Hi Honies,
those girls who i've spoken to through the site will be aware of my submissive requests/requirements. Having a submissive nature means i am longing for the dominant partner in any relationship or encounter. But why? how does this work? I'm over 6' and 220lbs and want to be dominated by a smoking, leather and stillettoe heeled CD!!! Has any of you ideas of how this fetish requirement comes about....not that i'm complaining!!!
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Hi There Stilletto, Sorry,I don't know what to tell you. Maybe some of the other members will have a few words of wisdom. Welcome to the forum,hun,it's a great place for all things CD. It's great to have you with us.
It's a perfectly natural feeling.
Now pass me that cane and bend over.....
(only kidding!)
Best wishes,
Sarah
as far as if i'm submissive or dominant thats easy. When i'm in girl mode i'm totally submissive and love the sissy look and being controlled and owned by a Mistress (giggles). But even in male mode I let people walk all over me so maybe i'm submissive as a guy too who knows haah
Do you ever travel to the USA? Be sure to send Me an e-mail if you do.Originally Posted by STILLETTO
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Hi Stilletto, sorry I can't help you but you should have no problem finding what you are looking for in your country. The bd/sm culture is part of crossdressing so maybe you will find someone on this site that you can meet up with. Good luck in your search.
"To be or not to be That is the question"
At one point I felt that I was submissive when in femme mode, but after much self-examination, attempts at being submissive, and discussions with my SO (who, at one point in her life, was a Pro Domme), I've come to the conclusion that when dressed I usually prefer to be a masochistic bottom; I don't do "submissive" very well.
And there are times when my more natural dominant mode comes out, even when dressed. But for me to enjoy being a masochistic bottom, cross-dressing is an integral part of the experience and what allows me to let go of my dominance, if only for a short time.
Your size and weight shouldn't be an issue in finding a dominant partner. I know a Mistress/slave couple where the male partner, who is submissive, is ~ 6'9" and 375, while the Mistress is ~ 5'3" and 110 lbs.
My SO does not know I dress but we are talking about sex and asked if I would like to be submissive or dominant. To see her reaction I told her a little of both and she replied, I'm surprised you said both. I figured you would want to be just submissive. I guess she knows me better than I thought.
I engage in bondage. I have alot of bondage equipment and fashion things.
I'm not sub or domme completely. I what is called a 'Switch' I like both depending on the partner(s) and my mood.
Stiletto, I wouldn't worry about a thing.
I'm no flyweight myself, but my desires are right there with yours.
I'm very lucky in that my SO not only knows of my cding and supports it, but will also break out the bondage gear from time to time.
BTW, I'm always the helpless heroine.
Great, great stuff.
I wish for you that your fantasies someday might come true.
There's somebody out there waiting just for you.
I'm online wearing the ballet boots I found at a thrift shop today. Can't walk, but I can type OK!
I've been into bondage for 30+ years. Way before CDing caught my fancy. I have no answers for u. U feel what u feel, and r turned on by what turns u on! Just find a Ying for your Yang, and have fun!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Totally sub here ,,,when femme,,,
I am submissive. Dressed or not. I love to be dominated.
Hugs and Kisses: Samantha
Its funny cause when I am in guy mode, totally dominant, and have been at it for many years now.
When en femme, I enjoy it when a male leads in the dance, or escorting my Fae character around the faire by the hand. Just feels all sorts of girly
*hugs*
Zara
(Formerly known everywhere as Lady Zarabeth
me too
When I am in full femme it is much easier to be the bottom. If my companion wants to sub I can go that way as well, just not dressed.
Hi Stilletto, I can’t answer your question on how it comes about but I can tell you it’s NOT unusual. I earn my living by making such fantasies a reality, I run a dressing service with fantasy role play, CP. Bondage etc. I regularly have to strut around in 6” healed thigh boots, disciplining men much bigger than me, or be a strict Aunty/Head mistress etc. On the other hand I am required to dress as a School girl, Secretary, Traffic warden (very popular that one) etc. for them to discipline me, Some want to cross dress others don’t. A question I have often asked myself is “Why do they come to a TV. & not a real woman for this service” as most are “straight” and marred, come from all walks of life & aged from 20 to 80+. I am not touting for business but if you want to try it get out and do it, there must be someone in your area offering this kind of service. Best of luck and enjoy life, Katie, X
Like cd-ing, enjoy the best of both
Girls,
I would say that I am generally submissive when dressed but not always, it just depends on the mood or the way I am dressed that drives that feeling. When I am guy mode I am both as well. But mostly I think I am submissive.....giggles
trisha
Hey Girls, I and my wife are both "switches" we both enjoy being Top and Bottom! And change up often. Without it being TMI, there isn't much about the BDSM world we don't enjoy!!!!! (dressed or not, which is rare I'm not) As to why...not sure! But then why question such a wonderful gift! Kaitlin
I love Jesus!
Life is so much better now that I know who I am !
I'm soo submissive when I'm dressed up. I mean what is the point, if you are going to take the time to look like a girl why would you be dominate. You can do that as a man, but I guess I can kinda see where being a dominate girl would be fun. Maybe with a really cute lesbian.
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My Y chromosone is doing the splits
I'm still closeted, including from my SO, but I have noticed that when I'm in more of a fem-mood, I do tend to be more submissive. That's not to say that I'd be into domination, it really sounds like something I wouldn't enjoy, but when my brain's in girl mode, I like to be able to lay back and "go with the flow" a little more, not have to control the whole situation. In guy mode, I actually like being in control of it, but again, don't think I'd like dominating.
This switch back and forth doesn't bother my SO, though she doesn't know that the more-submissive side of me is actually my girly side coming out. We've talked about the situation before, and she's fine with that little bit of "role-switching", so hopefully that's just one more sign that she'll take my CDing well when I finally tell her.
Umm... Isn't that rather a contradiction in terms?
*jaw drops on floor*
Where do you live?
Nicki
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Funnily enough, when I'm in girl mode I'm actually -more- dominant than in male mode. Not that I'm submissive then, just not so much dominant. But as Anna....total, total domme.
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