So true. We are only truly real in real life....maybeOriginally Posted by famousunknown
So true. We are only truly real in real life....maybe
I worry about a few of my friends who post stuff on my girl fb page.
I agree, anyone can be anything on the internet but I disagree we aren't real unless we meet up in real life. I read things here and there and wonder if it truly is a sister trying to come to terms with things or an admirer trying to get their rocks off.
I personally enjoy the interaction with my sister's and the GG's here on the forum. We have a great community here and shares a lot of things we otherwise might not and certainly couldn't before the internet. With every bushel though there are bound to be a few bad apples, and not every train stays on the tracks.
All we can really do is offer some small support and wish each other the best on this ride
Flip Flops were made for Beaches & Bath Houses, We have neither in 2017. Lose the flip flops!
Frankly, I know many caring men who are compassionate, level headed, and are not cross dressers. I also know many women who are Grade A bitches and backstabbers. Being compassionate is hardly a 'downside' of life. You're giving cross dressing men too much credit for being compassionate.
I think you make an excellent point. However if we take this to its logical conclusion then we are no longer a support forum are we?
Kudos Andrea, your summed it up beautifully. Suzy1 you have a good heart but there are many that come and go on these forums sometimes they just move on and other times life just gets in the way and they don't have time. I know I have been in that situation where other things take a priority.
Somtimes the light's all shining on me, Other times I can barely see.
Lately it's occured to me.....What a long strange trip it has been.
Truckin by the Grateful Dead
You make a good point EllenJo
It's not Silly at all to worry. While people do come and go, it is sad when we lose contact with a longtime internet friend or acquaintance. I've lost contact with more than a few over the years.
One thing you might try is seeing if the person is involved in some other online trans community.
Veronica
If you believe in it, makeup has a magic all it's own -- Sooner or Later (TV movie)
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?- Marianne Williamson
Have I also not said that "This Thing of Ours" makes some of us a bit "Barefoot in the Head"? Well, it does.
Gee Veronica - know of any?
Kathi
It is what it is. When someone says they're "worrying" about someone on this forum....unless you've met the person in question in real life, you really have no clue. I can assure you that there are more game players right here in your midst than you can shake a stick at. Words in cyber space. Truthfully, it's not much more than that.
And then there are those who say that a person who cares has low self esteem. I said it and knew it was true for me.Suzy it just shows you care.
FYI I've done the pink cloud. It lasted about five months. It was a great ride. A large luggage case of great clothes that I'm not likely to wear for a while but knowledge that I can wear them and how. A touch of the feminine side comes back to me whenever I want it. I love fabrics and make kilts, and elaborate miniature draperies.
Pink Cloud University. It was like going to school for me. I'll always be partial to the school colors...or colours. I can wear pink, perhaps, but only with accents of black and some other striking color.
No, Suzy, caring is not a weakness. Not caring is the weakness. And those damn boys just don't care. Male side calling. Have to go.
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I totally agree with this. I've hung out with CD's in real life that I don't know anything about, I wouldn't even recognize them in "male mode" so would you consider someone a friend if you didn't know their real name, or what they really looked like?
People on the forum are only real in the sense that they communicate back to me but I have no way of knowing if they are being truthful. They could be 50 year old men in dresses as far as I know. ;-)
What do you think? Of course I do, have accounts on a few, mHB, trueselves, pinkessence and crossdresserclub most notably, but that is what "Let Me Google That For You" is for. :-)Gee Veronica - know of any?
http://bit.ly/WMB5iE
http://bit.ly/WMBce6
I don't know, while I have no doubt there are some, I don't think it's "more than one can shake a stick at".
Veronica
If you believe in it, makeup has a magic all it's own -- Sooner or Later (TV movie)
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?- Marianne Williamson
Have I also not said that "This Thing of Ours" makes some of us a bit "Barefoot in the Head"? Well, it does.
Sephanie47 is right. There are compassionate non CDing men, and cruel men. Kind and compassionate women and, mean, nasty women. I used to take in homeless people who begged me for a place to stay.
Most were bad experiences. I have had four or five non crossdressing men and women die in the last month or so. Some who live alone, or in hostile marriages are very lonely, including me. But, i am a little wiser now. I cannot live another's life FOR them, anymore. My life is still a dysfunctional work in profress, too. I will have to go care for my intolerant, unhappy, miserable 92 year old father again , in a week from now. I will need support then, or
or i might end it all. Suzy1 , you are a lovely person. Pink fog nearly got me in a lot of trouble several yrs ago. I hope your friend balances out.
That's the beauty of this. You can believe in all the fantasy you want. That's probably why fictionmania is so popular.
Suzi, its near imposible to get someone to slow down when they make up their minds. All you can do is support them as best as you are able and roll with the results. I dont get anyone from here pming me at all other than to say hi. On FB I know a few girls out there, but again, communication is sporadic. Keep helping cause they need people like you out there
(Formerly known everywhere as Lady Zarabeth
If you exchange PM's with a member as Suzy described you should know if they're the real deal. Then there's the photo gallery to back them up. I doubt many people put fake pictures up.
I would never say that. I personally know people who have had fantasy lives on the internet for many years. Why do you think I make such a big deal about being real? Melissa Hobbes are my legal first and middle names, I want people to know that even if you don't like what I'm saying, I at least have the courage of my convictions. I can never run away from my comments here or on FB or my blog, I am unquestionably and verifiably the real deal. Anything less is suspect.
Well Melissa I can't fathom why anybody needs to be fake. I do have friends here that I consider real friends but haven't met them in person. I don't need to fake anything except orgasms... eventually.:D
Oh..and I know you're the real deal and I like that about you.
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That wasn't about grammar but whatever works for you.Thanks mr. grammar police.I'll leave it just to bug you.
Then we agree to disagree as usual...
Good of you to invest your time in others, Suzy. I think that's very noble and sweet. Unfortunately, we sometimes have to be OK with giving more than we receive.
To the point made in this threat about being real, some of us lack whatever courage it is that let's us come out fully. Beside, if a man puts on a dress and no one sees it, did it really happen?
One thing to bear in mind, it's really easy to drop from connections on the internet. What you're describing is a common experience, unfortunately. You can have real friendships, but people often don't treat them equally, some people more than others. And it's not a male/female thing -- I've known women to seem close, but change/drop out when something in their real life rises. Oftentimes, for both men and women it means an SO has shown up, so that can be a good thing. Could also be a sudden new job or getting accepted at a doctorate program, something that abruptly absorbs their life for a while, and then when things calm down, they find new ways to spend heir time.
As for the pink fog, it's a good idea to try and slow people down until they get their equilibrium.
It's unfortunate if you think you've developed a connection and they just drop it. Online forums or games are easy to do that with, and the online friends can be collateral damage. Sometimes, they even miss the people they've left behind
It's not unusual for them to show up again. In my experience, only occasionally did something truly bad happen. Sometimes something small.
I wouldn't say fake pictures are common, but we see them now and again. there have been a few to try that here.
A person I considered a friend on these boards lied to the boards in general for quite some time. She claimed she was out to her wife/family and her wire/family was supportive
That turned out to be not true, though it was the person herself who admitted it. I accepted her apology, but lying did affect how I saw/see her.
Compliments and attention. You KNOW how the younger CD's and TS's get fawned over here because their perceived as more passable. Also the moer passable CD's also get more attention. The prettier you are the higher you are in the "pretty hierarchy" here.
"I'm not a pretty young thing but the PYT's get all the compliments and attention...I'll just take this stock model photo and alter it a bit in photoshop."
Here's a good resource:
http://www.tsroadmap.com/info/gog/index.html
And a famous in the transcommunity example:
http://www.tsroadmap.com/info/transk...ira-triea.html
Veronica
If you believe in it, makeup has a magic all it's own -- Sooner or Later (TV movie)
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?- Marianne Williamson
Have I also not said that "This Thing of Ours" makes some of us a bit "Barefoot in the Head"? Well, it does.
Veronica I'm not naive enough to believe fakes are not here among us. The thing is the mods/admins/members do a good job of weeding them out. As for fake pictures I reported one myself that was obviously a picture of a GG. It was promptly removed. I think all MTF's would love to be beautiful enfemme, I know I would. However what you see is what you get when I post a picture and I think that's more the norm here.
Suzy was referring to people she's PM'ed and has gotten to know them. I've made good friends here myself that are the real deal because we've shared multiple PM's and they have friends here to verify.
I guess I just don't want to worry too much about fakes because it ruins my time spent here among good people. That's it.
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