was very willing offer up any advice that she could. But what was really surprising to me is that she wants me to come over today because she felt that she could help me out more in person then through emails. Which has got me kind of freaking out because while I'd be fine with this meeting onlying being a one time thing to give some advice on make-up, I'm hoping that it might be the start of a friendship for to reason I would love to have a GG friend to talk about this stuff with, and two I've found myself really isolated since I move down here to oklahoma, not having any real friends down here, Yes I have or had friends from work when I was at ihop but since we've all quit in the last few weeks we've lost touch, just to be clear I'm not looking for a relationship with just a friendship, somebody to hang out with, but I won't really know how she feels about it until I meet her today @ 11:00 this morning, which has me freaking out, sorry if it seems like I'm just going on about something stupid, my question though is Am I blowing this way out of proportion, or is it something to actually be nervious about? All I was is that I feel like there are more butterflies then my first time out en femme.

[TommiTN]

Sounds like a great opportunity to me. Go meet her and see what develops. You never know, you may have just found the love of your life. If not at least you may have found a good and supportive friend. Nothing ventured, nothing gained as my dear old Dad used to say. You are so lucky! Don't pass on this!

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

Sounds like a great opportunity to me. Go meet her and see what develops. You never know, you may have just found the love of your life. If not at least you may have found a good and supportive friend. Nothing ventured, nothing gained as my dear old Dad used to say. You are so lucky! Don't pass on this!

As far as the love of my life, I don't even want to think about that, all I'm really hoping for is to make a new friendship out of this, I just isn't just a one time thing. anything else well whatever is whatever, If something more comes out it that cool but I'm just hoping for a friendship, exspecially since I just got out of a wierd relationship to say the least, that didn't end well. but I won't bore anyone with that, that would be getting off topic.

[TommiTN]

You've got the right attitude not wanting to force anything. I think you owe it to yourself to see what she's about. At the very least you'll get makeup and fashion advice from a GG, something we'd all like. Of course she could also be a good candidate for the show What Not to Wear, but you'll never know until you see her.

[RachelDenise]

Be yourself and I mean yourself. Be respectful and see what develops. I think she's interested since she wants to meet you. How she is interested (friend, helper or more?) is another issue. Hopefully it will become quite clear today! Good luck.

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

You've got the right attitude not wanting to force anything. I think you owe it to yourself to see what she's about. At the very least you'll get makeup and fashion advice from a GG, something we'd all like. Of course she could also be a good candidate for the show What Not to Wear, but you'll never know until you see her.

Well of course I'm going I'm just nervious, I have no idea what to wear or anything, maybe I should make a Wal-mart run to find a new top or something. that way she doesn't think that I'm a total lost cause when it comes to fashion since all of my tops are more cheapy rather then stylish since clothes can get ruined real easy driving truck.

[Dita_B]

Go for it... you'll be surprised how many girls are supportive once you open up to them...

Forget about your nerves, and have a great time!

Dita.

[Sally24]

Hoping for the best for You! I assume you're meeting in a nice nuetral setting that is safe? I wouldn't go straight to someones house who I haven't met before. Have fun and be safe.

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Like everyone else here has said...
get out there, relax, have some fun, and be yourself! Honesty, sincerity and an open mind will make your world anything you want it to be!
*hugs*

Zarabeth

[TommiTN]

Well of course I'm going I'm just nervious, I have no idea what to wear or anything, maybe I should make a Wal-mart run to find a new top or something. that way she doesn't think that I'm a total lost cause when it comes to fashion since all of my tops are more cheapy rather then stylish since clothes can get ruined real easy driving truck.

I wouldn't go buy stuff just for this. She needs to see the pallette she'll be working with. And Sally's advice is good; meet at a neutral location first. Carry your fem clothes with you so you can go to her house from the meeting place should you decide to.

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

I wouldn't go buy stuff just for this. She needs to see the pallette she'll be working with. And Sally's advice is good; meet at a neutral location first. Carry your fem clothes with you so you can go to her house from the meeting place should you decide to.

I'll keep that in mind when I talk to her at 10.

[Amy Lynn3]

You have gotten good advice already, but I would add .....think of your safety first. Go as yourself and meet in a nuetral place. You will find out more about this lady in one person to person meeting than 50 emails.

I met one lady like that and I never want to see her again. Just be safe and yourself and see if you should take another step.

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

I understand the whole safety thing but for reasons that don't need to be shared, her getting out of the house this weekend not really an option, but I'm sure it'll be fine. or I might see if see wants to reschedule for next weekend, my only issue is why see can't get out of the house I don't want her to feel like she has to entertain. I'm afraid she might be push herself to hard. when she should be taking it easy.

[Chari]

Absolutely go and enjoy, but plan to meet in a public place where you have options to exits should you find this meeting is going badly. NEVER put yourself in harms way - especially for a first time meeting! Maybe do a drive by to check out the area. Be very safe and tell us the good or bad results.

[Julogden]

You have gotten good advice already, but I would add .....think of your safety first. Go as yourself and meet in a nuetral place. You will find out more about this lady in one person to person meeting than 50 emails.

I met one lady like that and I never want to see her again. Just be safe and yourself and see if you should take another step.

I agree with Amy Lynn, it pays to be careful. First meetings should always be in a public place, a good rule when meeting someone you've only known from IM's or emails. Don't give out phone numbers or addresses until you've met in person.

It's better to be safe than sorry.

I understand the whole safety thing but for reasons that don't need to be shared, her getting out of the house this weekend not really an option, but I'm sure it'll be fine. or I might see if see wants to reschedule for next weekend, my only issue is why see can't get out of the house I don't want her to feel like she has to entertain. I'm afraid she might be push herself to hard. when she should be taking it easy.

Her insistence on meeting at her house may be a warning flag, may not be, but for your own sake, tell her that you'd prefer to wait until you can meet in a public place. If she won't go for that, back away, as that would indicate something is possibly not right.

She may be completely on the up and up, but protect yourself, just in case.

Carol

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

surprisingly we only live about a mile from each other, but meeting elsewhere is tricky, she just had surgury friday, her getting out probably won't happen, but of course I'm going to scope out the area first, and If anything goes wrong I can always leave, probably just talk outside for a while.

I agree with Amy Lynn, it pays to be careful. First meetings should always be in a public place, a good rule when meeting someone you've only known from IM's or emails. Don't give out phone numbers or addresses until you've met in person.

It's better to be safe than sorry.



Her insistence on meeting at her house may be a warning flag, may not be, but for your own sake, tell her that you'd prefer to wait until you can meet in a public place. If she won't go for that, back away, as that would indicate something is possibly not right.

She may be completely on the up and up, but protect yourself, just in case.

Carol

I appercate the concern, and believe my I'm not going to put myself in harms way, Ohh wait I do that every night when I have to walk across a pitch black truck stop parking lot every weeknight en femme, and I really believe that I'll be fine, after all safety in a neutral place or public place really doesn't exist, sometimes you just have to have faith in people. I'll be fine. I'll scope out the area first plus I have ran into her several time at the gas station behind my apartment, she's alway seem nice enough. beleave me I had all night to think about it.

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

just to update, I met up with the GG that I met on myspace everything went great, she gave me lots of great advice. I had lots of fun we talked for about three hours, and she gave me wonderful advice on make up. I'm really tried so I've give a full update after I take a nap.

[Raychel]

Glad all went well, can't wait to here the rest of the story.

[TxKimberly]

I was afraid I was gonna have to be the heavy again until I saw Sally's post. You would have to be freaking nuts to go to someone's house when you have never met them, know nothing about them, have no friends in common, and you have only chatted online for a day or two! She is a woman - she WILL understand this caution.
For all you know, she might think it is hilarious to invite you to her home where you will find 5 football playing teenager guys waiting that like to beat people like you. Considering we are talking about the internet, for all you know she IS one of those guys that likes to beat folks like us.

As Sally suggested, you two should meet someplace public first, maybe even more than once before you go to her home. That way you can get a feel for what kind of person she is before you entrust your well being to her.

I HAVE gone to the homes of some of the members here on this forum, but that's only after I've chatted with them a lot and read a lot of their posts to see what kind of person they are. I wouldn't even consider going to the home of someone I met online only a day or so ago.


UPDATE:
Just read your post that the meeting has now taken place so obviously my worst fears were not realised. I am so happy for you!
I think I will leave the message my original post provided as I still think you took a huge risk though.

[Nicole Erin]

Yeah that is kind of stupid talking a day or two and then go to their house, not knowing them from Adam.

Not only that but what kind of person is so desparate to make friends that they will invite just anyone over after talking over myspace so briefly? My gyod if it was over a site like this where you were partially convinced that maybe the person is geuine since most of us probably are CD or TS, then just maybe, but myspace?

Don't be suprised if she turns out to be a basket case once you get to know her.

[docrobbysherry]

no one can know your situation and circumstances as well as u! And we ALL have had different experiences that mite prejudice our advice. U met her and it went well!
Good for u! Keep us posted, please!

[Ashley Lynn Swift]

I was afraid I was gonna have to be the heavy again until I saw Sally's post. You would have to be freaking nuts to go to someone's house when you have never met them, know nothing about them, have no friends in common, and you have only chatted online for a day or two! She is a woman - she WILL understand this caution.
For all you know, she might think it is hilarious to invite you to her home where you will find 5 football playing teenager guys waiting that like to beat people like you. Considering we are talking about the internet, for all you know she IS one of those guys that likes to beat folks like us.

As Sally suggested, you two should meet someplace public first, maybe even more than once before you go to her home. That way you can get a feel for what kind of person she is before you entrust your well being to her.

I HAVE gone to the homes of some of the members here on this forum, but that's only after I've chatted with them a lot and read a lot of their posts to see what kind of person they are. I wouldn't even consider going to the home of someone I met online only a day or so ago.


UPDATE:
Just read your post that the meeting has now taken place so obviously my worst fears were not realised. I am so happy for you!
I think I will leave the message my original post provided as I still think you took a huge risk though.

I understand what everybody's fear with the whole risk thing, and I wasn't really confrotable with it, but I do take risk everyday, as a Truck Driver it's always a possiblity that you might not make It through the day. but that's besided the point. Everythng worked out fine. sometimes you just have to have a little faith in people.

[insearchofme]

Kim

My dear sweet friend, why does it have to be football playing guys? How about CD hating thespians?

Hugs

[TxKimberly]

Kim

My dear sweet friend, why does it have to be football playing guys? How about CD hating thespians?

Hugs

Hey - do me a big favor would you? Would you please give me a hand getting my foot outta my mouth?
After all, some of my best friends are football players . . .

[insearchofme]

Kim said, "After all, some of my best friends are football players . . ."

Some of my best friends are girls like you.

Hugs,