GG make up Party

[crossdrezzer1]

I am a closet cd and no one knows,, My sister asked me to be her Maid of honor for her wedding and I will be wearing a tux(frown) but I have to plan her partys,, sahe wants a bridal batcherlette party mixed in one so I have to plan it and she said she wants me there,, well I thought of a idea and she loves it,, we are getting some local students from a hair nail school to do make up nails and hair,,, she was joking with me saying you will be the only guy there and by the end of the night you will be all made up with pretty nails,,, I have to act embarresed so I dont out myself,, My plan is when its all done and the girls are laughing at me I will say good thing I didnt rent a girl for Fashion Consoltent and put that idea in their heads and see if they dress me,,, after the party we are going out to local bars so that should be interesting,, I will let you all know how it goes but should be fun... Any one got any caution statements so I dont make a mistake?

[Teri Jean]

Sounds like fun, can I come? Hehehe. It would be fun and it is a good way to find out techniques for your hair, nails and makeup. Not only that what a night of dressing with the girls. Hope it goes well. Huggs Keli

[vivianann]

You are missing a great opporunity to dress as a girl, you need to let your sister know you like to wear dresses. If I were in your shoes I would let her know that you want to wear a maid of honor dress. you will regret not doing it, because the opportunity may never come your way again.

[Sharon B.]

I believe your sister knows about your secret and I would probably say your parents do also.
The reason I say this, you are her maid of honor and I am having a hard time seeing your parents agreeing to it unless they are waiting for you to come out to them about dressing.
Personally if I was the maid of honor and was planning a makeup party for the girls, I would sallow my pride and dress as a woman and be the model for the makeup session.
Let them have their fun trying their makeup on me, then go out with them partying if for nothing else your sister will remember that night and at least smile about it often.

[PureKush]

I totally agree you should let your sister in that at least you think it will be fun....to dress....and you should invite someone to do outfits too...you should get an average size and let them know yours as well....you should totally go for it

[carolinewalker_2000]

This could be an absolute blast for you. just be careful you don't "accidentally" - (on purpose?!!) - come out of your closet!

[sometimes_miss]

The simple fact that she asked you to be her 'maid of honor' says a lot; especially since she implied that you were going to get your nails and make up done at her party. Tell her it sounds like fun, you're open to the idea, but you want to get a wig so they can do that too. If she doesn't blink an eye, you're good to go. Don't worry. If everything goes well at the party, they WILL finish dressing you up before the wedding, all you'll need is the gown, and going for the fittings will be the icing on the cake. Talk about a chance of a lifetime. Wow.

[Angie G]

The only advice I can give you is have lots of fun. And act like you not all that into the makeup hun.
Angie

[Daphne Renee]

Hope You have a great time

[Janet Bern]

What a great opportunity to let her know that you would be interested in "trying" to dress and pass with the other women. I would be fun and if you really looked great and passed you may meet a woman that loves CDs
Give it a shot
Janet

[Terrihoney]

Your sister and the rest of your family surely knows more than you think. You have sent signals that you are not aware of. Have a great time! Just remember whose wedding it is, don't steal the show. You can come out any time. A wedding should happen once in a lifetime.
A bachelorette party sounds like more fun anyway

Hugs, Terri

[Sheila]

I am sorry but, I cannot see how so many of you assume her sister & family know .............. how darned selfish of you all ............. if her/his sister does not know, has one of the greatest evening of her life .............including the fact that her brother was so much fun at HER note,HER bridal batcherlette party, and he comes out years down the line, are you all prepared to have her memories of her batcherlette party & wedding day tarnished just so you all get to gee someone else on, without a thought for the consequences for those involved.

His/her sister and parents may well know, and if they do then I think they may well have a less subtle approach to letting crossdrezzer1 KNOW.

[abundantly_me]

Ummm , no don't make that mistake, you're sis may have seen the Movie 'Maid of Honor" and trust me, it wasn't about the man being a 'crossdresser', but just the person she felt very very close to.

Once again, this is a situation where society thinks maid of honors are female, but it is much more about the person in that role being a very significant person in your life.

I think you may be reading way to much into this!

[Mary Morgan]

I tend to think that your first priority should be your sister, afterall, this is one of those lifetime events for her. I strongly suggest that the two of you get together and have the chat. If she knows, and she's cool about it, go for it. If she doesn't know and she is offish about it, then you need to let her off the hook regarding the party and the wedding. Of course a great compromise might allow for you to be one of the girls at the party, and her brother at the wedding. Just my two cents. In any case, my best to you both.

[crossdrezzer1]

I agree,,,alot of you are reading way to much into all this,,,I dont think anyone knows and she asked me because we are close,, I will play shy at the party and think sis will want me involved so they will make up me for giggles.. I will allow it and get the nails also with shyness,,, then my master plan is to say good thing I didnt have a fashion consoltent to throw into their minds about a dress,,, its my party for my sis so I will make it as girly as I can,,,what a great opertunity to do girl stuff wityh a group of girls,,, as for coming out,,, I dont think so........

[Christinedreamer]

Some of you think the family does not know or at least have some suspicions. How many times have you heard a of sister who believes her brother to be straightlaced and not at all into anything femnine, ask him to be a "maid of honor"?

Perhaps she IS aware and knows that to many CDs, a wedding is the ultimate expression of femininity as far as dressing up is concerned and she wants to let her brother know she understands and has decided to allow him to take part in a very cherished tradition and share a once in a lifetime experience for them both.

Just because I am a professional meeting organizer does not mean my sister would think to reward me for my abilities and efforts in organizing her wedding by asking me to be her "maid of honor", wearing a tux, knowing full well that the title would open me up to a rash of comments, teasing and raised eyebrows. That alone would take the "star of the evening" attention away from the bride.

I prefer to believe that his sister is opening her heart to share her wonderful day with a brother she so obviously loves.

[nvlady]

We all envy you. When you're all made up and dressed up, be sure to confide in your sister that the dress and makeup actually feel kinda nice. If she then asks if you want to do it again sometime, just answer with a nonchalant sure.

[judyk]

Well you had been asked to be Maid of honour, that’s quite the honour, and one you must a bide by.

This is your DNA asking, how long has she known you?, she knows, it’s time you do.

You need to tell her.

Go, have fun.

Hugs

Judyk
Founder Gender Mosic

[Di]

Some of you think the family does not know or at least have some suspicions. How many times have you heard a of sister who believes her brother to be straightlaced and not at all into anything femnine, ask him to be a "maid of honor"?
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Nonsense...now days it is VERY common to ask who you are closest with regardless of gender. My daughter was just Best Person ( man) for her best male friend that recently got married

Please do not listen to all this telling you to take it further. Be a maid of honor....and make it HER day.A maid of honor supports and helps the Bride have a her perfect day.It says alot she picked you to share this with so do your best for her
and make it about her..not you.

[Anna the Dub]

As far as I can see, it's your sisters wedding, her big day and she has offered you the privilege of being her Maid of Honour, and that's it. Reading anything further into her invite, like assuming she is subtly letting you know that she knows about your CD habits is a huge leap of imagination, and if you push it, could end in tears and recriminations. Accept the invite at face value, make it a special day for your sister, and if you want to come out to her, do it long after the wedding is over. By jumping the gun now, you could possibly cast a shadow over the whole night, and over the subsequent wedding too.

[TxKimberly]

I think you should be immensely flattered! I am also glad to hear you are keeping your perspective and are going to make sure you do what you can to keep the night about her. If there's one night in the world that should be about a girl or woman, thats it.
I hope you do an awesome job for her and give her happy and fun memories she will keep for the rest of her life. :-)

[Persephone]

I agree,,,alot of you are reading way to much into all this,,,I dont think anyone knows and she asked me because we are close,, I will play shy at the party and think sis will want me involved so they will make up me for giggles.. I will allow it and get the nails also with shyness,,, then my master plan is to say good thing I didnt have a fashion consoltent to throw into their minds about a dress,,, its my party for my sis so I will make it as girly as I can,,,what a great opertunity to do girl stuff wityh a group of girls,,, as for coming out,,, I dont think so........

"Shyness" could be an asset here. If you dress a bit androgenously and don't "take charge" in a macho manner, then the women there will probably forget that you are a guy and will go on with the girl stuff. You shouldn't stay out in the fringes though but just participate as you want to.

When it comes to the Wedding itself, there's tons of advice for the Maid of Honor available online. Prepare a "crash kit" in advance with stuff your sister or some of the other girls might need like tissues, hairspray, safety pins, etc.(you can find suggestions for this online too). It's your job to be helpful and supportive as your sister gets ready.

Have a wondrful time!

[DonnaT]

Any one got any caution statements so I dont make a mistake?

Don't drink too much?

[Kayla_CD]

Be careful that you don't make this day about you, it's her wedding.

[crossdrezzer1]

well got the date for this,,its going to be in june and the ladys are all excited,,buying alot of props and I cant wait,,this is going to be a fun party..