More female mannerisms - smiling

[Patti Remick]

Hi all,
Im still going thru the oldish 'Boy Mode vs Girl Mode' thread at the picture board and it made me ponder the issue of smiling (in the pictures) vs not when in female mode. Ive been told - as a male - that I never smile. Ive read that most women smile - especially for pictures - where many men will not. I dont mean men frown, they just dont smile. So my question to those of you who have pictures of themselves enfemme is: when enfemme do you smile? Do you think smiling is a feminine mannerism? Do you try to smile more when being female than as being male? Do you think you have been conditioned as a male not to smile - just as you have been conditioned as a male not to cry. Id love to discuss with all.

Luv and hugs,
Patti Remick

[Karren H]

Do I smile? Happy girls always smile!! Matter of fact smiling is now gender independent... Used to be when imy wife would take my photo on vacations shed always say "Smile" and I'd reply.. I am!! Hahaha.

Now she doesn't have to ask...



Plus........ my happiness isn't dependent on the clothes I wear!!

[Sandra Dunn]

Good question. I smile a lot any way and I have noticed I smile more when I'm in "me" mode. My spouse says I seem more at peace and content when I'm in Sandra mode. Plus it makes us look prettier when we smile.

Women when they pass each other will smile, it's like a secret signal that the path way ahead is safe. It's also like a signal that they are fine and in need of no assistence at the moment.

HUGS and Smiling Sandra

[Charlotte Sometimes]

[SIZE=4]I do smile occaisionally in pictures en femme, never in male mode.[/SIZE]

[Raya]

I just spent too much time around miserable people growing up. When you're around miserable people, the best way to "protect" your happiness is to always keep them in the dark about it. Some miserable people are only satisfied when everyone around them is miserable, and nothing will paint a target on your back faster than smiling.

It's a bad habit that I'm glad to say I'm outgrowing.

[renee k]

I'm always smiling when out enfemme. When another woman looks my way and smiles, I always return the smile. It makes me happy to recieve that kind of greeting.

Huggs, Renee

[MJ]

i smile all the time i feel it brings out more feminine features

[tamarav]

[SIZE=4]One of my pet peeves, not smiling. Aren't you happy about what you are doing and want to smile about it? If all you do is frown, you must not be having fun, so why do it?[/SIZE]

[SIZE=4]That is my take on it, all women smile and as previously stated, at each other. I find that I smile at virtually every woman I meet and they smile back. Sort of like an acceptance.[/SIZE]

[SIZE=4]Do I smile? When don't I smile? I searched my pictures for those in which I wan't smiling. Took me a few minutes to realize there weren't any, just these...[/SIZE]

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[Carroll]

I am not a fan of my smile at all. Unlike a lot you, I dont have a "Big" smile, If I smile to show teeth it looks fake because it is. As a matter fo fact, go to my photos in my profile and you will see only one picture showing only a sliver of teeth

[Janice1948]

I have always been a "happy" person. My voice even exudes that. I've had people say to me on the telephone "what are you so happy about". I checked my pictures in male mode and found some smiles. I then checked my pictures enfemme and found a smile in each of them. Dressing does bring the best in me. Hugs, Janice

[Crystal Galadriel]

I always smile for pictures in guy mode, have never taken pictures in girl mode. My smile is kind of a half-smile, the left side of my mouth moves a lot more than my right, I don't know why. I show teeth for pictures, but again, more on the left than the right. I generally don't smile when I'm just out and about unless I'm specifically in a GOOD mood instead of just a normal mood. Normal mood, I'm relatively straight-faced. It's just easier on my face to be relaxed most of the time, but I'll definitely show the happiness when I'm feeling it.

[Fab Karen]

As I've said before, living in a metropolis, if I had a dollar for every woman who isn't smiling, I'd be rich. Humans smile or don't based on how they're feeling, or what they may be thinking about. It isn't about gender.

[Sam-antha]

Karen has the right idea on this subject. I have just been through a pile of photos and it seems that smiles are rare things, at least in the streets that I have been snapped in.

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In this one, I was waiting for whoever took the pic to get on with it, impatient that was me...but then perhaps she was waiting for me to smile. lol. The other variation that I have come up with is that the closer I was to the camera, then the more likely a smile was....
There we have it, street smiling seems rare and personal smiling varies according to the circs of the pic.
I smile tho', when I see this one, taken in the subway, where people do not smile.

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~Samm

[Patti Remick]

Hi all,
Thanks for the responses so far. Just to clear I was mostly speaking about smiling for pictures. It seems men dont smile for pictures as much where most women almost alway smile for pictures. As far a walking down the street most people, female or male, do not smile unless interacting with another person - even a stranger and only for a moment. But (as already mentioned) in that situation more women will smile than men.

Luv and Hugs to all,
Patti Remick

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

Never had good bright teeth, poor dental habits, so I learned not to smile alot. Now as I dress more and many of my friends here have said, I should smile more, so with every new picture I take I try to smile more. Hope my Avatar shows a smile.

[Teri Jean]

I try to smile as much as possible but there are times where it isn't going to happen. But dressed it is easy because I'm having fun. Keli

[Alice B]

You have to love it when you can dress, so why not smile and be the happy woman you are. Smile make you feel better and live longer.

[Marshchild]

One of the things the OP asked was whether people felt as if they'd been conditioned not to smile as part of their male upbringing. I can't say that was really the case for me, for I was often told I had a "beautiful" smile and that I should have shown it more. Little seems to have changed since then, for I'm often told I don't smile nearly as much as I should; indeed, people often tell me I look really pissed off about something. The trouble is, though, that that's usually not intentional - it just seems to be the "default mode" for my face (and as I'll sometimes remind people when they complain about me looking grumpy, I can't see the expression on my face!). I usually don't smile for photos either, mainly because I think I look like a dork when I do (in fact, most of the time, I hate having my picture taken full stop). Oh well, at least I probably smile more than my avatar!

[Lilith Moon]

In my photo collection the pics I took after following advice from this forum about smiling look much more femme. The difference is amazing. Since then I have made an attempt to smile more often in real life in both femme and male modes. It really does make a difference to how people relate and costs absolutely nothing. So, here's a few freebies for you all:

[erickka]

I tend to smile when in femme mode, since I am happier than in male mode. Guess it is a natural thing.

[carolinewalker_2000]

I try and smile whenever my photo is being taken. However, it is certainly the case that it comes more easily when I am in "Caroline mode".

[Sarasometimes]

I made a similar post a few weeks back and agree about male and female smiling habits. For men to smile at another male it can be misunderstood. For women it doesn't have that same meaning. I find that i do look much more feminine when I smile. It gives me some semblance of cheekbones. I am learning to smile when enfemme, even when i am nrvous about my surroundings. It does help make you blend for sure. i did it a lot wheni was in Walmart and I felt much better doing it.

[unclejoann]

It doesn't seem to come naturally, but I will work on it.

[Celeste]

I think smiling raises the apples of your cheeks and shows your blush better.Its also contagious,you can brighten someones day and then they pass it on down the line to another.

[Jonianne]

I have a difficult time showing a smile for a picture even though I am smiling, it just doesn't show very well.

In real life my smile apparently shows - both male and female mode - because I get so many smiles in return.