Today I just returned from a 1 1/2 week vacation. This morning my HR manager called me into her office to give me my paycheck from the previous week and asked me to sit down, she needed to talk to me about a delicate issue.
Just a little background, since Halloween 2007 when I dressed up as IT Jane I have been dressing a little more feminine, blouse's and pull on pants with no pockets and since Halloween 2008 have been wearing more outwardly feminine appearing blouse's with necklace and bracelets. I have also started wearing makeup, mascara and occassionally eye shadow. I still wear men's clothes from time to time. I have never worn a dress or skirt except the past two Halloweens.
Well, she wanted to ask me if I was transitioning, because she overheard some people make negative comments about me and wanted to tell me that if I am intending to transition, that the Company and the HR dept would be supportive of me. She continued to ask if anyone has said anything negative to me, which I replied "no". I suspect certain people may have made comments behind my back, but it doesn't bother me yet. She also asked why I wear makeup and dress in feminine blouse's and since I was caught off guard with this moment all I could say is that since Halloween when I was dressed up, that I feel I look better with the makeup on and that people have said I look much younger. As far as the clothes I said I feel more comfortable wearing them then men's fashions.. I did not specifically say I'm Transgendered or a CrossDresser. She also said the issue was discussed with my manager and Dept director, she implied that the issue worked its way to them.. Anyway, heres my quandary.
What should I do at this point? Since I was not completely forthcoming with my HR person (Caught off guard) should I write her a letter telling her that yes, I am a Transgendered person, that I have been crossdressing for 40+ yrs and that right now transitioning is not in the cards for me. And see where the cards fall. I have not spoken with my immediate supervisor or Dept Director yet and they have not called me as yet. I have been a good Employee since I started working here.
I have attached a couple of picture's showing my typical work day appearance, plus one from a year or so ago for comparison. I think all will see that I looked bad a year ago, but I really need advice from people who have transitioned in their work or who wear feminine clothes to work on a regular basis.
I ask all my kind sisters to offer whatever advice they have. Kimberly