Fantasy - sexual - blend in - how do you dress

[JoAnne Wheeler]

When we dress, do we do so to create our FANTASY WOMAN or do we dress to look like our thoughts about how a SEXY WOMAN should look or do we dress to BLEND IN WITH REAL WOMEN ???????? Maybe I'm just getting old, but 9 times out of 10, I want to dress to BLEND IN. If we go outside, don't we want to BLEND IN with real GGs in hopes that we will pass ??? From so many of the photgraphs that have been posted, it looks like we are so OVERDRESSED that we would stand out in a crowd and/or we are so SEXUALLY DRESSED that we look like we work in a *****house.

What are your thoughts on this and is it important to try to BLEND IN ?

Love,

JoAnne Wheeler

[tricia_uktv]

Not a smple answer to this one. It depends on my mood, what I am doing and the time of day. I definately dress more provocatively in the evening when going to night clubs etc.

[deja true]

I like to dress like a woman on the street for the most part, but she's gotta be a fashionable woman, not a Walmart drone! Think Beverly Hills casual, not Peoria casual!

(no offense to Peoria!)

As for the sexy bits, what's underneath those (stylish) skinny jeans and that (slightly tight) leopard print top is my business, not for public consumption!

Give me kitten heels over tennis shoes any day!

[Kate Simmons]

Most of the time we overblow the whole concept in our own minds. As my wife originally told me matter of factly when I told her I CD'd: "There is nothing glamourous about being a woman." The glitter and glamour part is superfluous and is supplied by us for the most part. The reality of being a woman comes down to a lot of hard(although rewarding) work. We don't see this until we really get into the feelings behind it all.

[cindym5_04]

When I would typically go out, I would try to blend in. This is when I would go to bars, etc, though you can be a little more sexy in those environments. When I've gone to the movies, I've been more toned down in jeans and something conservative yet casual. There's always the point of trying to achieve the look of your fantasy woman at the same time.

On the flip-side, there was a time when I escorted and depending where I was going, I would totally sex-up the look to a high degree.

[Jilmac]

Joanne, A very thought provoking thread indeed. I know many of us overdress and would stand out like a sore thumb in public. I myself, dress to blend in. I don't wish to make a spectacle out of my dressing so I dress in what I consider appropriate attire. I also dress appropriate to my age. As my avatar shows, not too overdone, just a simple feminine appearance.

[Jess_cd32]

I just dress to have fun and enjoy the end result I see in the mirror.
I like the borderline hookerish look as well as a tastefully done sexy look, still yet to try a conservative look
Would I go out in public dressed like that, nooooooooo, I think it would attract to much negative attention.

I also am attracted to sexy dressed women over conservative ones, the things that caught my eye when I met my SO was her egyption eye makeup and her mode of dress which was classy, but very sexy, she captured my heart in that mini

I dress basically the same I like my SO to dress, she just needs more convincing now than I do, a lot more! and I usually hear no way!

[TommiTN]

Joanne, A very thought provoking thread indeed. I know many of us overdress and would stand out like a sore thumb in public. I myself, dress to blend in. I don't wish to make a spectacle out of my dressing so I dress in what I consider appropriate attire. I also dress appropriate to my age. As my avatar shows, not too overdone, just a simple feminine appearance.

[Deborah Jane]

I dress to blend in and i would too....If i went out in a "Red light district"

[Katrina red nails]

I could never dress as my fantasy woman as i could never afford all that black leather. No for me its because i enjoy the feel of the clothes and the relaxed comfortable feelings it gives me. Also as jess said earlier enjoy looking at the end result inthe mirror (although i look more at the neck down than the face)

[Nadia-Maria]

I dress primarily to look feminine in my eyes.

When I get a result that I am very pleased to, I take a picture or a little video what will allow me to recall forever that good event.

Then I post the pic or the video at my Flickr site and I enjoy very much whenever it happens that the pic or video is positively rated (say, more than 1000 views).
In that case, I believe to have given as much pleasure to some others at watching as I have got for myself at dressing.

The best results (pleasing me and pleasing others as well) are reached when I dress :
. either feminine, elegant and classy
. or feminine and sexy and looking like a "goodgirl"
. or as a tomboy in the mountains.

[Paula G]

How I dress really depends on how I feel and what I want to look like for the night, whether I want to be elegant, sexy, dressy, or just around the house casual. I do try to dress for my age, though.

[Christine Hanes]

I'm all over the place on this one. I am still exploring why I enjoy being Christine as much as I do.

Primarily I enjoy the feel of the clothes, I find it very sensual and relaxing. So I guess you could say that is somewhat sexual, and really relates to my undergarmets. As far as what happens over my undergarmets I would say I try to blend in. But I tend to want to "blend in" at more fancy dressier events in my fantasies as I dont go out in public. I do have more casual outfits that I can lounge around the house in though.

What it all boils down to is. .. it makes me happy to dress.

[Karren H]

Well its not sexual.. And no way am I the woman of my dreams.... And I don't blend in.. So what else is there? I just like to wear womens clothing and play with makeup and hair... And shop!!

Yeah!!

Add "I love to crossdress because I love to shop". Lol

[Lorileah]

Lori dresses to turn heads. OMG I just referred to me in the third person! I am such a Princess

[StevieTV]

I regularly go out dressed to blend although girls will check out each other so I make sure I have something unique to stand out a bit. I find that wearing leather pants aren't as common this season. I still wear my red pair though and have compliments from GG about them.

[Toni_Lynn]

At home -- its just to be like every other girl -- your normal boring -- ABBA said in Thank You for the Music: 'nothing special, in fact I'm a bit of bore'.

But when the romantic sparks fly with my wife, well, that another story, and it depends on where it takes us, from tomboy to princess.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[Kate Jennings]

I don't see a disconnect between being my "fantasy woman" and blending in. I try to do both. The look I go for, however, is, at least for me, the kind of woman I am attracted to. Is it I love myself? lol

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I try to blend in and generally dress fairly conservatively. I do wear heels all the time when I go out so that's not the norm for most woman, that's my only real departure.
I have gone to shops that have woman model lingerie for you and I try the lingerie on and get comments about how it looks on me from the girls, you can't believe the rush you get from this experience. I guess that I am a little "out there" at times.

[Joanne f]

At first with not quite knowing what was going on there was quite a lot of fantasy dressing but as things moved on the need to dress over rode the fantasy part so now it is what i feel comfortable in plus looking sensible yet bit of a style of my own (you can`t dress mutton up as lamb)

[renee k]

I dress to blend in and that depends on the venue. My tastes in clothes are a classy tailored look.

Huggs, Renee

[Nicki B]

We have to pick just one?


Surely 'all of the above', depending on how we feel and the occasion..

[Rochelle Exploration]

[SIZE="2"]For me my goal is to blend in with those around me. I certainly don't aspire to be a pole dancer and don't choose to dress like one. I just want to be able to go about life as me, as how I really feel I am.

Now that said in photos I may appear overdressed at times, but aren't most people? For the most part aren't photos of special occassions? The family get togethers, weddings, dances, etc where one would be dressed to the nines. So often I believe photos may not be reflective of the person in everyday life. [/SIZE]

[Christina Nicole]

When I dress, it's to go out like any woman. Talbots had an advertising slogan a few years ago that sums up my style philosophy, "Stand out, don't stick out."

I guess this topic ties into the Autogynephilia one? Isn't what Blanchard was describing the "fantasy woman"?

Warm regards,
Christina Nicole

[Sara Jessica]

I like to dress like a woman on the street for the most part, but she's gotta be a fashionable woman, not a Walmart drone! Think Beverly Hills casual, not Peoria casual!

(no offense to Peoria!)

As for the sexy bits, what's underneath those (stylish) skinny jeans and that (slightly tight) leopard print top is my business, not for public consumption!

Give me kitten heels over tennis shoes any day!

Very well said, this describes me as well...couldn't have put it any better myself!!!