Inquiring Minds Want To Know - Week 1

[Lexine]

1) The act of wearing feminine clothing does nothing for me. The act of pretending to be someone entirely different than who I am does. Being "Lexi" is a form of escapism for me and can allow me to not think about things in my normal life, even for a time being. There are more reasons to this, but I think this is the primary reason why I do this.

2) Yes. My potential SO knows my dressing habit and loves that I have a sense of fashion for both sets of outfits (male/female).

3) I am attracted to my partner more than my girl-side, seeing as my girl-side is just a different manifestation of my personality. To me, my girl side can never replace the warmth and affection I get from a partner who is NOT me.

[Teddie]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

It's me.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Very. She actually enjoys mt dressing.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Yes. I do love both, but my SO more.

[pj]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Ay, yi yi - what? I wish I knew. The need is just there. I don't remember a time when it wasn't.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I am now. When I wasn't, I think it had a very negative impact on our relationship. I had a therapist once who told me about a hundred times, "Secrets are poison." Why did he keep telling me that, I wonder? Ha. But the secret was poison, and I think it caused me to keep a certain distance that I no longer feel is there.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I love my girlfriend more than my girl side. But I put her ahead of me in everything. It's one of the reasons I waited a long time to tell her.

[AmandaM]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

To try to feel like a girl/express femininity from deep inside.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Yes, she knows everything.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I am not attracted to my girl side. But I am turned on by the thought of being a woman during sex. For my partner, she's a former college cheerleader, so I have a lot to desire.

[Annaliese2010]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
A) It is a 'place' to go - a sort of escape from loneliness or boredom.
B) It is a safe place - a sort of sanctuary - especially when it seems everything's going wrong, or when I'm uncertain and unsure about things.
C) It's fun and sexually gratifying because I can be the woman I don't have or never met or did meet but then lost.

Of those three interrelated reasons, I would say 'B' is the most important, I guess. Ah...what can I say? It's lonely at the top. Truly it is.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
A) I don't have ANY kind of SO at the moment, nor have I been with anyone for years. Baby...I'm about as a-the-fc-lone as a human being can GET and still remain 'sane'. And me a Scorpio no less! Can you IMAGINE what THAT'S like? However, fact is, this year sometime - hopefully by July, I'm getting divorced from a 'wife' I've been separated from for a long time now i.e. living under separate roof, miles apart, having no 'relations' for years...
B) But if I had a suitable SO I wouldn't be engaged in any of this anymore - I would stop completely. Given that fact, I wouldn't be predisposed to inform her of what I was doing before - cuz this here 'now' would immediately become 'back then'.
C) On the other hand, if for some reason it came out that she sort of wanted me to be a girl sometimes, as a sort of role-reversal thing in bed or something - I'd obviously be willing to do it after having gone through all this i.e after already having so much 'practice' being a girl and such. But I'd be doing it for her - to please her - not me - though as I say, it wouldn't bother me like it would most guys who wouldn't even consider such a thing. Not saying I wouldn't enjoy it with her like that, but the enjoyment would primarily come from pleasing her, and knowing, hearing, feeling how it did.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
A) Don't have an SO...
B) If and when I do, then no, I would NOT be attracted to my girly-side. In fact, she will evaporate like a San Francisco morning mist at sunrise in midsummer...and soon become a memory trace that fades just as fast - and i won't miss her one damn bit. Amen!
C) Why? because how could Annaliese possibly hold any interest at all to me, when my babe carries what I need - and most desperately seek! Ya know? I mean WHAT on gods green earth can top that?
D) And aside from the physical appeal - she (my SO to be) offers real friendship and intimacy; a real GG wins hands-down, over the imagined 'woman' in me - even if she is based on some feminine tendency in me that I may have been born with. Be that as it may - still doesn't change the fact that Annaliese pales by comparison. Believe me, I know what alone is all about...and sleeping alone in bed as Annaliese or the guy I am just doesn't compare to some hot babe sleeping next to me...what with all her real-life complexity and unpredictability. Sheeeah!

[Sallee]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It is fun, a turn on, I like it, Feel pretty, Like what I look like sometimes. No no 1 reason

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
For the most part yes She tolerates it So I don't get in her face with my dressing but I don't hide it to much either I guess you could say "Don't ask Don't tell"

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Yes definitely because there is more to me than just my girl side As there is to her. But It is apart of me with out a doubt

[Lola Boubee]

1. It is fun and there is a certain undescribable thrill to it all.

2. Yes, she knows and even enjoys it from time to time.

3. She is the love of my life, and I think it helps our relationship because I do have a bit of a Fem. understanding.

[Dana]

Why do I like dressing in women's clothes?

I very much attracted to women, femininity and all things feminine and have been since a young age. I believe women have much more choices and options than men. Being feminine and getting girly is fun.

I once got so pent up that I traveled 50 miles and went shopping. It was so much fun ~ and I finally understood why women like to shop so much ~ even if they don't buy anything.

I like the fabrics, the choices, the options.

Bottom line is that girls just like fun ~ and its fun being a girl.

I don't have a SO and living in the rural South doubt that I will ever find a woman accepting of my cross dressing. I've resigned myself to accepting the fact that I will be single and alone for the rest of my life. I will probally have to leave enough money in my will to hire six wino's to carry me to my grave?

But I have no disillusions of such ~ should I marry again or live with another GG? It would only be a matter of time before I wanted to, desired to, needed to dress ~ nay ~ get girly

I realize this may come as shock to some ~ but I did choose to be a cross dresser, and if I had my choice? I would not be one.

But whenever I walk through the Lady's department of JC Penny's or near a Merle Norman store? Or watch QVC or HSN? It drives me bonkers.

Its a double edge sword in that I'm not gay or bisexual? I'm simply not physically, emotionally, mentality, sexually attracted toward men.

I would guess the best way to describe it is that I'm a lip-stick lesbian trapped in a man's body"

[DeSkirt]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I think it is because I find women and their sexy clothing a turn on. I feel I use my cross dressing as a way to compensate for the lack of sex I wish we had.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I was totally open with my (current) wife before we were married. This is my 2nd marriage. I pressed her to make sure this was OK with her because I felt it was a major contributer to my first marriage ending and I did not want to do that again. She said it was fine with her. She was involved with my dressing while we were dating and said she had fun with it. She bought me cloths and saw me totally dressed several times. After a good friend of hers told her she heard a rumor about me "cross dressing" She no longer wanted anything to do with it. I am very disappointed because I asked her specifically how she would feel if her family or friends found out about my dressing before we were married and she said it was none of their business. I feel she told me what I wanted to hear just so i would marry her. I do not feel as close to her as I was before this happened. I have a problem do things for her that i don't want to do, because I feel she does not accept me the way I am.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

Absolutely! I have a strong sex drive and I would like to make love to her ( I have slowed down some since I turned 50) every day. I don't feel my wife is as affectionate as I would hoped she would be. I feel I use my cross dressing as a way to compensate for the lack of sex I wish we had. I have no desire to cheat on her, but I am frustrated and I resent the fact that she no longer is involved in my cross dressing.


I hope this helps someone in some way.

[Veronica Lacey]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

I feel relaxed when wearing such things.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I am as open and honest as she allows me to be. She is tolerant but not interested in participating. Due to this I cannot discuss all that I think and feel about dressing without the risk of distancing her.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I think this question asks whether or not I am attracted to my wife as much as I am attracted to my girl side, yes? Well, I am not really attracted to my "girl side" (I am a guy in a dress and do not feel all that feminine when I do dress) but I sure find my wife as lovely and beautiful as ever, inside and out.

[Cheryl James]

1. I am not sure I have a #1 reason for dressing. I have felt that I should have been a girl since I was at least 3 years old. Dressing in female clothes relaxes me and allows me to be myself, or at least how I picture that I want to be.

2. No, I am not open and honest about my desires. My wife know of this side of me and hates, did I say hates, it with a passion. I'm not sure that our marriage is going to survive and this is one of the major reasons why. I wish I could be honest but her views are so rigidly opposed to anything that is, remotely, out of the ordinary. Is it her fault? Is it my fault? Perhaps we both married the wrong person.

3. My dressing has caused a wall to be erected between us. So, I am no longer attracted to her. I am attracted to women, but, sadly, not her. I'm not sure I can answer whether I am attracted to myself. Sometime, when things fall into place, I think I look OK and I am pleased. That is not always the case, though. I'm not sexually attracted to myself, if that is the intent of the question.

[Dana]

1. I am not sure I have a #1 reason for dressing. I have felt that I should have been a girl since I was at least 3 years old. Dressing in female clothes relaxes me and allows me to be myself, or at least how I picture that I want to be.

2. No, I am not open and honest about my desires. My wife know of this side of me and hates, did I say hates, it with a passion. I'm not sure that our marriage is going to survive and this is one of the major reasons why. I wish I could be honest but her views are so rigidly opposed to anything that is, remotely, out of the ordinary. Is it her fault? Is it my fault? Perhaps we both married the wrong person.

3. My dressing has caused a wall to be erected between us. So, I am no longer attracted to her. I am attracted to women, but, sadly, not her. I'm not sure I can answer whether I am attracted to myself. Sometime, when things fall into place, I think I look OK and I am pleased. That is not always the case, though. I'm not sexually attracted to myself, if that is the intent of the question.

So sorry for thart Hell.

As much as I hate the SOB that stole my wife away from me? I wouldn't wish the Hell He put upon me?

[corrinediane]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
First it was the sexual turn on then it was because I felt better being dressed like a girl.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
I was but it became a problem that wasn't talked about. I think it was the beginning of the end.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
Oh yea

[RozalynLove]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

As well as liking the look and feel of certain items of clothing that are designed for men, I also like the look and feel of certain items that are designed for women, and it seems incredibly silly that I should miss out on getting to wear them all because the designer did not take this into consideration when deciding who the clothes may appeal to.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

I do not currently have a SO, but I feel it is incredibly important to be open and honest with any potentially romantic partner from fairy early on in getting to know each other, as it eliminates the possibility of them realizing you are not the person they thought you were once you have become attached to having the person in your life.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?

I am not really sure what this question is asking, because although I am hugely attracted to women, I am not attracted to myself in the slightest. I am at times very happy with how I look, perhaps sometimes even proud of how I look, but I am never sexually aroused by it.

[BobbiU]

1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?

Not totally sure. Been attracted to pantyhose and panties for over 30 years. It is a turn on for me, and now, when I wear lingerie and nighties at night, it makes our relationship in the bedroom so much better. I'm more affectionate to her, and more willing to do what she needs.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?

Mostly, I she is supportive, and encourages , however, she has commented about how strange it is for guys to wear Bra's or makeup, so I have not gone that far with her, and let her know my desire for that YET. No affect on our relationship, she's allowing me to dress part time at home, so I am more then appreciative of that.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
YES