Hey Girls, HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've been waiting for it and it happened last night.
My wife decided to tell me she doesn't like me spending so much time on the forum chatting and reading the articles. I spend between 1.5 - 2 hours every evening browsing the net, of that about 1 - 1.25 hours on the forum.
I told her about 10 days ago that i had been chatting to you girls, and could tell straight away that she wasn't too keen, although nothing was said. I didn't want to hide it from her as i enjoy my time here.
I'll help her out with whatever first if there's things to do around the house, and i stay in the same room on my laptop at the dining table whilst she watches TV, so we still chat to one another about whatever. I've made a point of not shutting myself away. She has always been fairly domineering in the relationship and i have been happy to just go along with it for a quiet life, though we do argue like a normal couple from time to time. This feels like she's exercising her control again.
What shocked me was the comment -" I feel like you're browsing a porn site".
Oh Dear - This tells me alot. She obviously thinks that this is some kind of fetish thing for me, or a way to get my rocks off.
After 22 years, she still hasn't worked it out that that is not the case. I tried explaining how it helps, but this didn't work. We ended up being fairly cool after that, and although she's out tonight and i can take part on the forum, i don't like doing stuff she wants me to stop. She hasn't seen the forum as she hasn't shown any interest - in case i think she's encouraging it, i guess. I know she won't like me posting pics of myself as she's always been keen for me to keep it to myself. She hated it when i told some of our close friends.
Jeez, i thought i had it cracked by finding you lot and being open with her about it.
Can anyone suggest anything that might help? She definitely won't want to join or have anything to do with the forum.