Geez Reine, I've never considered myself a "femme fatale" no matter how much work I put into my look. Like many I used to think that being all gussied up was the ultimate in femininity. The problem with this line of thinking is that you tend to get all dressed up with no place to go, so to speak and to make a statement of looking "better" than GG's is stretching it to put it mildly.
This is not a competition. If that is what a person wants, there are contests and pageants for that and that is where the real scrutiny comes in. I'm wondering if those who consider themselves "ultra feminine" could handle not winning such an event.
For myself it has to do with the confidence of being who we are and not necessarily what we look like and that is what really makes us a "winner" or "loser" as a person and the beauty of spirit will shine through if it is in abundance.
I must admit it boggles me sometimes as to why some make such statements. As with most things in life, it's not so much whether we "win" or "lose" but how we play the "game".