Sometimes I wonder what we are trying to accomplish by doing all of this. Granted there seems to be some kind of "drive" to CD for most of us but there must be some kind of reason we put so much effort into something that seems to be so "taboo" to society, many going to great lengths and risks to express it. Some do it for the psychological boost, some for sexual reasons, some for the excitement of going out and "passing" in public, some for fun, some for the reason of "that's just me", some for getting in touch with the feelings.
There seems to be no one reason and it may be any or all of the above and some I haven't even mentioned. While, in the past, I have done it for many of the above reasons, it seems I am doing it less and less for those reasons and more and more towards just being myself as a person. Phyliss' essay on attitude got me thinking about this.
Society as such seems to be strongly demarcated when it comes to sex and gender but for the most part it has the two inseparable. This is based on premises produced by Madison Ave. and Hollywood largely to capitalize on sex and gender and to somewhat glorify it. The problem is, the premise never truly existed as is evidenced by the diversity among the sexes and this is even more true with regard to gender. We as humans tend to eat that stuff up though and we can't be blamed really when we fall under the spell and they make it quite appealing to be this, that or the other thing. The real deal is much different, however, and the products they sell and the images they purvey don't really change who we are as a person even if that is what the illusion is.
I've pretty much decided to poo pah it all and just concentrate on who I am as a person because no matter how many clothes or wigs I buy or how good I get at doing makeup, I'm still basically a guy. So, what's the point? The main point in my mind is to just be comfortable with who we are and try our best to demonstrate that to others. Sincerity has a lot to do with that because if we are just putting on some kind of "act" or pretending to be someone we are not, it will be evident to others no matter how we are dressed. The level of commitment for being who we are really does make a difference and others will see that.
What we are individually trying to accomplish varies from person to person but I've decided that anything worth doing is worth doing well and now that the "preliminaries" are over for myself. I've pretty much decided that developing myself as a person is the way to go.